Mother’s Day- do your teens bother?

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DH is furious at DD13 and DS15. They just got home from 2 nights at their DF’s and he asked what they’d got me (he’d reminded both previously).
DD ordered something online yesterday... to be delivered to her DF’s tomorrow so it won’t be here.
DS didn’t get me anything. This is the 3rd year running and every year DH is cross about it. The tension makes for an unpleasant day.
I kind of think DH expects me to tell them off, but I don’t want a card/ present out of a sense of duty/ guilt. If they wanted to treat me/ let me know they appreciate me that’s different but I’m not going to insist. So now DH is angry at them, they’ve gone to their rooms and tomorrow is going to be uncomfortable. Again. Why does Mother’s Day have to be about conflict/ guilt in this house?
Sorry for the self indulgent rant.
Does anyone else have similar?

Two teens 14&16 (1m/1f) one homemade card (which I adore) and one Moonpig and an eating apple tree from each.

Well, I did well out of today! Two presents from DS15!

One very thoughtful one he'd ordered online and paid for by himself. One rather nice mug that DH had picked up in the shops for him (DH confessed later that he thought DS would forget).

No card, as that wouldn't occur to him, but he's loomed over me several times today and hugged me awkwardly. And said, Love you, several times.

He's well over 6ft and skinny. It's a bit like trying to hug a baby giraffe that is standing up on its hind legs...

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I would love to see a picture of the chocolate orange made into a rose!![/quote]
Here is the cake he made inc. chocolate orange rose - I ate too much!

My son was with his dad this weekend, his wee face appeared at the door at lunch time with a bunch of flowers and sweets. He's 13. A wee year May have been shed. He's usually a wee terror but we've spent a lot of time together throughout lockdown and he's been a joy to be around the last year.

• a wee tear.

I would have been quite happy with a card tbh.

My lads are 22 & 19.

Eldest son is very much into motorbikes, trail bikes and push bikes, electric or otherwise.
He brought me 'a present we can that we can share' were his words.

Aw how nice I thought, he had it delivered to his work (A Bike shop!!) and asked me to pick it up for him, I didn't know at this time what MY present was, a wine/drinks fridge maybe??

So this morning open the present, it was a pressure washer (yay, wanted one for a long time now) only to find it doesn't actually attach to a hose so I can do the patio/decking etc It's a mobile pressure washer so has a tank (2litre ish) you can fill and take it places and wash your bike down!!!

I'm also T2 diabetic which both sons know..

19yr old brought me a lovely bottle of Prosecco and a box of chocolates.. shouldn't eat or drink either really.

No card from either, but I guess it's the thought that counts, forgive me if I look a little

I got nothing from my two teens. Preteen got me a lovely card and tiny pack of chocolates last week. My best friend gave me flowers and chocolates as she knows how much I have struggled with my mental health the past couple of years.

2 sons - 12&17

I was amazed they even got out of bed before 10am for me, felt quite honoured. DS2 is self isolating so DS1 was on present duty and did a good job

DS1 made me a coffee this afternoon!

Yes.. ds(18) popped over - socially distanced of course - to give me gifts and a card. Ds(14) brought me coffee in bed, and an apology that the gift he’d ordered online was delayed in the post (understandable given Covid!) I’ve been a single mum for the last six Mother’s Days, and every year they’ve organised something between them. I even overheard ds2 reminding his friends to get something for their mums when they were gaming online together earlier this week! I’d be really disappointed if they didn’t remember.. I don’t expect anything expensive, in fact it doesn’t have to cost anything, it’s the thought that I appreciate. I think it’s good for kids to think about other people occasionally!
Having said that, I kind of think if it’s your husband with the expectations, he should be facilitating gift giving.

Yes - DS walked (unprompted according to DH) to the local mini supermarket yesterday.

Today I got a card, a box of nice chocolates and a bunch of Daffodils.

Very happy mother here (he's 17).

It's your day, if you're happy, then it's no one else's business.

