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Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 13: Calmly through the day

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MissConductUS · 20/03/2021 21:25

I've started a new one. Please join us and share the boring and mundane things happening in your world. It will be calming for all.

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SplendidSuns1000 · 04/04/2021 17:12

I'll likely be having a c-section and potentially general anaesthesia due to an old back injury so it could be an interesting post-partum experience! I'm not sure how many doulas there are in my ends but I'll look into it for sure!

And here I was moving to the countryside to avoid the eccentricity of English cities!

HelenaJustina · 04/04/2021 17:15

We did 5 and a bit miles along the river (the one that causes all the flooding) cross country, and back. Shattered now but have got to summon enthusiasm for DC’s hunt!

BlueSkyBlinking · 04/04/2021 17:20

We took the dogs and DD to the park that used to be our local walking spot, two years ago. They ah e a coffee shop now and so we had treats and sat in the breezy sunshine. Both dogs are now peacefully sleeping, and DD who “finds parks boring” is all smiley and relaxed. Satisfying.

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MissConductUS · 04/04/2021 17:27

Splendid, what part of the UK are you in? I'm north of New York City, in an area called the Hudson Highlands.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hudson_Highlands

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MissConductUS · 04/04/2021 17:29

And as to finding a doula, ring your OB/Gyn's office. They may have a list or can direct you to an agency.

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SplendidSuns1000 · 04/04/2021 17:43

Ah I've been through Hudson Highlands! I own a holiday home near the Adirondacks and we've gone through most of NY!

I live near Norwich and there don't seem to be any doulas nearby that do postnatal services. I'm on the NHS at the moment and we aren't assigned an ob/gyn but even midwives and health visitors generally don't provide contacts for doulas. I'm looking to go private though so will look into it.

Spudlet · 04/04/2021 18:17

@SplendidSuns1000 In that neck of the woods, have a look at Jackie Heffer-Cooke. She isn’t a doula herself but runs hypnobirthing classes and does yoga - she’s also very involved with maternity services in the area so would probably have some contacts. I did pregnancy and then baby yoga classes with her, and also had a massage teaching session with DH - although when he tried to put his lessons into practice he knocked off one of my tens machine patches and gave me a huge electric shock 😂 But I bet she could point you in the right direction.

Frownette · 04/04/2021 18:21

I'm not finding this thread very soothing at present

Frownette · 04/04/2021 18:32

You've got someone who is distraught at losing a baby and someone else who is bragging about cars and pregnancy without any thought for the loss. No acknowledgment or compassion whatsoever.

So I'm taking a step back for her to rant me me me.

Champagneforeveryone · 04/04/2021 18:35

Why's that frownette?

DH was back at actual physical church this morning and is understandably pleased about it. He said it was full to current capacity.

I've had around four hours sleep after nights and went on a "short stroll" with DH. This was so beautiful that it turned into six miles, which is about my limit following a back injury last summer.

We're now home, I'm showered, dosed up with ibuprofen (which I think I may not need 🤞) and have had a Dominos and just started on a cold beer. Life feels fairly good so far Smile

Therainisback · 04/04/2021 18:40

Yes Frownette I feel uncomfortable about it too.

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 04/04/2021 18:47

@Frownette
That's why I talk about calming and mundane things on this thread and not about the other stuff that is going on. There must be one place to do this, otherwise a lot of people could just stop talking altogether...

Therainisback · 04/04/2021 18:50

We've just had a disappointing soup for tea. It needed ginger but DH can"t stand it. Consoled myself by having Easter egg for pudding.

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MissConductUS · 04/04/2021 19:07

@Therainisback

Yes Frownette I feel uncomfortable about it too.
I will take responsibility for this. In retrospect, I should have PM'd splendid to let her know that it was a sensitive topic now. My apologies that it's come to this.
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SplendidSuns1000 · 04/04/2021 19:47

Sorry to all, I hadn't seen the other posters comments. If I had, I wouldn't have shared my news as I see it's insensitive now.

I've experienced my own losses in the past so I can assure you I wasn't 'bragging' or posting anything like this on purpose. I'm sure if you were all really concerned, you could've PM'd me to let me know. But perhaps that's asking too much.

I should note that getting a scrapheap car is quite mundane news to me, if you think it's bragging or not dull enough then that's your own issue. I do apologise for not fitting in to such strict, albeit subjective, rules on a thread in a chat forum.

SplendidSuns1000 · 04/04/2021 19:54

@Frownette just wanted to make sure you see my comment and understand I'll stop talking about myself now. Even if someone sends me another question about myself again I'll simply ignore them and only speak about others. Feel free to PM me if you find I'm talking about myself ever again though, what a crime that would be.

Speaking of aknowledgment though, feel free to also PM me if I make an unknown insensitive comment. I can see it would trouble you greatly so I'm sure you'd jump at the chance to prevent any further harm. Oh wait...

forgetthehousework · 04/04/2021 19:58

@SplendidSuns1000

DH actually raised his nephew from birth to around 5 months after his sister was very unwell and we've both worked in childcare so have some experience with children from newborn age onwards. Definitely looking into a doula though. We live in the middle of nowhere so I'd feel much more secure knowing I'm not by myself.

I did think the people in a circle might be praying, they were completely silent and I watched them all stand up and leave the field without interacting with each other. I wish I knew more!

Reminds me of an emo bonfire party I saw once. Each person arrived with a piece of wood, threw in on the bonfire, joined the circle of people without speaking, and when the fire died down they all just drifted away without any communication at all. The goth bonfire party was much more fun as they were playing catch with flaming balls of fire!
SplendidSuns1000 · 04/04/2021 20:00

That sounds like quite the gathering, @forgetthehousework! Imagine being the one to break the silence though- would you then get lobbed on too? Goths>Emos always Grin

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MissConductUS · 04/04/2021 20:03

The chicken is in the oven and DH has the au gratin potatoes ready to put in later. We saw a Rolls Royce on our road when we were dropping off the cars for service. That's the first time I've seen one hereabouts in many years.

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Therainisback · 04/04/2021 20:43

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SplendidSuns1000 · 04/04/2021 20:48

@Therainisback I didn't see you in my PMs notifying me of my mistake either.

Therainisback · 04/04/2021 20:51

Because I assumed you'd pick up on the many posts offering sympathy to Sunbird & the Flowers

SplendidSuns1000 · 04/04/2021 20:54

I didn't see them, no reason for you to not send a PM when you picked up on that though.

Therainisback · 04/04/2021 21:04

Believe it or not I don't spend every minute glued to Mumsnet. I have a life - I catch up in chunks.

Therainisback · 04/04/2021 21:08

WTF

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