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Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

363 replies

steppemum · 09/02/2021 11:34

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better Hmm
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

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ThatsnotmyBorishishairistoneat · 09/02/2021 12:19

I would have lost the plot too! Need my tea in the morning!

ParkheadParadise · 09/02/2021 12:22

and I got - Why are you so angry Mum, it's just milk.

I'm really sorry @steppemum but that made me laugh.
It brought back memories of dd1 all wide-eyed and innocent telling me to calm down and going off to tell DH that I had lost the plot.😄

Batinhernightdress · 09/02/2021 12:22

I'm going to have to name change now but I have an undercounter fridge which is padlocked shut. I don't care if that seems mean but I was sick of 'wasn't me' finishing the milk or eating four yogurts in one go or inhaling chocolate that I eat slowly over the week. Some times it was the kids or their friends or more than ofter DH. Now I order enough food once a week and divide it up. Mine gets locked away.

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RainingBatsAndFrogs · 09/02/2021 12:23

YANBU! :gavel:

I hope your plot-losing was severe enough to make them think twice next time they are raiding the fridge in the night.

Triffid1 · 09/02/2021 12:24

@Batinhernightdress

I'm going to have to name change now but I have an undercounter fridge which is padlocked shut. I don't care if that seems mean but I was sick of 'wasn't me' finishing the milk or eating four yogurts in one go or inhaling chocolate that I eat slowly over the week. Some times it was the kids or their friends or more than ofter DH. Now I order enough food once a week and divide it up. Mine gets locked away.
Not quite as organised as you but I have started keeping chocolate in hidden drawers in the bedroom. DH's theory is that if it's there, he'll eat it and I should just buy more. But I don't want to buy 4 bars of chocolate because its expensive and because it shouldn't take that level of effort to ensure the chocolate is more evenly distributed....
JackieWeaversZoomAc · 09/02/2021 12:24

Oh God I feel your pain OP and it was very inconsiderate of them not to leave enough milk for your morning tea. They didn't even think about that, they just thought about themselves.

I've started having black coffee recently and I drink coffee in the morning so I have no need for milk at all these days. I don't mind oat milk in my afternoon tea.

It's my kids that like the milk. I've told them I'm not going out for more milk while this weather is on going and it's up to them to ration it for themselves.

I would be suggesting teen and gf buy their own milk moving forwards. No doubt many here will think I'm horrific, but I'm a big fan of fostering independence. And as they have shown they can't think about you, it's not unreasonable to relieve them of that obligation by liberating them of having to consider others, and making them milk self sufficient GrinGrinGrin

BigSandyBalls2015 · 09/02/2021 12:28

It is things like this that tip us over the edge … it's not always the big things. Perhaps lockdown has made it worse.

DD borrowed my airpods recently and assured me she would put them back where she found them in time for my walk the next day, as I like to listen to podcasts. Were they there … nope. Woke her up, found one in her bed, sleeping on it ….. no sign of the other one. I was so so angry with her, and I'm usually a very calm reasonable sort of person. DH just didn't get it, nor did my other DD.

ArmchairTraveller · 09/02/2021 12:29

For that matter I could have gone at 7am, but as a matter of principle, in my tea-less fury, I decided that ds needed to be woken up to join my early morning misery

Yes.
Quite right. 😄

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 12:29

Oh the chocolate posts made me laugh.

I buy chocolate in the weekly shop, and hide it.

my kids kept finding and pinching my chocolate stash.

So I made a rule, you can have one piece, but if you finish the bar, you will die. They did all stick to it.

(and I have a new hiding place they haven't found yet.....)

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SweetPetrichor · 09/02/2021 12:29

If the shopping was coming at 10am, I'm with your son on this one...how hard is it to wait a little bit for your milk. I like my cup of tea in the morning, but I can't say I'd lose the plot if I had to have it without milk or wait a few hours for the shopping to arrive...if I was that dependent on my morning tea I'd be slightly concerned!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 09/02/2021 12:29

When you get back home, a little less angry - you need to have a long, detailed chat.

Reset expectations. Especially regarding their overnight fridge raiding!

And tell DS that if he ever tells you to calm down again he'll find his bags packed and his entitled and gobby arse facing homelessness!

