Trapped toddler parents:"Where else can you post tuff tray pictures and moan about your husband?"

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Following on from the previous thread. Thanks @footprintsintheslow for the thread title inspiration 😁

@Checkingout811 oh lovely my heart aches for you. However you’re feeling is completely justified and you don’t need to explain it to us but absolutely use this thread as a safe space, even if you just need to unload.

Snacks:
Veg sticks
Crisps
Olives
Cheese
Crackers
Raisins
Cashew nuts
Wraps with peanut butter
All the fruit
All the biscuits
Pesto pasta
Dried fruit: bad for teeth

@pinklashes98 do you have a local Facebook page like freecycle. People
Giveaway nappies all the time round here. Edit: just read everyone has already told you this.

@Checkingout811 sorry to hear you are in turmoil. Do you have support in real life as well as us all here?

Welcome along @QuantBear

Husband had the cheek to point out I sat down all evening doing nothing whilst he sorted out the cars. By that he means I sat down and cluster fed the baby for 4 hours, whilst doing the food shop for our holiday and then put together all the cloth nappies.
After another full day which starts at 5:30 after a night of wake ups.
I've been spitting feathers to say the least.

Hi everyone, thanks for responding. I don't have a Facebook account but found a food bank collection point in the local play centre. So I'm thinking of asking the staff and dropping them if there tomorrow.

Looks like another sleepless night for me, little one has colic and isn't happy at all. I feel like a zombie 🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️ hope everyone has a restful night x

@pinklashes98 hope you manage a good night. Colic is awful :(

@footprintsintheslow thank you, I am very close to my sister, she’s my best friend but I don’t feel I can speak to her on this one. She had IVF for my nephew 3 years ago and they’re trying to save for another round at the moment so would be insensitive really. Don’t know whether I want to tell my mum or my friends yet either.

Spoke to DH tonight. It’s really knocked us both for 6 to be honest. I am very, very good with my pill and I know for a fact I haven’t missed any. I haven’t been unwell for any sickness to of affected it either so we are really both stumped.

Our eldest son who has disabilities has really struggled tonight. He’s made a lot of progress recently but there’s still a long way to go. Developmentally he’s still around 12 months but he’s 3 and a half. Some days & nights are so hard. It took both DH and I over an hour to settle him, during which time he woke DS2 up who’s bedroom is next door. He’s 21 months and is a great sleeper but does occasionally hear DS1 in the night which is exhausting.

We just both don’t know how we’re going to manage to be honest. I already feel heartbroken at the thought of having less time for our DC, DD is extremely understanding of our sons needs and is amazing. We are very organised and ensure they all get 1-1 time with both parents and also with both of us together, but I really do think another is just going to make them extremely difficult, if not impossible. And I’m worrying how my son will cope with another baby and the time the baby will take when he is probably going to need that time.

Sorry for the huge rant. Just trying to get some feelings down.

@Checkingout811 thank you, I just put him down ten minutes ago and he's grunting away already.

I'm so sorry to hear what your going through, my sister went through the same a few years ago. She was drinking a weight loss tea which disrupted her pill. Was awful seeing her so distraught. Sending you lots of virtual hugs and please rant away ❤️ I personally find this thread so therapeutic. Would be so lovely to have this support in real life. Thank you again all x

Morning all. Hope everyone managed to get some sleep. We had wakeups every 2 hours and a 5.30am start so I am not functioning at 100% today...at one wakeup I was shouting back at DS while he was screaming at me. Not my finest moment. Hoping to be a more patient mummy today...

Thanks for the snack list @footprintsintheslow! It's amazing how sometimes men just totally manage to miss everything you're doing...reminds me of my stepdad who is always like that. If he's been out to do the food shop you've been lazing around, no matter what you E actually done. So frustrating.

@Checkingout811 let the feelings flow! Safe space here. Glad you got to talk through it all together. It's definitely a tough situation to be in.

@pinklashes98 have you tried Colief? It's supposed to be good for colic? Check the ages though as I bought it too late for mine.

@Checkingout811 I'm glad you have this thread to be open on and also there pregnancy support phone numbers you could ring. Give yourself time as you are in shock i imagine.

@squishymamma sounds like a rough night but it's a new day now so forgive yourself and get the kettle on. (I also need to take my own advice).

