Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

[steppemum]

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

I do have a little used piano stool....
(next to the little used piano, now that I think of it, WHY do we still have a piano?)

for the person who commented, I don't home school as in actual home school. I am supervising 3 teens with their online school.

Youngest dd needs a lot of support, and it has to be handled like walking on eggs. It is exhausting.

Sorry @SunshineCake I genuinely wasnt trying to be an arsehole.

No apology needed. I was a bit off so I apologise for that. You explained yourself very well when I missed your point more than once .

I admit to not having read the thread, but fill an ice cube tray with milk and freeze. That way the next time they drink all the milk you can still have your tea

@PrincessBuggerPants

they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.

I get that having a live-in girlfriend may well be a compromise families have to make, but now way in hell should you be putting up with people ratting round the house and making meals at 2am.

Why are they doing that? Have you asked them not to? It's very weird and may not go down particularly well when living in communal accommodation with their peers in a year or two tbh.

Ime they all keep those hours when they're teens. There's barely 2 hours between my teens going to bed and my youngest waking up

@SadderThanEeyore

I admit to not having read the thread, but fill an ice cube tray with milk and freeze. That way the next time they drink all the milk you can still have your tea

Omg. Total genius!

@mam0918 I would have litrally kicked DS out for back answering and a lack of respect like that at his age... Yeah you realise that doesn't reflect as well on you as you think, right? Bragging about how easily you'd see your school aged child on the streets just makes you sound like a bad Mom

There is a reason that it mostly doesn't happen in real life - but it isn't "real life" ATM. In the real world, they wouldn't move dgf in because the kids would just see each other 5 days a week at school and all weekend. They might get agreement for a sleepover one or two days a week at most but they'd literally be in and out of each others houses willy nilly.

@Lweji

The two teenagers have kids who are happy and healthy, obeying the rules of the land and ops house.

Hopefully, not yet.

Oops.

I swear I don't know something op doesn't about her future grandparent status 🤣

@steppemum

and I got - Why are you so angry Mum, it's just milk.

and - you are up and dressed, why can't you go and get milk?
(apart from why should I? - I was on my way out to walk the dog, followed by going to pick up something followed by sorting and unpacking shopping, follwed by a full days work, and he was still in bed)

I realise as I write that I am still cross. An hour stomping over the fields with the dog has not helped.

Sorry OP I laughed at stomping over the fields

@islockdownoveryet

Argh I feel your pain , my dd likes to fill my washing basket constantly. Towels , clothes that had on 5 minutes. Sometimes I’ll wash & dry something put it in her room then it’s in the basket unwashed because she claims it’s dirty . A pin prick stain that nobody can see was on it and she’s only wearing it round the house anyway . I know make her do her own washing she’d happily do that but then I’d have the washing machine on twice as much and even more washing drying round the house . If I moan she’ll just say ok . The food thing not so bad as will pop out and buy what she wants herself and she doesn’t drink much milk but god she’s always in the shower too using all my shampoo. I love her really but god I hope she moves out in a couple of years .

Just pretend to wash some things.

@sadderthaneeyore

Fine idea but don't get the trays mixed up and use OH frozen sperm - easily done and spoils both your tea and everything else...

Well I think you were a lot calmer than I would've been. I fully support losing of the shit for no coffee/tea in the morning!

[quote TwoLeftSocksWithHoles]@sadderthaneeyore

Fine idea but don't get the trays mixed up and use OH frozen sperm - easily done and spoils both your tea and everything else... [/quote]
😱

I am a milk fiend, I can drink pints of the stuff, but even when I was a lot younger and at home I always knew to leave more then enough for mums morning cuppa.

I'm a lot older now, moved out a very long time ago, still drink loads of milk but I still have the habit of leaving enough for morning cuppas even though I rarely make one before work.

[quote TwoLeftSocksWithHoles]@sadderthaneeyore

Fine idea but don't get the trays mixed up and use OH frozen sperm - easily done and spoils both your tea and everything else... [/quote]

[quote PrincessBuggerPants]@steppemum that is an explanation as to why your son was up. But why was his girlfriend up at 2am too?

There are some quite poor boundaries here that aren't going to serve either of them well as they move out/get jobs etc.[/quote]
Sex I am guessing.
Followed by cornflakes.

Ahhh sex and cornflakes. I remember those days 😁

Any UHT milk is disgusting.
Milk has got to be fresh.
Just saying...

@TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams surely they used all the milk by doing it in a bath of milk and cornflakes

[quote SleepingStandingUp]@TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams surely they used all the milk by doing it in a bath of milk and cornflakes[/quote]
Bit chilly!

We freeze all our milk. If it's completely skimmed it doesn't separate when defrosted. Must have a month supply in the deep freeze.

The problem is it takes too long to defrost so op still wouldn't have had milky tea. We did this when we "over brought" (as if you can with two fat babies) but it took forever to defrost

I always have a carton of almond milk nearby to make sure i get a cup of tea. Nobody else at home or work drinks it.

I decant enough milk into a small milk jug, cover it and hide it as the bottom of the fridge for my morning cup of tea. I can't function without it and I give with many teenagers who raid the cereal at all hours.

I've been caught out too often. Teenagers just don't think about cups of tea for elderly mothers wary the next day,

look, stop.
UHT, almond and oat milk are just, well, not going to cut it at 6:30am.
(shudders at the idea of oat/almond milk in tea)

But I have confidence. This is the first time (and I was extremely cuaght out, as I thought we might be low, but at 11pm there was a good 2 pints left in the bottle) and now that Views Have Been Expressed, it really won't happen again. I don't put my foot down over many things like this. Mainly they are:

My Mug
My Glass
Tea at 6:30 am
Wipe up the sugar/hot choc grains on work surface so I don't have to wipe them up before I make said 6:30 tea.
House must be quiet overnight.

It has worked so far and he is now 18, so he hasn't done too badly. Obviously has some consideration for rest of the family, not quite the mysogonist deliquent suggested.