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Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 11:34

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better Hmm
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 13:17

@Xerochrysum

Meh, this is none issue for me. Everyone's on the edge, kind of scary, tbh, if this was serious.
I hope that it is obvious that while I did shout at ds, on the whole tongues on this thread are veyr firmly in cheeks.

as I have said (repeatedly) they are fundamentally pretty good.
Just the odd teen moment.

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Bibidy · 09/02/2021 13:18

@Dyrne

Am I the only one who thinks this is absolutely batshit?

The girlfriend contributes towards food bills. Why does your desire to have milk trump hers?

And you honestly sent someone out during a global pandemic for a completely non essential item that would have been replaced in 2 hours’ time anyway?

Nobody should use up the last of the milk in the middle of the night when they know people will be up wanting it in the morning.

It's just being considerate, DS and GF could have had toast or something instead. They both could have anticipated that at least one other member of the household might have wanted a hot drink in the morning.

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 13:19

@MrsBerthaRochester

You let your daughter go to the shop?! Rather than drag your last,entitled son out to f bed?! Way to teach both of them that women will always pick up the slack for useless men. It sounds to me that your son has you all right under her s thumb. Are you going to accompany him to uni to make sure he gets his s last ass out if bed?
Grin

yes of course dear, that's exactly what happened.

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Ikora · 09/02/2021 13:21

We had a discussion about DS GF moving in for lockdown. They did finish A levels last year and she is at a local university, he is awaiting a place on a course. Her parents were incredibly unhappy so it’s didn't go ahead and overall I think it was for the best. We had even bought a mini fridge for his room, it now has DH beer in it.

I would have been livid about the milk.

billybagpuss · 09/02/2021 13:21

Not the point of the thread but I found the best place to hide chocolate is the back Of the veg drawer under something like celery.

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 13:23

You know when I starte dthis thread, I really didn't think that the strange thing for all would be that he and his gf were eating cereal at 2 am.

Didn't any of you do that as teens?
My brothers and I were often up after our parents and making tea and toast at 2 am wouldn't have been strange. Granted that would have been school holidays not term time, but that is one of the weird things happening in lockdown, the lines are blurred.

I don't find teenagers up late a surprise at all. But then I also used to read my book until I had finished, sometimes 3 am!

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Pinkywoo · 09/02/2021 13:23

"Am I the only one who thinks this is absolutely batshit?"

"Yes, you are
HTH"

Fuckingcrustybread you beat me to it! Grin

mustbebetter · 09/02/2021 13:23

keep some UHT oat milk or similar for emergencies.

Bibidy · 09/02/2021 13:23

I second the idea of getting a carton of UHT milk as well by the way.

Perfect for tea and coffee as it makes no difference, but you wouldn't want it on cereal.

Ellie56 · 09/02/2021 13:23

I feel your pain OP.

We used to have this with DS2. He has to have elephant sized portions of cereal with a bucketful of milk every time. It is beyond annoying. Grr!

Now when I see we are on the last bottle of milk, I siphon some off into a small jug and secrete it in the garage for my morning tea.

Tigerzmum · 09/02/2021 13:24

First off, this is a great place to let of steam, letting off steam is healthy!
Second, my suggestion, you can get a lot of headspaces listening to the radio or even spotify (on the device of your choice with head-phones; there's so much to hear and it's a large universe.

Even though you're physically in lock-down, emotionally you are travelling the universe, alone! -You'll even forget about the need for milk..... (ps and I am not making light of your plight, as I've been there.)

Blobby10 · 09/02/2021 13:29

*@steppemum * I feel your pain! My now grown up children knew from an early age that leaving Mum without milk for her morning coffee was tantamount to inviting a screaming banshee into the house Grin. And they didn't like those! To those suggesting you keep a stash of UHT milk hidden for emergencies - ---bleuugghh!! 1. It HAS to be proper milk in morning tea and coffee 2. why should you be subject to such revolting stuff just because your teen is selfish?!

