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Trapped toddler parents:"Where else can you post tuff tray pictures and moan about your husband?"

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PinkDaydreams · 20/04/2021 20:37

Following on from the previous thread. Thanks @footprintsintheslow for the thread title inspiration 😁

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Chocolatetrifle · 10/05/2021 13:52

@OhToBeASeahorse, ha well that makes 2 little psychos then, yours and mine. No seriously, whilst we know its wrong and we tell them its wrong, they are still learning all about life, what is right and what is wrong. I do think some kids can be more strong willed than others though. I can't point out little bugs in the garden to DS1 because he squashes them! Hmmm, hopefully that is normal! Try not to worry and I'll try too.

OhToBeASeahorse · 10/05/2021 14:03

Thanks lovely! I dont want to underplay it but I'm really trying to work on being calmer with him

Motherofmonsters · 10/05/2021 14:15

I don't think they have any impulse control at that age, they just have a thought and do it without thinking about what they're doing. He probably just thought he was playing with the dog.

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MonkeyPuddle · 10/05/2021 14:27

I absolutely wouldn’t worry about him kicking the dog, DS would try the same with my mums dog when he was the same age and he’s seen the dog weekly!

Motherofmonsters · 10/05/2021 17:58

DS has had the worst day at nursery, the manager took me aside to say he hurt 6 children today. I'm absolutely mortified. They couldn't see a reason for it so I'm hoping he's just not been in a good mood today, he just had an epic meltdown to

OhToBeASeahorse · 10/05/2021 18:31

Oh goodness poor you!!!!

MonkeyPuddle · 10/05/2021 18:45

Ah fuck @Motherofmonsters sounds tough. If it’s not his usual behaviour I’d be inclined to think he might be getting a bug of some sorts, always sends DS out of kilter.
Early nights all round today eh.

DS has just been dropped off by his dad, managed to get some digs in about his supermarket brand trainers not being good quality (they’re perfectly fine), not like he would put his hand in his pocket to buy others.

DS also managed to slip on the concrete kitchen floor and really banged his head, calpol and cuddles and an early night.

Tomorrow we’re going to go to the park in the morning before the rains comes in the afternoon, think I’ll get some paints out in the afternoon, maybe do car tracks and Dino footprints in paint.

Motherofmonsters · 10/05/2021 19:06

We've had issues previously as he has sensory processing difficulties but he hasn't had a day like this in months. I thought we were getting somewhere, I'm feeling very disheartened about it.

Motherofmonsters · 10/05/2021 19:08

Hope your DS is okay, calpol and cuddles are miracle workers. Sounds like a good plan for tomorrow. I've got food being delivered tomorrow, cleaners coming to do the guttering and someone collecting some bits I've sold on Facebook.

MonkeyPuddle · 10/05/2021 20:28

Ah little lamb. Something must have upset him for him to react so?

One day doesn’t overshadow lots of good days, sensory processing aside, we are all entitled to have bad days for whatever reasons we so decide, don’t take it to heart.

Let tomorrow be a better day, even if it’s shit x

Chocolatetrifle · 11/05/2021 07:21

@Motherofmonsters, oh poor you and DS, how are you both this morning? Today is new day.

@MonkeyPuddle, Hope your DS had a good sleep and his head is feeling better today.

Motherofmonsters · 11/05/2021 07:22

Thank you, DS is still asleep but I'm okay just got to move on from it and try again.

Took a pregnancy test and it was negative wooo. Think DH was a tad disappointed though.

Chocolatetrifle · 11/05/2021 10:24

@Motherofmonsters all we can do is start each day afresh. I guess we will all encounter all different issues as time goes and they grow up. Glad you are ok. Ah, DHH was disappointed? Perhaps you are not completely finished with your family after all?

I have a new line of terror to report- DS1 opening his own seatbelt buckle whilst we drive. Has anyone any experience of this?

Motherofmonsters · 11/05/2021 10:35

@chocolatetrifle, if we had more space, money and time we would definitely have more but realistically we'll be stuck on 2.

I think you can get clips to help with escape artists.

MonkeyPuddle · 11/05/2021 15:21

DS is fine this morning, no lasting damage.
Had a lovely morning in the park, kids of a similar age to him were there and it’s always more fun to play with them rather than me!
The rain has set in this afternoon though, we’ve read stories and made pictures of them, DD is being a bit needy though so it’s a bit fraught.

@Chocolatetrifle DS did that! I pulled over and he got a stern telling off and explanation as to why it’s dangerous, and that if he did it again I would stop the car, he’s not done it since. We usually have the Thomas the Tank Engine podcast playing which he listens to intently.

footprintsintheslow · 11/05/2021 18:29

@OhToBeASeahorse I've realised I don't talk enough to the baby. My toddler talks nonstop so when she's not in the room I enjoy the quiet. I must talk more to the baby so I can ensure another round of toddler banter in years to come. 🤪

As for behaviour, my 3 year old was trying to hurt someone in park. When I intervened and said 'look you're hurting them and making them cry' she shouted 'I want to hurt them, I want them to cry'. When I apologised to the mother the three year old shouted 'don't you say sorry, I'm not sorry'.

