Neighbour unhappy DD gave his DS a snack

[Eastie77]

I am really annoyed but know I may be over-reacting so need to be talked down.

DD was playing out with our neighbours DS, he is about 10. At one point she ran into the kitchen and quickly out again. It turns out she took a bag of crisps and shared them with him and other kids. She knows she is not allowed to do this but it all happened v quickly. Neighbour later sent me a message "just a quick one Eastie, DS is not allowed snacks between meals" and went on to say he hadn't eaten his lunch because of the crisps. I explained I understood although I hadn't given them to his DS. He responded by saying that's fine but can I keep an eye on things in future to ensure his DS doesn't eat anything when the DC are playing together.

I have always told DD not to give out any snacks to friends unless I have permission from their parents but neighbour's reply is really annoying me. It has a lecturing tone to it that doesn't sit well with me and I want to send back a smart response but not sure what to write...

I do think that the onus should be on his son to refuse & that's surely all the dad needs to be told?

Of course the daughter taking the crisps when she shouldn't have done makes her seem "at fault", but that's not the dad's issue is it?

Maybe the other child wanted a crisp. Unbelievable that a few crisps would fill the kid up so much he couldn’t eat his dinner

Luckily the other child didn't have a severe allergy

@YellowPurple

Luckily the other child didn't have a severe allergy

The child is 10. If he had a severe allergy he would know. And if for some reason he’s not capable of managing his own allergy then he shouldn’t be out unsupervised.

@YellowPurple

Luckily the other child didn't have a severe allergy

At ten he would know that he had a severe allergy to crisps.

Surely it’s up to the boy to refuse any offers of snacks if he knows he’s not allowed them? Your DD didn’t do anything wrong, she didn’t force feed him! He should have said no and his DF knows this!

Sooo many batshit responses on this thread!! The kiddy is 10, the neighbour is being ridiculous and weird!

If the child is old enough to play out unsupervised then they are old enough to refuse food they aren't allowed/allergic to.

The parent should have told their son he was in the wrong for accepting the crisps, not messaged you to say your DD was wrong for offering to share.

At 10, their son is old enough to know what he is and isn't allowed to eat. It's as much is "fault" as your daughter's, if his appetite was spoiled.

I probably wouldn't bother replying, but if I wanted to say something, it would probably subtly hint at their precious angel son's role in the shocking Incident of the Between-Meal Crisps.

A 10yo is old enough to decline a snack. At school they reinforce the don't share food rule because of allergies so it's not outrageous to expect kids to follow that.

I'm surprised that half a bag of crisps was enough to ruin a new

What a fussy weirdo, just ignore him OP.

@UserTwice

I thought you were going to say that he complained they shouldn't be sharing food due to the Covid risk ..

At 10, my DC would have gone to the local shop and bought their own crisps. Other parent is bonkers. And his child will soon learn effective lying, if his parent goes on being so over protective.

this !

My kids and my neighbours kids all feed each other especially in the summer when all playing out together. I stock up on cheaper ice lollies and hide the expensive nice ones, as they offer them to the neighbours kids and any other friends that happen to be round. I thought it was being neighbourly and clearly so do my neighbours thankfully.

I must be old, I used to encourage my children to share and offer drinks/ snacks to their friends back in the day

*his, not is...

Ruin a MEAL. I suspect that's the excuse the child have because he didn't like what was offered.

Just reply 'Okily Dokily'

@CodySchmody

“Hi. I don’t have time to supervise your son. He is welcome to decline the offer of any snacks being shared if he knows he’s not allowed to have them.”

I'd definitely go for something along these lines.

This. The neighbour appears to have confused OP with his nanny. What’s he going to do if his son has another crisp, dock OP’s imaginary pay?

Am I reading this right? Your neighbour a) got upset because your DD shared a packet of crisps with their (older) son ( and maybe other children too) and b) actually said that a 10 year old boy couldn't finish his lunch because he ate a fraction of a packet of crisps?
Was it an April Fool's joke?
I don't think I would have managed to reply with a straight face.
But do tell your DD to stay away from said boy, the family are clearly trouble.

At 10 I would expect a child to be old enough to choose whether to have crisps or not without parental involvement, and ridiculous to think it made him not eat a meal. I think your neighbour is being a ridiculous twit. Poor kid having an ott parent like that.

I find this so

Invoice him for the free childcare.
. And add on the cost of half a bag of Posh Crisps
..

Christ he needs to have a word with his kid about taking the food offered not you yours for offering in the first place
What a ridiculous control freak

@Bluetrews25

Perhaps they should have sent him out in a muzzle......or given him a lunch that he wanted to eat (extreme fussiness excluded, just not gruel), and makes me wonder if he is very controlling in other ways. Poor kid.

Perhaps they should have sent him out in a muzzle.....

I thought that. Or a gimp mask

if his child isnt allowed to eat snacks then he needs to tell his child, its not your problem and your child was being polite by sharing. at 10 hte neighbours child is old enough to know about his own allergies

Normally it's the kids who are not allowed snacks who are desperately hoping their friends shares with them.

I'm fairly easy with snacks and am pretty sure I've fed half the park multiple times. I'd make a little one ask their parents but not a 10 year old.