If your mum was a SAHM, are you one too?

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And vice versa, so if your mum worked out of the home, did you follow in her footsteps or did you become a SAHM?

Forgot to add, mum had to find f. T work when they divorced. I was about 12 or 13. She worked f. T until retirement.

My mum was a SAHM until my younger sister went to school, then she worked on and off, always PT.

I worked PT when my DC were little, increasing my hours as they got older, and now work FT from home.

It's worked well for me. I couldn't have given up work completely and prefer having my own money.

My mother was a SAHM. She ended up very bitter with crippling lack of self esteem.
unsurprisingly I'm not a SAHM.

Other way round for me. My dm worked full time all through my childhood and I was a sahm for 12 years.

My mum was a SAHM once she had DC. I watched her get completely financially screwed over by my Dad when he had an affair and left, 6 months before he died. I vowed I would never leave myself in such a vulnerable position so have always worked. DSis however is also a SAHM, (having witnessed the same fall out), which surprises me a little, but she's married to a very wealthy man and has never been terribly career minded. We're both happy with our decisions.

That's exactly how I feel redsky
Also mine talks very negatively about the world and hasn't a good word to say about anyone or anything. Even her friends. So I think It comes from her own insecurity.

I actually don't remember if my mum worked or not when we were very young. I remember she went to university when I was about 13 and worked after that.

I worked part time until DC was 8 then went full time.

My mum was a SAHP and so am I. The difference is that I had a professional career before having children and am already looking at retraining in something I am passionate about. I’ll probably only work part-time, but I will move on. My mum never returned to the workplace and my dad didn’t really treat her well. DH is very positive towards me, we have equal access to money and he is happy for me to do what I want to going forwards.

My mum was a SAHM, I'm not. Partly because we can't afford it (turns out my parents couldn't really afford it either, dad just worked crazy hours to enable it) but also because I'd go mad. But I do feel guilty they aren't getting the childhood I did.

My mum was a sahm and she was/is also very dependant on us. She is very lonely these days and struggles to do anything by herself

I'm at home right now, training and looking after dc. I've worked 2days since dc1 was born and will continue to do so until dc is in school. I want to always be around for my children though so my plan is to become self employed so I can always be there for pick ups/drop offs and weekends

No. I see my mum now, no money of her own, dependent on my dads earnings for when she wants to spend money! I know it was more the done thing in the 80’s for the mums to stay at home but I always knew I wanted my own career - and money!

No my mum was a top solicitor and I’m a SAHM

My mum was a SAHM until I went to middle school, then did some cleaning and part time factory work. Her mum was a housekeeper. I work full time in L&D.

DH's mum worked term times (as a teacher) then retrained into nursing and worked full time. Her mum was a SAHM. He's a SAHD.

DM WOTH FT (secretary)

Me woth pt (teacher)

For most people, isn’t being a SAHM a ‘for a time’ thing rather than a ‘for forever’ thing? My Mum was a SAHM until my youngest sibling went to school, then she resumed her career - very successfully. Likewise, I stayed at home while mine were babies/toddlers but went back after that.

My mum worked as a dinner lady when I was at school. Then did various part time jobs at different times when we were teenagers and beyond.

My mum was a predominately a stay at home housewife but worked sporadically on teatimes cleaning.

I'm a housewife but during that time I got my degree, my masters and now studying a PHD so I'm working in my own way.

My DM always worked full time and I, too , envied my peers who mainly had SAHMs. I have worked part time as a compromise from only a few hours a week from 12 weeks to 2 years to 30 -40 hours since. I loved being at home with them but love work too and have had an expensive education and training that I feel a strong sense of duty about using.

Forgot to add I work part time admin work currently wfh normally office based

Mum stayed at home, my dad didn't do a job which meant itself to her being able to work back in the 80s when there was less childcare.

I work pretty much full time in a career profession. I can't say that her choices had any reflection on what I've done though - we're very different people in personality and academically, so we made very different choices.

@SophieGiroux

My mum worked while my friends mums were at home. I always vowed that I would be at home for my children so trained for a job that has enabled me to be flexible.

This is me. I own my own business and was determined to be able to be around lots. Planned it years before my dd was even conceived.

My mum worked part time most of my childhood I think. She worked for the CAB most of the time I remember.
My dad worked full time.
They divorced after 25 years; my mum got half my dad’s (final salary) pension.

I have a similar working pattern to my mum & have married a man in the same profession as my dad...

For most people, isn’t being a SAHM a ‘for a time’ thing rather than a ‘for forever’ thing? My Mum was a SAHM until my youngest sibling went to school, then she resumed her career - very successfully. Likewise, I stayed at home while mine were babies/toddlers but went back after that.

Not necessarily. My beloved Auntie left work when her kids were born and never went back - they're 23 and 27 now.

Likewise, I actually went back to work when my DS was a year old and left to become a SAHM when he was four.

Mine was a SAHM. I grew up watching her trapped in an unhappy marriage due lack of confidence and financial independence. I have always worked and had enough of an income to know I could manage on my own.

I'm a sahm Mum, the boys need transportation to school ( 50 mins each way ) and will do until they are 16 -
Currently 12 and 8 so a while yet.

We chose to move out a little bit as we wanted somewhere with land for our horses. They didn't want to move schools nor did we want to move them so we are committed to driving them for until they leave.

Even when they've left school I have lots of animals on top of our horses so am always busy. If I needed to work I would of course but I am in a fortunate position, this could change at any time though given the current climate.

My Mum always worked and I was a latchkey kid, she enjoyed working though and I think would have been a very bored sahm.