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Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

363 replies

steppemum · 09/02/2021 11:34

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better Hmm
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

OP posts:
Devlesko · 09/02/2021 13:37

At 18 he is living with his gf, time for him to grow up.
I'd have put my foot down with a gf living with us, especially at that age, he's too immature for a serious relationship.
Why did you agree, did you not think they'd just take the piss?

MintyMabel · 09/02/2021 13:37

Definitely not unreasonable. It isn't just milk, its way more than that.

Take his phone. When he complains say "calm down, it's just a phone"

I'd have had him up at 6.30 to go get some!

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treeeeemendous · 09/02/2021 13:40

YANBU this is why I have a secret box in the garage. It has uht milk, coffee, diet cokes, biscuits for unexpected visitors, chocolates and things I like 😁 they will never know. It is a storage crate amongst many others which they wouldn't dream of looking in as no interest.

diddl · 09/02/2021 13:40

"Take his phone. When he complains say "calm down, it's just a phone"

GrinGrinGrin

MintyMabel · 09/02/2021 13:41

But I really don't understand why you just wouldn't wait until he got up and say 'ohh, you buggers, you drank all the milk last night

Because it was morning and she wanted tea, and he doesn't get up till after 10.

LindaEllen · 09/02/2021 13:42

Similar happened to me yesterday. Got up and there was no bread. Not one slice. 17yo DSS had come down at some point in the night and eaten just over half a loaf of bread and an entire block of cheese. I always do bits and bobs round the house to push breakfast until later (I have it closer to lunchtime) so it was 11 before I realised we had no bread. He was still asleep despite the fact he was supposed to be on online classes from 8.

I was so annoyed. In my opinion, you don't use the last of ANYTHING that's a staple like bread, milk etc just for a snack. I can understand perhaps if he's got up and had the last two slices for breakfast because nobody knew how low we'd got, but ffs, more than half a loaf was left last time I'd checked.

And it's not like we bloody starve him. He gets all his meals and he had a snack with us last night before bed as well. This was an extra snack! In the middle of the fucking night fgs.

ssd · 09/02/2021 13:43

I'm the lone voice feeling sorry for your son but I'm a soft touchGrin

He sounds a decent boy really

SummerHouse · 09/02/2021 13:45

Bloody meals, just bloody meals

I feel very close to you right now OP. I think I love you. As a soul sister.

I would try green food colouring in the milk if ever it's low. At least you know they are not going to bother to throw it out as that would require effort.

I think you have a lovely DD and a lovely family. But we can all have too much of a good thing!

EberhardtSmallcock · 09/02/2021 13:45

OP, I love, love, love your posts.

You are saying it all for me, and while I'm sorry you're in this situation, I am relieved that I'm not the only one (right down to the "it's only milk". "Chill" tends to have the opposite effect on me, too).

Mandalakia · 09/02/2021 13:47

My Dad would roar at anyone that used the last of the milk. Literally roar. Then send us round to the neighbours with an empty cup to beg for milk AND go to the shop to buy more. I still get cold sweats using the last of the milk in my own house where I'm in charge.

unlikelytobe · 09/02/2021 13:49

Well, I'm not sure what his GF is like generally but she was part of this thoughtlessness. Have either of them apologised? On the whole they sound pretty good for housebound teens but using up all the milk in the middle of the night? No, no, no!

And UHT is crap. You're entitled to a decent cuppa first thing with proper milk.

BottleFlipper · 09/02/2021 13:49

At least he's going to have learnt a valuable historical lesson.

Never, in the field of human conflict, has saying "calm down" to someone had that effect.

HollowTalk · 09/02/2021 13:49

@BigSandyBalls2015

It is things like this that tip us over the edge … it's not always the big things. Perhaps lockdown has made it worse.

DD borrowed my airpods recently and assured me she would put them back where she found them in time for my walk the next day, as I like to listen to podcasts. Were they there … nope. Woke her up, found one in her bed, sleeping on it ….. no sign of the other one. I was so so angry with her, and I'm usually a very calm reasonable sort of person. DH just didn't get it, nor did my other DD.

It's that feeling that you can't have anything for yourself that's so frustrating, isn't it?
20newnames · 09/02/2021 13:50

I'm with you OP, the morning cup of tea is sacrosanct. I do not function without it. We are very clear that there should always be enough milk for a cup of tea. I would have been mad too.

And the calm down thing, aghhhh! DS2 sometimes says "that sounds like a you problem" which drives me mad!

Teens up and eating at random times in the night here too. I'd love to just tell them to go to bed and stay there but they're not 8 any more Confused

LizBennet · 09/02/2021 13:52

I’m with you OP. I scream like Regina George when there’s no milk in the morning.

Faultymain5 · 09/02/2021 13:53

I'm not sure why you think you are being unreasonable. I would have lost it with them (and in fact did) during the first lock down, much less the 3rd lockdown with some other person in the house as well.

For clarity your reaction seems perfectly normal to me.

Comefromaway · 09/02/2021 13:53

That's where dogs and burglar alarms come in useful. NO roaming the house at night in our house or you disturb the dog/set the alarm off.

Brefugee · 09/02/2021 13:54

Didn't any of you do that as teens?

well, we had had social etiquette and not consuming the last of anything for a snack so no, it wouldn't have happened. But yeah, the amount of toast and butter we got through would have fed an army.

Even so - i would have made him get up and go to the shop as well as shouting. That really makes the lesson sit.

As for the "aww it was only a bit of milk" brigade: in 20 years when someone is writing about their fucking greedy fucker other half eating all the snacks and the kid's lunches - it will be your kids doing that because they never learned anything apart from putting themselves first Grin. Own it.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 09/02/2021 13:56

You're definitely not being unreasonable. I dragged my DS out of bed on more than one occasion to buy milk when he'd come in and drank a couple of pints after a night out (pre lockdown obviously!) so that we could have our morning cuppas. How else will they learn to be more considerate?

MerryChristmasToYou · 09/02/2021 13:57

The standby carton of UHT is a waste of time. What happens is that the CFs will open it to make one cup of tea, then your backup will have gone.

I used to have a standby carton of UHT. Skimmed to discourage DH and DC from using it. DSis came round, decided to make herself a cup of tea, but opened the UHT instead of semi-skimmed from the fridge.

sashh · 09/02/2021 13:57

I think you were restrained not to have woken him with a bucket of water in his face.

Tip for the future, freeze some milk in an ice cube tray and hide in the freezer, a milk cube is just enough for a hot drink.

I'm lactose intolerant but (pre covid) my guests are not.

changingmine · 09/02/2021 14:01

Just really shocked by the show of empathy on here, well done everyone (except the sanctimommy who only ever does things calmly)

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 14:02

@TeeBee

CandyLeBonBon Oh do fuck off, there's a dear. I just don't go around my house screeching at my children. Not sure how that makes me a bloody princess. Makes for a calmer household.
No sorry. I won't fuck off. But thanks for the invitation. I'd rather have a nice cup of tea and not be patronised thanks!
Snowwaiting · 09/02/2021 14:02

Cravendale is quite useful to keep at the top of the fridge as it lasts a couple of weeks unlike unfiltered milk and doesn’t taste different like UHT .. I write the date on the cap so I use it in date