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Trapped toddler parents:"Where else can you post tuff tray pictures and moan about your husband?"

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PinkDaydreams · 20/04/2021 20:37

Following on from the previous thread. Thanks @footprintsintheslow for the thread title inspiration 😁

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BeHereNowx32 · 26/04/2021 17:56

@drumst1ck at least DS was quiet for the library 🙈 hope he was ok when you got home.indo miss taking DD to the library. We used to go to a weekly singing/ story group.

How is everyone toddlers with eating? My DD will only eat snacks. She refuses fruit: veg 95% of the time. I don’t make a big deal out of it, but it definitely makes me feel sooo much mum guilt.

Fingers crossed that everyone has a better night sleep tonight xx

footprintsintheslow · 26/04/2021 18:19

@brokengate we sleep the baby in the pram outside for all the same reasons.

@OhToBeASeahorse have you managed to get your gp at all?

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PinkDaydreams · 26/04/2021 18:27

@BeHereNowx32 my son grazes throughout the day but when he was a baby he had to be fed every couple of hours a small amount as he had gerd and cmpa so I think that's why he eats little and often now.
He's autistic and extremely limited in his food choice. I've recently spoken to his HV and she said to just keep giving what he will eat and carry on with his multi vitamin.

How much water is everyone's toddler having? Son is 3, recently started nursery and when i got him home tonight he drank two big cups of water in 45 minutes so I have a feeling he's not drinking at nursery.

Tried to add in the first paragraph but MN site being stupid and will only add to the end........son eats mainly beige food and hardly any fruit and veg. He has the baby fruit pots and custards as the only 'real' fruit he will eat is bananas.

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Motherofmonsters · 26/04/2021 18:37

DD never really eats her meals, she would rather snack throughout the day. She will eat lots of fruit, cheese, carrots and peas. Not a big fan of carbs.

DS will drink a couple bottles of squash a day or lots of ice lollies made fro squash. If he's just given water he will only have a few sips

Camomila · 26/04/2021 19:15

DS2 is ok at eating...eats standard toddler meals of pesto pasta, plain chicken, scrambled eggs, tiny sandwiches etc and likes fruit but isn't great with veg. Has a nibble then chucks it out of the high chair usually. Luckily nursery lunches are often veggie/chick pea curries. He's always liked drinking water.

I do feel guilty though that we always eat the same dinners rather than introducing him to lots of lovely new things but I finish work at 5.30 so its a case of what can be ready before 6pm. I'm trying to make more effort with healthy food.

MonkeyPuddle · 26/04/2021 19:21

I’m lucky that DS eats almost anything. We don’t do snacks at home really, if he’s badgering he can have a clementine or something. I just give him what we’re having, some nights he eats all of it some nights he doesn’t. He’s not wasting away yet.
I figure his tastebuds are still developing so I can’t expect him to like everything, he’s not got any SEN so I expect good table manners and for him to try things. I don’t withhold dessert (which is randomly given) if he doesn’t eat his main.

MonkeyPuddle · 26/04/2021 19:23

Oh but he hates water at home. As he knows we have squash. Nice aspartame squash. Which to be fair I love as well. But he’ll drink water at nursery.

BeHereNowx32 · 26/04/2021 19:50

Thank you. Seems they are all so different. We don’t sit together at a table, or try different foods (I am also too tired to cook 🙈). So, DD likes to eat crisps and super noodles.

@Camomila your meals sound lovely, and balanced! I would be very happy with DD eating these.

@PinkDaydreams my DD is actually good at drinking water. I couldn’t say exactly how much, but she drinks throughout the day.
I used to work in a nursery, and parents would say the same thing. I think it’s hard to keep an eye on how much they drink while at nursery. Sometimes I give DD a 360 cup to have incase she needs a drink during the night. Although I’m not sure if that’s recommended...

Tomorrow is a day of trying to sort DD bedroom (which doubles up as her playroom lol). Need to encourage some more independent play! 😆 x

Chocolatetrifle · 26/04/2021 19:53

Mine are good eaters and will generally eat what I give them. I give them a beaker of milk and a beaker of water with each meal and they always have water and milk at their level they can reach when they want during the day.

Pudding is always Greek yoghurt with some fresh fruit or a fruit pot. They would eat fruit all day if they could but I think too much of it it can upset their tummies.

They have some toast or cereal for supper as we have tea at 5.

I try not to dwell if they don't finish their meal and always offer the pudding. I've learnt my lesson the hard way as had a terrible mealtime once when DS2 was a baby and DS21 was refusing to eat. I ended up shouting at him to just eat his tea and he ended up crying. Later on he did finish it when heated up but my outburst was completely unnecessary. One of those awful episodes I want to erase from memory so now I try to go with the flow more when I can.

Chocolatetrifle · 26/04/2021 19:56

DS1 that should say not DS21!!!! Omg imagine that!

Camomila · 26/04/2021 21:11

BeHereNowx32 thank you, that's kind of you.

chocolatetrifle My 5 year old comes up to my chest already. I can imagine him at 21 towering over mummy (or at 12 probably)

MonkeyPuddle · 26/04/2021 21:26

I’m sure you all understand and won’t judge me (not too hardly anyway) but DD just won’t sleep again.
I’ve left her with DP, she is fed, warm and cuddled, not in pain, dry nappy but just cries and cries and cries.
I’m sat in the car park of the local park with macflurry listening to the stereophonics.
Just needed to put physical distance between us for a little while.