@footprintsintheslow morning, no I haven't tried that one. After reading your reply I've had a look online, quiet a few positive reviews. I will pop to boots to see if I can get some today, anything to give him some relief. Was horrible last night, nothing would settle him and I just felt awful. Thank you x

Morning all,

Definitely try the colief @pinklashes98 worked wonders with my DD.

I’ve phoned the early pregnancy clinic this morning to discuss a termination. She talked me through the process and said I can go in on Sunday for the first tablet and then Tuesday for the full day...
I just don’t know if I can do it.

Sorry if this upsets anyone!
My boys must know I’m upset today, they aren’t being they’re usual descriptive sleeve this morning and are both sat on a knee each cuddling me watching toy story 4 ❤️

Is anyone doing anything nice today? I’m meeting my sister and nephew at the park at 12.30 after lunch.

Just want to thank you all so much for the support. You really don’t know how helpful it is and how much it means to me xx

@Checkingout811 with you whatever you decide, and it's good to know your options. It's still really early on, so not a lot of development will have happened...if that helps? Enjoy the cuddles and I hope your sickness isn't too bad today.

Nothing exciting at all going on here, just a day of work and then the fun game of when to put DS to bed! Tomorrow I'm beginning a 4 day online course to learn babywearing consultancy though so I'm really looking forward to that. We have a sling library here in Oslo that could do with some new consultants to help parents learn how to carry their babies and it saved me when I was in the depths of PND with a baby who needed lots of contact time to nap...so anything I can give back is well worth it

@Checkingout811 keep talking here, I know it helps me to have a huge word vomit and get it all out. Hope this afternoon takes your mind off it a little, or eases the pain.

I’m currently in the car in Asda car park, DD is asleep, DS is at gymnastics, I forgot my purse so couldn’t get a drive through coffee. Trip to the library this afternoon I think. Weather is shit.

@Checkingout811, so sorry to hear that you are feeling so upset and so sorry about your heartbreaking situation. Could you talk to your Mum or sister? Your sister may be more supportive than you think. Perhaps try to speak to one of them before you make your decision. I'm sure they would rather be able to be there to help you before you go and you will need support afterwards if you do go on Sunday. Thinking of you x

@pinklashes98, how old is your baby again? Infacol is another brand, I used it with my first. Hope it helps or Colief does with his colic. If he's being bottle fed I can totally recommend Dr Brown bottles as they stop too much air getting in the bottle teat. I've used them with my two.

@squishymamma, that sounds like a hard night. It's terrible when all you want is sleep and you keep getting interrupted. Hope tonight is a better night for you. Perhaps DS was a bit off in the night after his jabs?

@footprintsintheslow, men, why do they always make things about them? Hope you enjoy your holiday.

@MonkeyPuddle, what a pain you forgot your purse and couldn't get your coffee. It's those little things especially when one is asleep that are a bonus in the day. Hope DS enjoyed his gymnastics. We've had gymnastics here too, except it was just jumping off the couch and forward rolls in the living room!

dS2 nearly got up at 4 today but managed to get him off with milk.
We've had a short playground visit this morning and a library visit and a trip to the bakery. Got a Cornish pasty and DS1 one of those shortbread faces biscuits. Terrible rain though. Ds2 has been playing with my cream tubs that I've cleaned out, he loves twisting and turning and putting on the lids.

@Checkingout811 you need to do what's best for you and your family. It's good that you and DH can talk. Whatever you decide, good luck

Gosh ds has woken in a foul mood! Grumpy all day. We were meant to be going to the museum but it's chucking it down raining and there's no way I'm walking. Could get the bus but it doesn't stop that close to the museum and Ds hates getting his shoes wet and rain on his head is like he's going through physical pain the amount of distress it's causes, part of his autism, the rain causes a massive meltdown but he won't have the cover oon his pram or wear a hat/hood up. So we are stuck in today.

I've made another thread as I need help/advice regarding potty training please. If anyone wouldn't mind a read of it i would be extremely grateful, thank you! www.mumsnet.com/Talk/potty_training/4250128-potty-toilet-training-and-ASD

@Chocolatetrifle hiya, he's 7 weeks! I've been trying infacol and it's not really made much of a difference. I've just ordered the colief and hoping that will help him. Thanks for responding 🙂

Colief is definitely the better of the two. The gp will try infacol first as it's cheaper. If you find colief works then speak to the gp and ask them to put it on prescription as it doesn't last long as it's got to be kept in the fridge.