FightingTheFoo · 09/02/2021 12:31

YANBU - btw I keep some 1 pint bottles of milk in the freezer for emergency milkless morninings. It defrosts really quickly.

mumwon · 09/02/2021 12:31

because dh is vulnerable & tea is essential with milk (I am not an addict I am not an addict & my withdrawal from tea is not pretty Grin) I have in my cupboard
2 boxes of 4 LL milk
several tins of evap
& a large box of dried milk
(plus several boxes of tea & coffee)
My dh before covid never understood my keeping a store cupboard -
he has changed his mind
Any of my dc who had done this would have put their lives at serious risk Grin
images of me turning into red eyed monster with steam coming out of ears
(Shudders at thought of milkless tea in morning)

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 12:32

Fundamentally, he is actually OK.
(and much improved as he has hit 18, and started to learn that the world doesn't revolve round him)

Depsite his response this morning, he was first down to bring in the shopping when it arrived and unpacked it all.
I am sure that my response means that they won't risk doing it again.

I do understand the need for locked fridges etc, (I feel your pain!) but I don't think we are there yet.

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MillyMoo1113 · 09/02/2021 12:33

I would have lost the plot too. My DD has a tendency to bake when she can't sleep. And use all the proper butter, I can't eat toast without proper butter and have been known to cry when this or lack of milk at 7am happens. And the constant eating. For some reason I though DD wouldn't eat as much as her older brother when she was a teen. I was wrong.

ThatsnotmyBorishishairistoneat · 09/02/2021 12:35

If the shopping was coming at 10am, I'm with your son on this one...how hard is it to wait a little bit for your milk. I like my cup of tea in the morning, but I can't say I'd lose the plot if I had to have it without milk or wait a few hours for the shopping to arrive...if I was that dependent on my morning tea I'd be slightly concerned!

Rubbish

Nancylovesthecock · 09/02/2021 12:37

He offered to go and live at hers, but I said no way, as he is actually in A level year and I need to keep some sort of an eye on what he is doing school wise.

No you don't, he is 18. He knows what he needs to do for his a-levels.

Time for them to relocate and share the load with her parents methinks.

Original poster
steppemum · 09/02/2021 12:37

Oh my life the constant eating.

4 teens, it is like locusts in the house. I can't keep up.

When I ordered the shopping last night, it was so expensive. They aren't eating fancy stuff. Toast, cereal, bagels, instant noodles etc etc. ds and his gf buy loads of their own stuff to to 'top up'
But I just can't keep the cupboards full.

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callmeadoctor · 09/02/2021 12:37

I would have been furious too. So much so that I would have hidden the delivered milk and made him go and get his own milk for breakfast.

happystory · 09/02/2021 12:38

I once read on here that a mother in a similar situation aggressively hoovered outside the bedroom in question. And may have accidentally knocked against the door too. It's not about the milk, it's the thoughtlessness.

KaleJuicer · 09/02/2021 12:38

I’m still stuck on the fact your DS is doing A levels and has a live in gf and regularly eats at 2am. I appreciate that’s not the point! I would be devastated with no milk and lovely that your dd got it for you. Lots of good milk-hiding ideas here.

sonnysunshine · 09/02/2021 12:41

I hide food all over the house since lock down. My three will scoff all of the cereal/yoghurts/crackers/biscuits/fruit/bread meant for the week in a day. I now hide mine in various spots as they cannot be trusted and blame each other. Current spot is the piano stool as they don't know it has a lid. The boiler cupboard/the car/my sock drawer/the bread maker and every nook and cranny in the kitchen have been compromised.
I think so would actually cause GBH if they took all the milk for my morning tea. And haven't tried to yet.
YANBU in the slightest

Neenan · 09/02/2021 12:42

DD did similar last week and very kindly left a note on the worktop that said “we need more
Milk” which greeted us at 05:30. Like no shit Sherlock! Confused

For this and many other reasons I always keep a small one pint bottle of milk in the freezer and defrost it in the microwave in emergencies and when returning from holidays etc.

Dyrne · 09/02/2021 12:42

Am I the only one who thinks this is absolutely batshit?

The girlfriend contributes towards food bills. Why does your desire to have milk trump hers?

And you honestly sent someone out during a global pandemic for a completely non essential item that would have been replaced in 2 hours’ time anyway?

mumwon · 09/02/2021 12:43

@happystory aggressively hoovering Grin

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