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Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 11:34

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

OP posts:

KeepWashingThoseHands · 09/02/2021 15:33

No teens in this house yet but everyone knows if I don’t have milk for my tea in the morning my mood will be thunderous! Waiting over 3 hours for a delivery and having black tea or worse almond milk in it are not viable alternatives.

In your situation I’d lose my shit as well OP but think there’s also a bigger discussion here with DS and the girlfriend about having midnight feasts as 2am and general entitlement.

May the force :)

Lweji · 09/02/2021 15:33

CleverCatty

I use long life as I don't particularly like milk anyway, but drink it in the morning with coffee as it is fast and liquid.
And I use good quality long life.

Anyway, I tend to have several cartons at home at any time. Not even an 18 year and a small harem of his girlfriends would probably be able to drink them all at one sitting at 2 am.

On OP's case, she'd have to keep a stash, even between shops, to be on the safe side.

billybagpuss · 09/02/2021 15:34

now, if I coudl just get dd1 to read Douglas Adams, that would improve lock down no end

We had the radio shows on cd when the DD’s were little, they were quotin hh2tg like pros from the age of 7.

I still maintain his best quote, particularly relevant today is..

Anyone capable of getting themselves elected president should on no account be allowed to do the job.

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 09/02/2021 15:34

Woke up and there was no milk...

I'm sure this is the opening of a 12 bar blues number that John Lee Hooker used to sing, is it not?

airbags · 09/02/2021 15:36

@Nancylovesthecock

He offered to go and live at hers, but I said no way, as he is actually in A level year and I need to keep some sort of an eye on what he is doing school wise.

No you don't, he is 18. He knows what he needs to do for his a-levels.

Time for them to relocate and share the load with her parents methinks.

Really! So as parents we relinquish all responsibility for our children because they 're 'adults' or turn 18? How about taking an interest in your kids education, being there if they need some support with their education, decisions for after school years, mental health in lockdown? I don't wrap my teens in cotton wool, they all get on with their work without my interference but your "no you don't" comment is shit. I feel sorry for your kids if you have them.

speakout · 09/02/2021 15:36

Eighteen and having a girlfriend live there?

His toast is buttered on both sides.

Did I miss the part where it is essential to have a teenagers girlfriend live in the family home? Is her own family struggling? Is she in danger?

toomuchtooold · 09/02/2021 15:36

You need one of these OP.

LizBennet · 09/02/2021 15:38

Did I miss the part where it is essential to have a teenagers girlfriend live in the family home? Is her own family struggling? Is she in danger?

I believe that falls under the banner of “none of our business”.

Lweji · 09/02/2021 15:38

Did I miss the part where it is essential to have a teenagers girlfriend live in the family home? Is her own family struggling? Is she in danger?

OP:
his gf is also living here during lockdown

It is so that the two households don't mix during lockdown. Safer this way than for them to meet occasionally.

speakout · 09/02/2021 15:47

I believe that falls under the banner of “none of our business”.

Fair enough-but an 18 year old is a kid in my eyes.
I wouldn't be facilitating such an arrangement.
At 18 we are just starting out on adult life.
Bonds are usually flimsy and short lived.- I know there are exceptions, with partners finding each other early, but usually at this age is is a shagalong.
I would have every support for an older adult child in a long term relationship needing a place to stay.
But at 18??

Nah.

SmallPrawnEnergy · 09/02/2021 15:52

@speakout

I believe that falls under the banner of “none of our business”.

Nah.

Good for you. OP has other thought and um... no one asked for your frankly irrelevant opinion on that matter.

redcandlelight · 09/02/2021 15:53

yanbu (I know I know)
whoever finishes 'vital' consumables has to go and refill. even my teens (younger than yours) know that milk and mayonaise and coffee are sacred and to better go and buy some immediately. or else.

speakout · 09/02/2021 15:56

OP has other thought and um... no one asked for your frankly irrelevant opinion on that matter.

Well not really- she did open a discussion.
Unless only looking for sympathy or "suck it up" type comments, then all views are valid.
And relevant.

It's not a good situation, I am not personally attacking, and my views are as justified as the " buy more UHT" type comments.

ChickenyChick · 09/02/2021 15:58

Haha, you did not train your kids properly

My teens (16, 18) know better than to finish the milk

hell hath no fury but a woman deprived of her morning tea

This lockdown shit is tough, and we're all on edge. It's normal.

