Wow, there's a lot to unpick here: Dredging up some long-past 'sin'; putting all the blame on Meghan; pretending the occasional raised-eyebrow type comment about another royal remotely compares to the tidal wave of hate Meghan has received.
I don't know why the graveyard photos are being dredged out yet again, but are people really so naive to not realise this is about money? (Okay racism plays a part but a big part is money.)
The reason Harry and Meghan were dragged for the photos isn't because they posed for them, it's because they used their own photographer rather than allowing the RR access. A great deal of the press vitriol has been over their refusal to engage with the Royal Rota.
Other senior and minor royals do stuff like be photographed looking sad in graveyards all the time, and it's applauded by the press. The reason is because they make money from it. Images of royals sell for huge amounts, a single pap photo of Meghan and Archie could easily sell for over a million pounds.
A few journalists and photographers have explicitly spoken about the loss to their income from Meghan leaving, and one photographer has been very active in tweeting that he was planning to put his kids through private school off Meghan's back and whining that he's now broke thanks to her decision to leave the UK.
I'm not sure if people realise how much money other people make off of Meghan. Meghan sells: you might not like it, but she does. Massively. A lot of people working in the British press were rubbing their hands with glee with the expectation that Meghan would make them very wealthy. Her refusal to do the royal rota or to permit photographers access to Archie has cost them a ton of money.
That's the main reason she became public enemy #1: because she lost them money. Forget all the rest, like most things it all comes down to ££££££££.
That's why they kicked up such a fuss and pretended Meghan not posing on the hospital steps was disrespectful to royal history or to Diana or to Kate or whatever: because she cost them SO much money by releasing her own photos rather than posing for photos the paparazzi would own the rights to.
Kate is mostly beloved by the press because she and her family have had a policy of cooperating with the press and specifically cooperating with the paps since she first started dating William. Meaning the press always knew they could make money off her. Even when she was being attacked by the press during the early years of her marriage, she never denied them access. I will give Kate credit, she's a very smart cookie and cool-headed enough not to piss off people with the power to damage her, and it must have hurt like hell to 'play nice' with the same people writing misogynistic and classicist trash about her and her mother.
The irony is that Kate actually has somewhat gone down the same path as Meghan in trying to control ownership and financial rights to images of herself and the Cambridge children. The reason KP's publicity department has worked so hard to push the image of Kate as a dedicated amateur photographer is largely financial and to do with control and copyright. And it's a lot harder for the press to attack "devoted loving mum who just enjoys taking pics of her own kiddies" than "Duchess hires posh photographer like some twat who thinks she's special." There actually was a pushback in the press over Kate doing this, the press were not happy at all and when she first started releasing her own copyrighted images there were a few out of nowhere Kate-negging articles published to send her a message to knock it off. That's why the Cambridges so frequently release photos and news and why they publicise their Zooms so much, to try to strike a balance between keeping the press happy, and retaining control of their own images.
There's definitely a valid criticism to make about Meghan's decision to burn bridges and be so gung ho in punishing the press (even though the press have been vile and racist towards her, and I can understand her not wanting to let racist bullies profit from her child).
But please remember that the press have an agenda, and that the press lie. If Harry and Meghan had done what the other royals do and phoned up the British press prior to doing their 'looking sad in a graveyard' thing, they would not have received this criticism. The ONLY reason they are being punished is because the press were counting on a huge payday and feel Meghan has taken that away from them.