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Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

363 replies

steppemum · 09/02/2021 11:34

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better Hmm
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

OP posts:
2021vision · 09/02/2021 16:48

So your 18 year old DS thinks it's ok to eat what he likes, when he likes and then say 'it's only milk' and refuse to go and get any for the rest of the family when he and his girlfriend took the last of it. You, and he, then think it's fine for your DD to go out and get the milk.

Sounds like your raising a typically selfish, sexist young man their OP, what a prize, his girlfriend must be thrilled. No respect for your or the family. This is exactly why there are so many posts on the relationship board about lazy, disrepectful men.

EleanorRigbyWasReal · 09/02/2021 16:50

@Lweji... what’s “good quality” LongLife? Which brand?

peak2021 · 09/02/2021 16:53

I don't think you were unreasonable OP. At least your DD is a decent human being, unlike her brother and his girlfriend.

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Arobase · 09/02/2021 16:57

Tell your DS he's doing the next main shop to make up for it. Make sure your list is full of heavy or inconvenient stuff and also that he's given only enough money for what you need.

For future purposes, find out about local milkman deliveries. For us, they were an absolute godsend during self isolation.

Hagotcha80 · 09/02/2021 17:23

Wow OP you gave this thread your all! (Jealous of all the time you had to do so!)

That morning cup of tea.... criminal to take all of the milk!

But

** You know when I starte dthis thread, I really didn't think that the strange thing for all would be that he and his gf were eating cereal at 2 am.

My brothers and I were often up after our parents and making tea and toast at 2 am wouldn't have been strange. Granted that would have been school holidays not term time, but that is one of the weird things happening in lockdown, the lines are blurred.

If you and your DH ok with it, then no issue.
My parents weren’t ok, so I didn’t do it.
I would only be ok with it if ALL mess was tidied away, kitchen left exactly as spotless as I leave it when i go to bed and milk always left for my tea in the morning

Lweji · 09/02/2021 17:38

[quote EleanorRigbyWasReal]@Lweji... what’s “good quality” LongLife? Which brand?[/quote]
I'm not in the UK, but if you ever come by Portugal, just ask me. :)

Lweji · 09/02/2021 17:40

The two teenagers have kids who are happy and healthy, obeying the rules of the land and ops house.

Hopefully, not yet. Wink

SunshineCake · 09/02/2021 17:43

My dd has a difficult sleep pattern and she cooks her dinner at 2am. I heard her chopping once, told her. She apologised and I haven't heard her since. She is 17.

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 17:44

I'm a lone parent of 3 (2 teen boys and a preteen girl).

It's fucking hard. Constantly being 'on' and doing the right thing. And modelling good behaviour and making sure they don't take the piss etc etc. Everyone everywhere with kids has to choose their battles and choose which hill they will or won't choose to die on.

None of us is perfect and I'm fairly sure that my death hill differs from each of my friends'. So at the end of the day, if op says she knows they'll make midnight snacks but get the raging hump because in so doing they'd used up the one resource she needed to make her day start well, who are any of us to say otherwise?

Hagotcha80 · 09/02/2021 17:45

@2021vision

But didn’t the girlfriend do this?

Hagotcha80 · 09/02/2021 17:45

As well as the ds

Flossie44 · 09/02/2021 17:49

I’ve lost my shit over exaxtly the same subject OP. My son and his girlfriend did the same. I get quite stabby without a morning cuppa (in fact 2!)

My son refused to go to the shop also, so I refused him food until he’d done so!!

Teens....urgh!!

SunshineCake · 09/02/2021 18:03

@clary

I'm glad it's not just me that hides food. I sometimes find bars of choc in my knicker drawer and think oh yes, I was going to make brownies.

My best place ATM is the less-used oven. Piano stool is a top spot tho!

Until someone turns it on to preheat before use..
CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 18:07

The less-used oven and the piano-stool? Sorry what?? How many here have more than one oven and a piano in situ?? Am I missing something?

abc31 · 09/02/2021 18:14

I'm with you. I'm murderous if there isn't enough milk for my 6am cup of tea because my husband/kids have had yet another bowl of cereal or huge hot chocolate. No matter how many times I say to judge how much milk we have left.

I've taken to buying 5 of those massive milk containers (6 pints?) at my weekly shop and they still plough through it at breakneck speed.

LizBennet · 09/02/2021 18:16

I have a piano but no second oven Sad

sueelleker · 09/02/2021 18:34

@LizBennet

I have a piano but no second oven Sad
I have a second oven but no piano!
SunshineCake · 09/02/2021 18:37

@CandyLeBonBon

The less-used oven and the piano-stool? Sorry what?? How many here have more than one oven and a piano in situ?? Am I missing something?
We have one oven used almost daily and a piano which is always here Confused at the shock some people have a piano.
CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 18:40

I know people have pianos. I also know people have more than one oven. It was more the sense that having both is completely normal for everyone and why wouldn't you just hide your milk there!

I've had both a piano and a double oven (not sure if that's the same?) but it just struck me as funny!

Original poster
steppemum · 09/02/2021 18:42

well, go away for a couple of hours and it all kicks off.

I did start the thread and it is mn, so anyone is free to comment.

I've explained why the gf is here. I don't feel the need to justify it, you are free to sort out your own teens your own way.

I would just point out that we are in a pandemic, where my 18 year old has, for large chunks of the last year, been expected to sit at home with his parents. I don't think that is normal, and while we have a great relationship, he needs his friends and he needs to socialise.
He really struggled in first lockdown, and he is doing loads better in this one, so I am satisfied that we made the right call. Not one I would, in a million years, have expected making a year ago.

and, I won't repeat all I have posted, but I don't think there is any danger of me raising this:

Sounds like your raising a typically selfish, sexist young man their OP, what a prize, his girlfriend must be thrilled. No respect for your or the family. This is exactly why there are so many posts on the relationship board about lazy, disrepectful men.

A one off incident from a teen who is normally pretty good, is not indicative of the whole story. Amazing what leaps people make isn't it?

OP posts:
SunshineCake · 09/02/2021 18:42

Nowhere does it say it is normal for people to have two ovens and or a piano Confused. It isn't abnormal either if people do.
🎹 🎹 🎹

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 18:47

@SunshineCake

Nowhere does it say it is normal for people to have two ovens and or a piano Confused. It isn't abnormal either if people do. 🎹 🎹 🎹
It's fine. It just struck me as a very funny, totally MN middle class thing to say. It made me chuckle. Nothing more. I'm not against people having more than one oven, nor pianos. Not even both at the same time.

It was just a comment that made me laugh. As a wry bit of social commentary. That's all!

Original poster
steppemum · 09/02/2021 18:47

Hagotcha80

didn't get much work done today, I retired to the bedroom and spent too much time on mn.
I will have to make it up later int he week. But I am self employed so it is up to me how I work my time.

OP posts:
CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 18:49

@steppemum I'm supposed to be working g in my masters today and I have also epically failed!

SunshineCake · 09/02/2021 18:50

Misunderstood you @CandyLeBonBon. Thank you for your further, gracious, explanation.

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