Dh is pretty crap at cards presents etc but does try to remind the kids about doing a card etc. Dd2 11 is my only hope for thoughtful presents in the future as she likes giving and wrapping presents and making cards. Dd1 is 14 and literally doesn't bother. She only made a card for my birthday after repeated hints and reminders from me. And today she showed me a picture she'd drawn for me on her tablet. I asked her to email it to me so I could print it. Then handed the paper back to her and suggested she might want to write a message on it! Ds 10 is fairly hopeless too, luckily cubs gave him a card and got him to colour it. At least he wrote a nice message inside. Unlike dd1 who wrote "to mum happy mother's day love dd1" Hardly gushing.

bonbon ours, that's pretty much what dc1 wrote in my card (which dh provided) I am bad cop parent so quite sure it was a dig to put bare minimum in a card which she would get away with. I'm not rising to it, we're waiting for CAMHs and that situation, along with teen attitude, means it would be easy to add fuel to a fire. Dc2 wrote a lovely message which was fab.

My teen gave me a hug after dinner if that counts. Haven’t heard from DD today.

I’ve never made a fuss about Mother’s Day to be honest.

DS 17 made me breakfast, salmon and scrambled eggs (I had bought these yesterday and pointed them out to him in the fridge last night)
Then an Amazon delivery arrived at 5pm which included my card, some toblerones and a wine bottle stopper!
He did make an effort, I was a bit sad at 4pm thinking pfft if I hadn't got the breakfast stuff in then I wouldn't have had anything to mark the occasion. Little did I know he had ordered something.
I'll mention to him at some point the importance of getting the gifts in advance so you don't leave the recipient waiting all day lol

My ex (his dad) was thoroughly useless with gifting. I think I received one gift the whole 10 years we were together, and it was a cookbook! I really don't want Ds to end up like that, someone who doesn't give a shit. So yea, I'm pleased this year

Yes, home made cake, sandwiches, cards and the wildest funkiest high heeled boots ever. I was very spoiled by both my teen and my adult daughter - they are the best.

Teen son said happy mothers day
Teen daughter not said or done anything lol

Shitty Mother’s Day for me.
I shouldn’t be surprised really.

2021 is turning into as much of a crap show as 2020 was.

Mine do.

DS wasn't up in time to bring me a cup of tea in bed but did get me a very funny card (from an online company) and gift bought on Amazon - it helps when they're old enough to have a debit card and an Amazon account!

DD is at uni but had some homemade cakes delivered by a local cakemaker which I though was lovely as I've not had anything like that before

I remember the first mother's day after I split with my ex both my son's walked to the shops together when they were in their early teens and returned with a very strange aassortment of items which they proceeded to give me. Still very sweet.
Since then they have proceeded to be very thoughtful and kind with their gifts. Today is both Mother's day and my birthday, they have both been very kind and thoughtful with their gifts.

Dd always has done, since she was getting regular higher amounts of pocket money. Before that dh would help her sort it.

She's 18y and at university now. She sent a card and gift through the post which arrived earlier in the week - fizz and chocolate so a good choice for me :)

Eve

Youngest DS at uni sent me some nice bottles of wine“

Excellent parenting, I’d say, Eve 🤣🍷

Popcornbetty

'I know our adult daughter has wasted money on stuff I don’t want or need. I’d much, much rather it was spent on our grandchild or themselves.'

That's so lovely, my dm would never say that and would be a bit miffed with no gift. The worst thing is she hasn't actively parented for years let a lone been a great mother or grandparent either! Having my own dc i will feel the same as you do when they are much older!

Hey, Betty 👋. Do you know, I thought when I wrote that that I must be a real killjoy. So, thank you and I hope you had the loveliest day.

After this past year, I just want to know when Kids’ Day will be. Our grown up ones have been astonishing.

Mine are 19 and 21. I had a full cooked breakfast in bed this morning, endless cups of tea with home made cookies, pre-dinner Prosecco and a fabulous roast lamb dinner with a very good bottle of wine from the local wine merchant.

I think that’s awful personally op - they couldn’t have sorted a card or a bunch of daffodils between them?

I’m with your DH, I’d be appalled at their behaviour. After everything you do for them/have done for them.

I feel sorry for their future partners.