@PinkDaydreams I haven’t read your other thread yet but my son has autism too. Happy to chat or answer any questions.

[quote Checkingout811]@PinkDaydreams I haven’t read your other thread yet but my son has autism too. Happy to chat or answer any questions.[/quote]
Thank you! Pressuring myself to potty/toilet train him as I'm seeing lots of children same age and younger with no nappy. He isn't telling me when he needs/has done a wee or poo though which is making me think he's not ready?

@Checkingout811 for you whatever you decide. We're all here to listen if you feel uncomfortable talking to your sister about it.

I've been following along but not posted much these last few days - DS1 had whatever DS2 had a few weeks ago but worse with added bad stomach pains. Luckily he's started improving today.

@PinkDaydreams I have no ASD experience but will go read your potty training thread now

I can’t tell anyone in real life just yet but DP has mentioned that he’d be willing to relocate to my hometown, where my entire family are. We’re in his hometown at the minute.

This is potentially SOOOOO EXCITING

@pinklashes98 I found the boots own brand gripe water helped with colic, and using the ‘tiger in the tree’ hold as well.

@MonkeyPuddle that is amazing news! How long have you lived where you currently are? Is it a big move?
@PinkDaydreams
i would probably wait if he isn’t able to tell you. Also, have you tried the toilet or the potty? My son does a hell of a lot better on the toilet. Can’t stand the potty.
It is hard, my 21 month old tells me when he needs a wee but my 3yo isn’t yet. He will do it when he’s ready. I know that’s crap to hear because I get sick of it too, but he honestly will. Does he have speech delay? Could be that that’s preventing him telling you. Does he do pecs or makaton?

@Camomila sorry to hear Ds1 has not been feeling well. Hope he feels better soon.

@MonkeyPuddle . That sounds very exciting! Pleased for you!

@PinkDaydreams sorry to hear you couldn't make it to the museum. I have no experience in ASD either. When I trained dS1 the health visitor said the best way to make them aware is for them to have no nappy on, yes there will be accidents but that is how they learn she said.

Perhaps when he sees the wees first he will then connect and be able to tell you. Would an ASD charity/ helpline be able to assist and give advice as it will be a really common thing to overcome for many. You will be fine, and he will crack it and then you will say, why was I so stressed? We are with you every step of the way.

@Chocolatetrifle thanks, I think it might have been the jabs yeah. He seemed to want comfort more than food. We'll see how tonight goes! The cream tub play idea is great! DS hasn't gotten the hang of twisting stuff on and off yet but I bet he'd love to try.

@PinkDaydreams hope you had a good day despite being stuck inside. I have no experience with either potty training or ASD so can't help on that one! Hopefully the answers on your other post will help.

@pinklashes98 hope the Colief helps with your little one. DS didn't have colic but he got a lot of wind, we used to do that massage technique where you go down their left side, then across the top and down, then up the left, across and down. If that makes sense. Lots of biking legs and pushing up to tummy too. You've probably done all this already though! Carrying in a sling also helps if you have one, I think. Crossing fingers that the medicine comes through

@Camomila glad to hear DS1 is getting better, it's rough when they're ill.

@MonkeyPuddle that is really exciting! I totally get the excitement of being close to your family. I miss mine loads, but we won't be moving back to the UK for the foreseeable future so I guess I just have to make do with having the in-laws close

PinkDaydreams I potty trained DS1 young at 2.2 before he could tell me he needed a wee, but it took two weeks and lots of accidents. I put him in pants one day and went from there - luckily it was summer and I had laminate floors.

He had sensitive skin though and hated wearing nappies, he'd pull them off as soon as he did a wee and felt wet. Plus he'd spend a lot of time scratching himself where the elastics bothered him (I tried various different sizes/brands.)

I guess I'm saying that it can be possible even if their language isn't great yet, but I'm not sure I would unless there was a pressing need (sensitive skin, or hating having nappy changed etc.)

@Checkingout811 I've tried Makaton and pecs but he just doesn't understand the concept of them. He is speech delayed yes, he's receiving salt and I've been using the Hanen books to help too.

@Chocolatetrifle thank you for the charity helpline suggestion, I hadn't actually thought of that so I'm going to do some googling and give them a call!

Honestly thank you to everyone on this thread so much, you really do put my mind at ease! I also feel on this thread I can ask anything and not feel judged, thank you