Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

[steppemum]

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

I keep long life milk in.

A peculiarly British thread, the fierce attachment to the morning cup of tea. Love it ☺

Hide the milk before you go to bed!
I'd be raging too..need my tea in the morning definitely. Lockdown chores just seem relentless and we have only three in the house..feel your pain

Blimey @mam0918 my eldest is 19 and on universal credit. God knows what you'd make of him!!

I feel your pain, I really do, this is all too much!

@CandyLeBonBon

Blimey *@mam0918* my eldest is 19 and on universal credit. God knows what you'd make of him!!

😂

Or mine, emerges only to park piles of laundry (which I suspect is not even dirty but that she can't be bothered to put away) or to complain there's no avocado/coconut milk/

@changingmine I feel your pain.

@steppemum

You know when I starte dthis thread, I really didn't think that the strange thing for all would be that he and his gf were eating cereal at 2 am.

Didn't any of you do that as teens?
My brothers and I were often up after our parents and making tea and toast at 2 am wouldn't have been strange. Granted that would have been school holidays not term time, but that is one of the weird things happening in lockdown, the lines are blurred.

I don't find teenagers up late a surprise at all. But then I also used to read my book until I had finished, sometimes 3 am!

My DP is 40 this year and he still has a penchant for 2/3/4am cocoa pops. Coincidentally OP, he’s a night owl too, if he’s not working he sleeps in till 111/12/1 sometimes, but doesn’t typically come to bed till gone midnight.

I can still remember my father calling me selfish for finishing off the milk so he had none for morning tea. This was many years ago. I never did it again. But at the time, just an unthinking teenager. Maybe yours is the same. With a big household, must be hard.

I would have continued to shout until he got himself out of bed. I would not have allowed your daughter to go. I 100% believe in small confronts, it keeps us sane. They know you like your tea in the morning and still didnt have to citrusy to keep just a little bit.... nope!! I would have stood in his room!!

My 16 year old learnt the hard way to make sure to at least leave enough milk for my morning coffee or face the grumpy bastard wrath of the not a morning person me. YANBU OP!!!! It should be a given!

Bloody hell nothing worse than getting ready for work and no milk. Or in my case milk has gone off. I cried the last time (two weeks ago). I had powdered stuff but its grim. Ended up with coffee as its tolerable with grim powder. It's just that everything is emotionally draining at the moment. In your case, drinking all the milk and not even leaving a little in a cup for you is thoughtless, he will understand when he is getting up at stupid a clock and needs a hot drunk to get his insides to cooperate. Or is that just me. 🤪

I'd have lost my shit too if my morning coffee has been comprised. Coffee to me is like air, essential.

Your other daughter probably wanted to escape the atmosphere. It is only milk at the end of the day. No one died.

🙄

I feel your pain. I live as a single parent to 3 teenagers, they are decent human beings but sometimes! The laundry, meals etc, last minute requests for things...I have lost the rag sometimes

You are 100% in the right OP. Teenagers are selfish and need to be shouted at from time to time

My teenager is so crazy with milk that I've set our standing order at 16 pints a week and make him pay for it. I still hide one at the back of the fridge when we're running low.

Also - in case you are getting grief over "allowing" him to make food in the middle of the night, my teenage woke us all recently by frying chicken at 4am. I repeat: teenagers are selfish. And keep weird hours. And are always hungry. All of this is made worse by lockdown

And were there cereal bowls left in the sink OP??? Badly or barely wiped countertops??? I've woken mine at 6am to come down and do his dishes!!

I have got nuts about exactly the same thing in the past..teenagers are horrible 😒
I had a meltdown about an advent calendar one year. I had trailed around town at the end of a busy day, with heavy shopping, to finding my 17 Yr old an appropriate one (not Peppa pig, lol), get home and distribute them, tea time comes and the CF has eaten the whole bloody thing. I was so upset, pretty sure he also told me to "calm down it was only chocolate". Aaaaaargh!!

I'm clearly a horrible parent because I'd never have my 18 year olds girlfriend/boyfriend live with us, I'd not allow meals to be made and eaten at 2am and I'd go spare if they thoughtlessly drank my milk

And yes I have teenagers.

@lovelemoncurd

Your other daughter probably wanted to escape the atmosphere. It is only milk at the end of the day. No one died.

They might if they do it again though!

@mam0918 Hes 18, hes an adult not a 'school aged child' lol school aged adult then? Education is still compulsory in the UK until 18. For many that's 6th form to do A Levels.

I expect adult children to grow up and fly the nest, if they are staying I damn sure expect them to follow rules and basic respect. And for one selfish act when they weren't thinking you'd see them on the street. How ridiculous.

And one of them is a moocher not even her child why is she a moocher? There's been no discussion on the financial arrangements bribe op stating Ds and gf buy food.

I have stayed at lots of people houses in my younger days I would never eat/drink all their food in the middle of the night and if I did I would damn sure expect to be told to leave and never invited back how terribly dramatic. Of course I'd expect to be homeless of I ever did something inconsiderate!! Sounds like you didn't have the most secure upbringing and I'm sorry for that, but making your child homeless because they drank the milk that at the best least would be replaced in 3 hours is irrational.

i keep a small pint of milk in the freezer for exactly this. Stand in warm water soon defrosts enough for a cuppa.

@PollyPear

I'm clearly a horrible parent because I'd never have my 18 year olds girlfriend/boyfriend live with us, I'd not allow meals to be made and eaten at 2am and I'd go spare if they thoughtlessly drank my milk

And yes I have teenagers.

Do you stay up 24 hours a day to supervise? How would you know? You have to sleep sometimes! Maybe they do, but they're very stealthy!!