Mother’s Day- do your teens bother?

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DH is furious at DD13 and DS15. They just got home from 2 nights at their DF’s and he asked what they’d got me (he’d reminded both previously).
DD ordered something online yesterday... to be delivered to her DF’s tomorrow so it won’t be here.
DS didn’t get me anything. This is the 3rd year running and every year DH is cross about it. The tension makes for an unpleasant day.
I kind of think DH expects me to tell them off, but I don’t want a card/ present out of a sense of duty/ guilt. If they wanted to treat me/ let me know they appreciate me that’s different but I’m not going to insist. So now DH is angry at them, they’ve gone to their rooms and tomorrow is going to be uncomfortable. Again. Why does Mother’s Day have to be about conflict/ guilt in this house?
Sorry for the self indulgent rant.
Does anyone else have similar?

DD, almost 16, spent hours preparing a picnic for the park. She got me a Lush gift set, some flowers and some prosecco (bought by her dad - my ex). She always makes a fuss of me.

Maybe have a word with DH if you aren't bothered as he's making a fuss on your behalf

You might find when they've left home they make more of an effort

Ds, who never did anything when he lived at home, now makes an effort (I even got a video call today - almost unheard of!). Dd was always more bothered and she sent me a card in the post and handmade me a gift that she sent me a pic of and is bringing in a few weeks time!

2 DDs aged 11 and 16

DH went and bought the cards, flowers and prosecco. 11yo crawled out of bed at 11.30 and had to be reminded to hand her card over and say happy Mother's Day.

I've seen the 16yo twice today and neither time did she say it. I had to say "you know it's Mother's Day today??" Her response was "no I forgot"

Feeling pretty unappreciated and way less likely to pay for their weekend ubereats treat lunch next weekend.

I agree that it's utterly appalling that some teens haven't bothered. I don't really get what it is about motherhood that makes some mums pretend they aren't hurt and they don't mind but I think your children should know that not acknowledging the day is unacceptable. I'd rip them a new one tbh.

My teen didn't do anything for mothers day. Very distracted and focused on herself. Middle dc (8) saved the day...a box of chocolates a beautiful handmade card and breakfast in bed. Completely saved and made the day. I don't expect much just a nice card and a hug that's all but teens attitude has disappointed me if I'm honest.

My 15 year old has form for getting up late but I give her her due, she set an alarm for 9.30 got straight up, came in the lounge, gave me a beautiful card and a shop bought cake to look like flowers in a pot.
We went for a walk over the park, she bought me a cup of tea from the take away cafe and when we got home we had the cake for afternoon tea.

My 15yo dd bought me a nice card, a pretty plant and she also made me breakfast in bed.

I'd be upset if she didn't bother at all.

Up and down day today, to be fair.

My youngest dd (16), got me a lovely necklace with a saying on it that is special to us and a lovely card with some homemade coupons inside to be redeemed at my leisure (making tea, making dinner, letting me sing without moaning🤣, etc).

My eldest (19) didn't get me anything or even really acknowledge it, beyond saying 'Happy Mother's Day' after first asking when I'd be getting up to make breakfast for her as she was hungry.
It was when I said that I wasn't and that her df might be making it that I got the acknowledgement. We've not had the easiest relationship lately, but I didn't expect this level of thoughtlessness.

I'm very hurt, tbh, and have been crying about it.

And for those saying that they don't expect money spent on them; neither do I.

I'd have been ecstatic with a cuppa and breakfast being made or a homemade card, or some (extra) chores being done.
Nothing that needed to cost money; just a bit of time and thought (like the coupons from my youngest, which she's just written on pieces of lined paper).

I actually had a lovely day! DH had sorted flowers/ champagne/ chocolate from the little two. DS8 made a card in school and brought home daffodils. DS7 described in detail the card he made (paint was still drying on Friday so I’ll get it tomorrow) and also brought daffodils home from school. DS15 made me toast and tea and did the dishwasher twice without being asked, plus watched the puppy most of the day so I didn’t have to. DS13 did some laundry (uniforms) so I didn’t have to and got her DF to drop off the present when it arrived (gorgeous bookmark plus a good book).
DH ordered takeaway for dinner, which I didn’t have to pick. No one tantrummed or argued. Me and DS8 snuggled and watched our favourite show. We played a board game after dinner. Best. Day. Ever.

I received a beautiful, hand made (with assistance, I suspect) [grand]mother’s day card from our 7 month old grandchild, who we can’t see. It has his little hand print.

I’ve always thought MD was a bit of a commercial jamboree.

That card floored me. Just about stopped weeping tears (of joy) now

Nothing from 13 yo a hand drawn card from the 12 yo. A little bit upset by the teen attitude I blame the parents.... oh

Think mine forgot! Neither mentioned it. I don't care. Its just commercial rubbish and at the moment I'm just glad they're not putting themselves at risk by going to the shops. Helping me out with something on any day or a thank you for something I've done is enough for me. I don't need a prize for being a mum.

I have started properly hinting about 2 weeks in advance now. I don't care what people think, all I want is a minimum of a homemade card and for a slight fuss on the day (had breakfast in bed and my choice of family movie!) It stems from it and valentine's day not even being mentioned last year as the kids weren't at school to make cards etc and I will mention it every year forevermore. The people who have kids who keep it in their head are great, mine never will!

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Think mine forgot! Neither mentioned it. I don't care. Its just commercial rubbish and at the moment I'm just glad they're not putting themselves at risk by going to the shops. Helping me out with something on any day or a thank you for something I've done is enough for me. I don't need a prize for being a mum.“

I did too. It’s usually a bit later, I think.

Anyway, I phoned my stepdad on Friday, blithered and asked him to apologise to mum. I just hadnt realised and when I found out on Friday, it was too late to get anything delivered on time, they’re hundreds of miles away. flowers are in short supply this year for various reasons. Chocolates are tricky too because she doesn’t welcome anything with palm oil.

Felt like a failure of a daughter until he said, “oh, we didn’t know either. We wondered why so many people were walking about with flowers when we went shopping yesterday”

DS had been shopping with his dad, he’d spent his own money but DH had to do the purchase as it was gin. DS knows me well!

The best part was that he cooked dinner for me. Planned it, cooked it, served it. It was great! Oh, and he washed up afterwards. He has a learning difficulty which makes the planning a bit of a challenge, so he’d had to think it all through carefully (lots of notes to himself) to make sure that the garlic bread, the pasta and the bolognaise was all ready to eat at the same time!

My 15 yo got me some hand cream I spotted in boots last week and said I needed. She picked it up and said I'll get it for M day, then presented me with a brew, flowers and a box of ferrero rocher when I got in from work at 08.10 yesterday (rather than having a lie in).
I'm happy with that!

Hmm, I have two DC in early 20's and one teen still at home. Oldest typed 'Happy Mothers Day' on the family chat yesterday and the other two followed suit underneath (maybe they copied and pasted!) And that was it (lone parent so no other adult around to chivvy them). I didn't mind until I saw all the lovely efforts above.

Oh well, it's a meaningless day really and will just have to take my Mother's Day moments as I find them, scattered throughout the year!