Chocolatetrifle · 26/04/2021 21:38

@MonkeyPuddle, you've done the right thing. It's ok to take time for yourself. DD may now settle for your DP and be asleep when you get home and you've had a few moments to breathe. Hope you are ok x

Motherofmonsters · 26/04/2021 21:57

No judgement here @monkeypuddle, sometimes you just need to get away and regroup.

OhToBeASeahorse · 26/04/2021 22:31

Oh you poor thing @MonkeyPuddle. This motherhood thing is savage

@PinkDaydreams DS is awful for drinking. I've not tried giving him squash but actually he does like fruit tea so I'll try that more I think.

@footprintsintheslow thank you for asking..I couldn't get through so I'll try again tomorrow. I shouted at DS today and he genuinely looked scared. I'm so frightened I've damaged him. I couldn't be more loving or more expressive with that but I do shout and i know it's not ok.

MonkeyPuddle · 27/04/2021 07:33

DP took the baby all night. He had her downstairs. She slept in her basket and woke hourly but resettled easily. I had eight hours unbroken sleep. Fuck me. It’s been a year since I’ve had this much sleep.
She looks like she’s got another tooth coming through so stopping the sleep training til that’s out.

Today’s plans involve going to a different park than the one we usually do this morning, home for lunch and then off to the library this afternoon.

BeHereNowx32 · 27/04/2021 08:26

@MonkeyPuddle good to hear that you got a break and a good sleep. It’s needed to survive! X

MonkeyPuddle · 27/04/2021 09:49

@BeHereNowx32 absolutely. I think I’ve just got to breaking point with it this past week and something had to give, DP is WFH now so he’s going to have a nap on his lunch break 😂

BeHereNowx32 · 27/04/2021 12:28

I am struggling today! DD was up a lot during the night and it’s raining today, so I refuse to leave the house. But the tv has been on all morning and she will only eat digestive biscuits 🙈🙈

Chocolatetrifle · 27/04/2021 12:45

@MonkeyPuddle, glad you a decent amount of sleep last night. How are you feeling now ? One day at a time.

@BeHereNowx32 , survival, some days it's just about getting to tea time and then to bed time. Just do what you have to do to get through it.

No Instagram moments here today. Went to small library but DS1 kept wanting to run off and do his own thing and DS2 was just screaming to get out of the pram so didn't stay. Then went to the playground and it started raining. It's not rained for ages it feels like.
This morning DS1 snapped all his crayons and threw them then tore the cover off a book. He wants to destroy things at the moment and it's getting me down. I don't know why he's doing it. I think he's testing his own strength. He's 3 and a half now. Perhaps he's bored being home with me, he starts preschool part-time in June. Hoping that will help.

He wants to look round our church gardens this afternoon so we will probably do that. I'm going to get a cuppa first though.

MonkeyPuddle · 27/04/2021 13:20

@BeHereNowx32 just do what gets you though the day. Sometimes I sling DS in the bath randomly in the middle of the afternoon, especially on shit weather days. I take a coffee and my phone and sit on the landing so he’s in sight but he gets distracted with playing, kills an hour.

@Chocolatetrifle yeah I feel better for it, I’ve had a constant headache for the last week which has eased with some sleep. I’ve been completely spoiled with DS who was born a good sleeper, DD I feel has been sent to test me.

We’ve been to the park, was nice, met a local woman and her son who was 4 in Jan just gone, she was telling me he’s ‘behind’ at nursery as he doesn’t know how to rhyme words or how to write properly! Surely that’s more advanced than nursery school! Cos DS doesn’t do any of that as it hasn’t crossed my mind that he was anything other than average!

MonkeyPuddle · 27/04/2021 13:22

Fat fingers, posted too soon.
@Chocolatetrifle the destructive thing sounds like a pain, would he be channeled into something like mud play in the garden? Or tower blocks making?

DS must have known I said he was a good eater as he’s not eaten his lunch, despite it being his fave sarnie I made....

Chocolatetrifle · 27/04/2021 13:27

@MonkeyPuddle, ugh,' behind at nursery', poor lad. Why's his mum saying that at all? Does she not realise how ridiculous that sounds!

Glad you feel a bit better today.

Chocolatetrifle · 27/04/2021 13:32

@MonkeyPuddle, I think that's it, he's not great at playing by himself, plus his little brother winds him up at times! I think he gets like that when he's tired as other times he's fab and will get stuck in to all sorts of activities. He loves the outdoors and sorting the garden out etc. Hoping it's just a phase!

BeHereNowx32 · 27/04/2021 15:50

@MonkeyPuddle thanks for the suggestion.DD did have a middle of the day bath! (We tried to do painting in the bath first, which ended in a massive tantrum!) back on her tablet after some drawing and stickers. I’m doing ivf just now and I think the hormones are getting to me today. Just no motivation!

Children only need to be playing in pre school. 🙈 that’s how they learn!

@Chocolatetrifle it sounds like @Monkeypuddle has some good suggestions. It so hard when there isn’t much to do just now.