OhToBeASeahorse · 11/05/2021 18:46

@footprintsintheslow that shouldn't have made me laugh but it did!

squishymamma · 11/05/2021 19:18

Does an almost 15 month old count as a toddler?? If so I want to join Grin this sounds like my kind of thread...

My DS is the most hyperactive and stubborn child ever (said all mums of toddlers probably) and I am dreading the "terrible twos" because I cannot fathom how it could get much worse...today at dinner he threw his full plate of food down himself and then proceeded to stab at my plate with his fork. He's also just learned to walk and uses his new ability to run away from me and try and eat gravel.

DH is now an expert at "needing the toilet" at the worst of times and somehow he's always done just as peace is restored Hmm

MonkeyPuddle · 11/05/2021 19:28

DS was struggling to climb the frame at the park today, I offered to help him, give him a peg up, little shit looked me in the eye and said ‘mummy you’re not very good at helping me are you? I’ll just do it alone’

You’re on your own now matey.

Baby DD doesn’t get enough attention from me either really, but she’ll be fine.

Have booked in at a baby sensory cafe for a bit tomorrow, never been to one before but it’s worth a visit I suppose. I want the church hall, battered toys, £1 tea and toast stay and plays to reopen. They are my jam.

MonkeyPuddle · 11/05/2021 19:30

Welcome @squishymamma to our no judgement, honest hideaway on the internet. If you get anything from this thread it needs to be that you absolutely must buy kinetic sand. It’s the best toy ever invented.

footprintsintheslow · 11/05/2021 19:38

@MonkeyPuddle

DS was struggling to climb the frame at the park today, I offered to help him, give him a peg up, little shit looked me in the eye and said ‘mummy you’re not very good at helping me are you? I’ll just do it alone’

You’re on your own now matey.

Baby DD doesn’t get enough attention from me either really, but she’ll be fine.

Have booked in at a baby sensory cafe for a bit tomorrow, never been to one before but it’s worth a visit I suppose. I want the church hall, battered toys, £1 tea and toast stay and plays to reopen. They are my jam.

I'd love a church hall baby group. I went to a new one last week that is outdoors...gale force winds with plastic chairs flying round the cemetery and this week was torrential showers. It's extreme baby group.
MonkeyPuddle · 11/05/2021 19:47

@footprintsintheslow I laughter at that sorry 😂 sounds like total wipe meets baby group!
I’m stalking the local Facebook pages for any whiff of a stay and play.

Chocolatetrifle · 11/05/2021 19:53

I'm in trouble tonight, neither DS1 or DS2 are looking ready to settle and are running around the living room doing the conga... Not sure how to deal with this....

squishymamma · 11/05/2021 20:06

@MonkeyPuddle

DS was struggling to climb the frame at the park today, I offered to help him, give him a peg up, little shit looked me in the eye and said ‘mummy you’re not very good at helping me are you? I’ll just do it alone’

You’re on your own now matey.

Baby DD doesn’t get enough attention from me either really, but she’ll be fine.

Have booked in at a baby sensory cafe for a bit tomorrow, never been to one before but it’s worth a visit I suppose. I want the church hall, battered toys, £1 tea and toast stay and plays to reopen. They are my jam.

Thanks for the welcome @MonkeyPuddle!

I remember I used to volunteer at a mum and baby group in our church hall pre-kids. It was obvious to me that the mums came to have adult conversations with other adults rather than just having a child to talk to, and that all refreshments we served vanished within 10 minutes (then the extra biscuit rations were dug out). I didn't fully comprehend back then just how much of a lifesaver that hour and a half was...until I had a baby in lockdown and nowhere to go Grin pretty sure I've killed off some brain cells in both our brains through too much screen time already...

Chocolatetrifle · 11/05/2021 21:16

@Motherofmonsters, thanks for the suggestion about the seat buckle, I'll take a look to see what's on offer.

@MonkeyPuddle, hope the baby sensory cafe is good, it sounds promising. Glad to hear that my DS1 is not the only one who tried to get out of his seat. Hope it's another one of those things that they just forget about. That's funny your DS said that today. My DS1 actually said yesterday, 'i'm not following any of your rules!'

@footprintsintheslow, I laughed too at your outdoor baby group experience. It's the symbol of our lockdown winter experience. SAS style baby club Grin.

@squishymamma, welcome and absolutely a 15 month old is a toddler , you are in the right place here.

DS2 decided to do his own version of row row row your boat plus actions before finally falling asleep at 8.30. Luckily DS1 went asleep pretty soon after, and that's the day done, until the night shift starts...

Hope everyone gets some sleep.