Mother’s Day- do your teens bother?

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DH is furious at DD13 and DS15. They just got home from 2 nights at their DF’s and he asked what they’d got me (he’d reminded both previously).
DD ordered something online yesterday... to be delivered to her DF’s tomorrow so it won’t be here.
DS didn’t get me anything. This is the 3rd year running and every year DH is cross about it. The tension makes for an unpleasant day.
I kind of think DH expects me to tell them off, but I don’t want a card/ present out of a sense of duty/ guilt. If they wanted to treat me/ let me know they appreciate me that’s different but I’m not going to insist. So now DH is angry at them, they’ve gone to their rooms and tomorrow is going to be uncomfortable. Again. Why does Mother’s Day have to be about conflict/ guilt in this house?
Sorry for the self indulgent rant.
Does anyone else have similar?

DH ranted at teen earlier asking if he’d bothered to get me anything -obviously not judging by the atmosphere. I don’t expect presents but I do expect a card. He has gone off with a friend now so will find out tomorrow if he’s bothered to get one whilst out.

Mine have not this year. They've not been out!

No. But I don't expect them to spend their pocket money on me. Would be nice if they asked DH to take them to get me some, but lock down kind of prevents that. Or if he'd get me something from them, like I always did on father's day. Last year I spent a lot of the day sulking as I got nothing and DH and I had both lost our mothers in the previous 5 months, plus it was lockdown so couldn't visit anyone. I didn't get DH anything for fathers day last year though because he didn't do mothers day. We did do our usual walk and takeaway though.
Tomorrow I'll be treating us to a takeaway of my choosing and that will be the only concession to Mothers day. Won't get any cards unless DD made one at school, which is unlikely as she's year 6 and they only just went back, plus they will probably all have forgotten it's Mother's day or not realise.

No my DH usually sorts it. He takes our DS to the shop and my DS picked something for me.

Only one teen here, 1 preteen and 2 younger. They all do something, even just a homemade card and daffs. Teen has made DH massively up his game with presents since she got old enough to prod him/get involved in shopping!

DS15 is massively assisted/promoted by DH but does pay for anything himself.
DS18 once he turned 18, was told anything like this is completely up to him to remember and sort now. He's been ok with Xmas and birthdays so far.

My nearly 16 year old has gone out to meet a friend. They are walking to the "big Tesco" apparently to buy Mother's day cards. I'm pleasantly surprised. (I have a primary aged child who has made me one at school so perhaps she told him and that was a prompt.)

Husband always does me breakfast in bed and flowers "from the kids " so even if the kids didn't bother I'd still get a treat.

DS is 13 and gets involved because DD11 is so into all celebrations. I'm lucky that DH always sorts out some treats for me, but he knows that years of infertility mean that MD is very important to me because I used to find it such a painful day until we adopted the DC.

Once my DC acknowledge it by mouth as in saying Happy Mothers Day and same with other events Im very happy. I don't expect anything off them at all. Its never been my thing but others are different

Mine always got me something , I’m happy with a card / flowers or chocs but generally received more and I would be a bit annoyed if they didn’t bother . They are now both adults and still very thoughtful . Quite honestly it doesn’t take much effort to get a card .

They didn't last year, didn't even bother to say happy MD and I let them know I was hurt. This year I asked DH to remind them.

I hope there is some effort! Happy with a homemade card tbh.

I should hope so, but I would also expect DH or the DF to help them. My DH took DD14 out today to get something but I know there's a card as they moonpigged it and it arrived the other day. I don't have it yet but it was in a moonpig envelope addressed to DH. I was quite impressed with the organisation to be honest.

Mine didn't remember until his friend told him but he walked to the corner shop and spent a fiver of his pocket money on a card and present for me.

Yes DD gets me something from her pocket money (she gets plenty from grandparents).

I'd be pretty dissapointed if she didn't to be honest! Usually get a card and a small gift.

She's 12 so i expect her to do it herself.

I'm hoping for a card but given that they didn't get me a birthday card I'm not holding my breath. They've walked past two shops selling cards on the way to school every day this week so they could.

My DS has got me a card and a little gift and sorted it by himself since he was at high school (he’s 17 now). He spends about £5.

Sorry but I think it’s pretty shit that your 15 y/o can’t be arsed with the minimum effort of getting you a card, and as for spending their money you can get cards for 99p or less.

Yes. I’ve not been allowed into her room today so there’s stuff for me in there. She has also told me to shout when I wake up tomorrow so she can bring me a cup of tea in bed. She’s a good kid and I’m very lucky.

Oh she’s 17 for anyone wondering

Mine doesn't remember unless I ask and give her the money (there's only the two of us so no one else to remind her or give her pocket money.) To be fair though it's not something particularly important to me. I don't need a card or gift; I'd be happy if she just did the washing up voluntarily !

My older teen DC's have been at their dads most of lockdown. No card (or anything else) arrived by post today so won't be getting anything off them. Exh is a wanker and although DC are old enough to sort themselves out, I'd have made sure they didn't forget their DF on Father's Day. Pity he never extends the courtesy.

Other preteen DC bought me a lovely bottle of gin that was given to me tonight as I've just started a week off work I may have already started it. He's also bought me a very nice pair or running trainers that I know nothing about.

They all do something.
I don't mind if it's a homemade card. If fact I prefer them.
I love the breakfast in bed, which has ranged from the inept but touching primary school age ones, to the " Well, I know you're going to want to do this sometime, teens, so I guess I'll wait here in bed, until you surface. I would have been up an hour ago, whilst you lot honestly believe this is the crack of of dawn.."
Sometimes presents. Usually flowers. Had to explain to the impulsive one that an urgent need for flowers for your Mother does in no way justify picking the municipal daffodils.
Love Mothers day. Love my DC.

DS17 and DS15 always been prompted by dad but this year DS17 has been using his Amazon account for things. He said the other day you do like Cadbury's buttons dont you! I do! Best present ever!

Also I'd be telling DH to wind his neck in and that he is ruining mother's day more than the kids with his sulking.

I know our adult daughter has wasted money on stuff I don’t want or need. I’d much, much rather it was spent on our grandchild or themselves.

I’m always appropriately delighted on the day but have equally always dropped very, very heavy hints that I’m not the least bothered a few months later.

It makes her happy though which in an odd way makes me happy too. Job done, I suppose 😁

Our son takes me at my word 😁. It’s the one day of the year though that he brings me (too milky) coffee and toast (with not enough butter) in the morning.

Reading that back, I am a miserable old bat aren’t I. Never bloody happy

DD1 went to the shops earlier and said it was for tomorrow and could she have money but tbh, if it is forced, then would prefer they don't bother. DS (13) probably doesn't even realise it's Mother's Day.