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 09/02/2021 13:29

Have you asked him how he'd feel when he and his lady love get up for midnight muchies (wtf!) to find the food they wanted gone because you ate it? Would he be 'chill'?

sueelleker · 09/02/2021 13:31

@morninglive

I have a tin of dried milk stashed away for emergencies. It never goes off, and is ok in coffee. Not the point but milk seems to be one of those things constantly running out.
It will go off eventually; I keep some for when I make bread-it's not a frequent occurrence, and when I used some once it made a nasty sludge in the mug.
MoveAsideCherry · 09/02/2021 13:31

Would there have been enough milk for everyone before 10 or just enough left for 1-2 people? If you had all got up at 9am and had cereal together would somebody have had none?
Def keep aome uht in op as its a lifesaver!

TeeBee · 09/02/2021 13:32

Teenagers need reminding sometimes of the importance of things and of social etiquette. I can't imagine the stress my household would have if I screeched at people over a bit of milk...and I get the pain of no tea first thing. I certainly wouldn't be screaming at them in front of their partners. I hate people shouting at me so I try not to do it to them. And bloody hell, I get the midnight feasts...I have my two DS' doing it nightly. So many Weetabix-glued bowls.

But I really don't understand why you just wouldn't wait until he got up and say 'ohh, you buggers, you drank all the milk last night. Next time, could you just make sure you leave a bit for your poor old mum as I have to get up early and you know how much I need my morning brew.' In my house that would have resulted 'oh, sorry mum, never realised/forgot. Yeah sure'. They might forget the odd time but mostly they'd remember. I couldn't live with these dramatics.

Coffeecreativity · 09/02/2021 13:32

@steppemum

Oh my life the constant eating.

4 teens, it is like locusts in the house. I can't keep up.

When I ordered the shopping last night, it was so expensive. They aren't eating fancy stuff. Toast, cereal, bagels, instant noodles etc etc. ds and his gf buy loads of their own stuff to to 'top up'
But I just can't keep the cupboards full.

Oh I love these posts atm - they make me feel normal.

I have spent effing HUNDREDS on food this week (was expecting snow and then the forecast changed) and yet they appear complaining there is no food in the house. We can hardly move for food.

And the empty wrappers in the fridge and cupboards ... Angry

MoveAsideCherry · 09/02/2021 13:32

I forget the make but the bottled uht is actually really nice and not like the awful cartons.

Coffeecreativity · 09/02/2021 13:33

@billybagpuss

Not the point of the thread but I found the best place to hide chocolate is the back Of the veg drawer under something like celery.
This is genius!
CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 13:34

I feel the same. I'm suffocating m

clary · 09/02/2021 13:35

I'm glad it's not just me that hides food. I sometimes find bars of choc in my knicker drawer and think oh yes, I was going to make brownies.

My best place ATM is the less-used oven. Piano stool is a top spot tho!

Viviennemary · 09/02/2021 13:35

Chuck his girlfriend out for a start. . The two of them are being really selfish. I'd have been totally furious.

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 13:35

@TeeBee

Teenagers need reminding sometimes of the importance of things and of social etiquette. I can't imagine the stress my household would have if I screeched at people over a bit of milk...and I get the pain of no tea first thing. I certainly wouldn't be screaming at them in front of their partners. I hate people shouting at me so I try not to do it to them. And bloody hell, I get the midnight feasts...I have my two DS' doing it nightly. So many Weetabix-glued bowls.

But I really don't understand why you just wouldn't wait until he got up and say 'ohh, you buggers, you drank all the milk last night. Next time, could you just make sure you leave a bit for your poor old mum as I have to get up early and you know how much I need my morning brew.' In my house that would have resulted 'oh, sorry mum, never realised/forgot. Yeah sure'. They might forget the odd time but mostly they'd remember. I couldn't live with these dramatics.

Well aren't you just princess perfect?
NoSquirrels · 09/02/2021 13:35

I made tea and toast for myself at 2am last week - I don't think it's that odd.

I could have gone at 7am, but as a matter of principle, in my tea-less fury, I decided that ds needed to be woken up to join my early morning misery.

This made me Grin

Take a marker pen to the recently delivered shopping today, and mark a line on the bottle under which the milk level may not fall, under pain of death.

It's clear there are two types of people on this thread, those who need the caffeinated beverage the way they want it as soon as they wake up, and those whose worldview is All Wrong.

BloggersBlog · 09/02/2021 13:36

you are up and dressed, why can't you go and get milk?

Well, THEY were up and (presumably) dressed at 2am so why didnt THEY go and get some then? Unless of course you are miles and miles from a 24 hour shop/petrol station.

Probably do them good to get some exercise, help him sleep better

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