Am impressed you are home-schooling your kids, I would not even know where to start teaching DSs with math and further maths a-levels LOL, I could not homeschool them if I tried

Anyway, it's good for us nurturing caring mums to occasionally lose our cool. It teaches them stuff. Like, that we're human

FuckyouCovid21 · 09/02/2021 16:00

@speakout

Eighteen and having a girlfriend live there?

His toast is buttered on both sides.

Did I miss the part where it is essential to have a teenagers girlfriend live in the family home? Is her own family struggling? Is she in danger?

OP has explained why the GF is living with them, perfectly sensible IMO

LH1987 · 09/02/2021 16:00

YANBU, particularly since he refused to go to the shop when asked!

If he put the empty carton back in the fridge, then that is grounds for eviction 😜

islockdownoveryet · 09/02/2021 16:06

Argh I feel your pain , my dd likes to fill my washing basket constantly. Towels , clothes that had on 5 minutes. Sometimes I’ll wash & dry something put it in her room then it’s in the basket unwashed because she claims it’s dirty . A pin prick stain that nobody can see was on it and she’s only wearing it round the house anyway . I know make her do her own washing she’d happily do that but then I’d have the washing machine on twice as much and even more washing drying round the house . If I moan she’ll just say ok .
The food thing not so bad as will pop out and buy what she wants herself and she doesn’t drink much milk but god she’s always in the shower too using all my shampoo.
I love her really but god I hope she moves out in a couple of years .

Chnce · 09/02/2021 16:07

Good comments Speakout. I like your style and enjoying your comments about their validity. It is strange that people come on a "comments" thread and say to some posters that you shouldn't, er, comment- presumably unless to say "aye, yeah thats great" .

My view is that it is a "both sides of the toast buttered" thing, but maybe that way of life suits the OP and her family. But there are dangers perhaps, as you did well to outline.

MissMoped · 09/02/2021 16:14

It seems to me, generally, not referring to OP especially, that there seems to be an increasing move to defining ourselves as "nurturing mums". When really its just doormats, simply there to service their teenage and adult children, even when they are past 18! I'm not talking about babies and young children here by the way. And not saying older teenage and adult children don't need their mums in the traditional sense. But its just this "I put up with crap and that makes me a good mum". Possibly, at times. But I worry it can make mothers into doormats. And the kids grow up as selfish and entitled. After all, maybe they have learnt that only their wishes count?

SleepingStandingUp · 09/02/2021 16:15

@speakout

Eighteen and having a girlfriend live there?

His toast is buttered on both sides.

Did I miss the part where it is essential to have a teenagers girlfriend live in the family home? Is her own family struggling? Is she in danger?

Perhaps op and the GFS parents decided it was essential for their mental well-being to keep seeing each other, and for everyone's physical well-being that they do this legally.
Perhaps they made a sensible decision that 18 year olds aren't always rational and because of their lack of life experiences would be more likely to break rules on seeing each other / touching each other / where it's appropriate to have sex if they lived in seperate households.

These are unprecedented times. The two teenagers have kids who are happy and healthy, obeying the rules of the land and ops house.

No idea of Gf is also doing college but the new arrangements mean her son has caught up on his work and is coping better than many.

Bravo op and dgfs parents I day

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 16:26

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

Woke up and there was no milk...

I'm sure this is the opening of a 12 bar blues number that John Lee Hooker used to sing, is it not?

Sung to the tune of mannish boy!

I woke up this morning
(De duh duh duh duh)
Barely open my eyes
No milk in the fridge now
(De duh duh duh duh)
What a big surprise
(De duh duh duh duh)
Couldn't make my tea now
(De duh duh duh duh)
Felt my anger rise
(De duh duh duh duh)

I got them, yeah I got them can't make my tea milk bluuuueeeessss

speakout · 09/02/2021 16:30

Perhaps they made a sensible decision that 18 year olds aren't always rational

I agree. And I would suggest that most 18 years olds are too young to have a co habiting relationship. There is a reason that it mostly doesn't happen in real life - and I think that's a good thing.
Most 18 year olds are lovely, sometimes' don't know their arse from their elbow, but don't need facilitated in their "grown up" relationships.

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 16:34

Great @speakout then you can make sure that's how you manage YOUR teens. They're all different. Presumably the op has done her own risk assessment and decided, with the help of the gf's parents that this is the best outcome out of all other possible outcomes. If it works for them, for now, that's ok, is t it?

strawberriesontheNeva · 09/02/2021 16:37

I understand completely. They are both taking the piss. Time to give them a few solid rules to live by in your house.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 09/02/2021 16:46

@candylebonbon

That's it!

Can't stop singing it now, while strumming the frying pan!

Thanks

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