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Trapped toddler parents:"Where else can you post tuff tray pictures and moan about your husband?"

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PinkDaydreams · 20/04/2021 20:37

Following on from the previous thread. Thanks @footprintsintheslow for the thread title inspiration 😁

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MonkeyPuddle · 21/04/2021 10:16

Morning all! DS was taken to nursery this morning while me and DD napped together in bed. First bloody nap of the day was at 8 am. So that tells you what time we woke up this morning!

@Motherofmonsters I’ve never night weaned a BF baby, DS was on formula but with him we spent about a week with more disgruntled waking and me stroking his face with a lovey. Don’t look on things as a failure, you’re meeting her needs, even if it’s it’s like torture to yourself x

@drumst1ck 8 days old! And you’re getting out of the house! Hero!!!

@DefinitelyOdd fuck me that sounds haaaaaaaard. We’ve got another long thread with various ideas (and lots of chatting), I’ll find the long so you can have a browse. My number one go to resource for entertaining my Ratbag is the 5 minute mum website and books

We’re not doing much today, DD has mastered rolling and is now trying to crawl so I’m making the most of being able to safely leave her on the play mat and be useful around the house. Going to pop some water in a baking tray for her to splash her pudgy little hands in.

I’m meeting two other local mums on Friday, via the local Facebook page. Like a blind date for mid 30’s mums. We’ve not lived here too long and with lockdown I don’t know anyone, I feel a bit daft meeting up with strangers. But we’re going for a walk in the park and for take out coffee.

DD has just rolled from one side of the room to the other. God. I’m going to have to actually parent her now.

Motherofmonsters · 21/04/2021 10:31

@monkeypuddle, I've done meet ups like that in the past. I used the app Mush which I called mummy tinder. It's a little bit strange but I had a few good afternoons out and about. I've lost contact with them over the lockdowns but I'm always tempted to do some more.

My friends coming over in a minute with her 4week old baby, I'm very excited to meet him. DD has fallen asleep so I might even get to have a full conversation

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MonkeyPuddle · 21/04/2021 10:41

@Motherofmonsters ah that’s good to know. I think there’s a lot of women behind closed doors feeling lonely and isolated with small children. I’m going back to work in 2 months and have a very social job which is how I usually meet my needs for social interaction.

MonkeyPuddle · 21/04/2021 10:42

Enjoy the squishy baby! And the conversation!
I’ve got DD back on the boob with sleepy eyes so I’ve put Downton Abbey on, haven’t watched it before.

Chocolatetrifle · 21/04/2021 10:48

@DefinitelyOdd, oh no, that sounds like such a lot to cope with at once, hope you are ok?

@MonkeyPuddle, that sounds like a fab idea to meet up with other mums. Let us know how it goes. I always get talking to mums at the playgrounds and it does help.

@Motherofmonsters, ahhh, newborn cuddles, the lovely newborn smell. Hope you have a good time.

Chocolatetrifle · 21/04/2021 10:53

@MonkeyPuddle, I love Downton! Enjoy the rest and sit down.

Grandad is here reading to DS1 , hurrah! I'm playing pom poms, pegs and playdoh with DS2. We had our morning buggy board trek to the duck pond and playground. It's so hard at the moment as both boys want to run off in different directions!

Camomila · 21/04/2021 12:24

I've never managed to night wean a breastfed baby either, DS1 was 3 and got weaned cold turkey poor thing - I was on anti sickness tablets when pg with DS2. He was very sad but at least could understand me.

@DefinetelyOdd try not to worry, of all my parent friends I can only think of 1 that hasn't had to take at least one day off work due to Covid19/testing.

@MonkeyPuddle enjoy Downton. It's a great series.

Day off today so DS2 and I went to the park and had a picnic lunch, we're home now and he's sleeping on my lap. I might have picnic lunches every Wednesday from now on - he eats so much more when he is outside and now cleaning up for me.

MonkeyPuddle · 21/04/2021 12:41

@Chocolatetrifle I always chat to other mums at the park, it’s nice just to connect with another person isn’t it. I will need all hints and tips about how to keep two children safe when DD is mobile!!

@Camomila picnic sounds lovely. I bought a new picnic blanket from Asda and we were all on it in the garden for ages. I also piled all the crap that needed to come back inside in the middle and carried it back in on it, saved multiple trips!
We have picnic dinner every few weeks, essentially instead of eating at the table I chick a blanket on the floor and we eat there instead, DS absolutely loves it! And it’s exactly zero effort.

Have decided to start weaning DD, she’s about a week off 6mo, can sit, no tongue thrust and eyes our plates like a ravenous beast. Plus I had a perfectly ripe avocado in the fridge and couldn’t pass up on that once in a lifetime opportunity. She bloody looooooved it. I’m going to try and wean her the same way I did DS, I’ll offer food if I’m eating, fingers crossed it works as well as it did with DS

Trapped toddler parents:"Where else can you post tuff tray pictures and moan about your husband?"
Chocolatetrifle · 21/04/2021 12:57

@MonkeyPuddle, your DD is absolutely gorgeous! She looks like she is really enjoying that avocado! I started weaning a couple of weeks before 6 months too, I couldn't face eating when the little face was just looking at me and staring and obviously thinking what are you doing mummy? I want some of that!

lotionInTheBasket · 21/04/2021 13:42

I am very very late to this but please can I join!

I have twin toddlers who were two in Jan and I'm so missing going to groups with them and I am out of ideas (and energy!)

I work part time and have a 6 year old too but she's back at school now at least.

Motherofmonsters · 21/04/2021 16:43

Aww she looks like she's loving it @monkeypuddle.

I've got a letter through for a check up at a hospital for a minor condition DS had when he was born saying they've been trying to contact me to book an appointment and I've got a week to contact them before they remove him from the list. I've had one phonecall today I missed. I've been trying all day and I'm just on hold for over 30mins each time. They don't even say where I am in the queue. So frustrating

footprintsintheslow · 22/04/2021 03:47

I was lost but now I've found you!

Almost wet myself when I read the title!

Hello everyone new! My name is footprintsintheslow and I like to post tuff tray pictures whilst moaning about my husband.

Motherofmonsters · 22/04/2021 05:09

3.55am wake up! I've tried for over an hour to get her back to sleep but it's not happening. It's going to be the longest day ever...

Chocolatetrifle · 22/04/2021 06:24

@Motherofmonsters, oh no that is absolutely awful. Will DD nap this morning? Hope you get a break and a sit down then. Did you get through to the hospital on the phone in the end? Perhaps there is an email address you can use and say you've been trying all day to get through. I'd raise a complaint, but that's just me as I'm always complaining about poor service!

@footprintsintheslow, glad you are no longer lost!

Motherofmonsters · 22/04/2021 07:15

She will nap this morning so that's something, hopefully DS will be in the mood to let me just sit (probably wishful thinking)

I did get through in the end, I was on hold for nearly an hour while I cooked tea. Annoyingly the only time they have is 5pm and the hospital is over an hour away so that'll be fun for bedtime.

The sun is shining so I've got that going for me today

OhToBeASeahorse · 22/04/2021 10:01

Oh gosh @Motherofmonsters you poor thing! That's not even funny early, that's the middle of the bloody night.

MonkeyPuddle · 22/04/2021 11:02

God that sounds hard @Motherofmonsters

We’re just sat in the car waiting for gymnastics to start. Going to pop to Asda to pick up wrapping paper, a card and buns for DSD’s birthday tea tonight. Which DP said he would do...

I have a feeling we are needing a conversation about wife work coming up. He reached burn out a few weeks ago as he didn’t book any time off for months, and this morning when he found me in tears after a shit night with DD, while changing her clothes for the 3rd time (fuck you reflux) with DS ‘helping’ take the washing out the machine (all over the kitchen floor which I can’t remember when I last mopped).
Apparently I should organise an afternoon tea with my mum. Except that’s more effort and time and money. All things I don’t have.
He said he’d wash the bathroom, but forgot, so I have to remind him. And he gets annoyed with me ‘nagging’ well don’t bloody say you’ll do something and then forget! I don’t want the kids in a mucky bath!

Chocolatetrifle · 22/04/2021 12:43

@MonkeyPuddle, ah, are you ok? Sounds like you had a tough night too.

I think men just get wrapped up in themselves sometimes that they just can't think beyond their own to do list (eat, eat, eat and eat again) never mind add in house jobs. It's so very frustrating that. Afternoon tea would be a bonus but you just want a clean bathroom and floor to take that off your list. Will it it help if you just assigned him a couple of cleaning things to do each week, tell him the days or stick it on sticky note and put it on his computer! Hope you feel a bit better now. Hope DS enjoyed the gymnastics?

We've been to a farm shop this morning and it was good as they had little trolleys so I let DS1 pick a couple of things, he picked rhubarb and an aubergine !

Thinking this afternoon might be scooter and park but I'd quite like to dye my hair and chop about 5 inches off it instead. Need to book a haircut.

MonkeyPuddle · 22/04/2021 15:20

I think he doesn’t see a lot of things I do, because they just get done without him having to think.

DS also came out with an in context ‘fucks sake’ this afternoon. So I’m definitely winning at parenting lately.

OhToBeASeahorse · 22/04/2021 15:31

Omg that made me snort @MonkeyPuddle

footprintsintheslow · 22/04/2021 18:23

@MonkeyPuddle must be the day for it as my daughter said 'shit' as she dropped her toy today.

Motherofmonsters · 22/04/2021 18:36

Hope you're okay @monkeypuddle, hopefully you can have a productive conversation with DP.

I just absolutely lost all patience and control with DS and ended up really shouted at him. No mummy awards here. I also made DD cry by shouting at her to not lick the hot oven door but I think that was needed

MonkeyPuddle · 22/04/2021 19:07

Jesus have we all had a crappy day 😂
DP and I have talked. We go through this cycle of him pulling his finger out, slacking off, big row and starting all over again.

Anyway, we’ve had DSD over for birthday tea tonight, it’s been nice. She’s a lovely girl, a really lovely girl.

We’ve had fizzy j20 out of wine glasses and had buns.

I made DP take all the kids to drop DSD off home and I had a glass of (alcohol free) wine and a chocolate bun in silence in the kitchen. It was heaven.

DS said ‘fucks sake’ as his new bubble gun (highly recommend - £2 in Asda) wouldn’t shoot. He’s absolutely picked it up from me, it’s something I say. I hope he doesn’t say it at nursery!

Ladies, solidarity 🍷🍷🍷🍷

brokengate · 22/04/2021 19:18

(Peeks in door) I think I've just found my people!!

I have two, a just two year old and a four month old. Waaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh.

Farmers wife, haven't seen DH in a good few weeks, except occasionally in the night. He leaves at 6, appears to eat at random times, leave straw everywhere and goes again. Hill farm, lambing about 6000 sheep, half outside and 500 cattle.

My family live far away, Inlaws live far to close, but don't believe in help or support unless for "an important medical matter".

I'm frazzled, wind burnt, have very fluffy hair, questionable stains on my hoodie (3rd one today) and feel like my brain is going to explode.

I have a job interview tomorrow, absolutely no idea how. Need to prepare that. I think the shopping comes kids still need bathed and I've lost all control.

Wine?