If you could re-live your life knowing what you know now, would you have still had children?

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And is there anything else significant you would have changed?

For me personally - yes, absolutely. They drive me crackers but they have enriched our lives beyond measure.

In the bigger picture though - I'm not sure. Things seem a lot more bleak than they did when our youngest was conceived ten years ago. I worry a lot about the world we have bought them into and I foresee desperate heartache in the decades to come. I hope I'm wrong.

Times when it’s shitty it’s really bad and I think what if but I’ve always been a single parent and I sometimes wonder what it would be like to parent with 2 parents . Would the shit be easier, that kind of thing .

Yes started younger and have more children. I have 2 and 26 weeks pregnant with 3rd.

I worry a lot about the world I’ve brought them into but on a personal level I could never regret my darlings they are the best.

Yes but with a different man

Without a doubt
They are my greatest achievements and my life is enriched by all three DS
Their father wasn't the best choice( now divorced) but they wouldn't be them otherwise( if that makes sense!)

Yes. But would have gone for IVF to have twins.

and in a dream world I'd have one kid from the love of my life and one from my husband.

I would've waited I think. Had DS at 23 and moved back home before he was born to save for house. Was hard.

Yes, absolutely.

Yes. Couldn't imagine my life without my two in it. Wouldnt change anything either, even though there is a 7 year age difference between them so felt like I did the school run for an eternity , they have different dads, and I had bad PND with both of them.
They are 21 and 14 now and I have a great relationship with both of them even though they can be a pain in the arse.
I do sometimes worry about the world now and their future, and (selfishly, I know) I hope they dont have kids.

I’d have had them later but closer together.

Can I change my mind? Decided I’d actually prefer not to be up at this time with a 15 month old who’s trying to sing row row row your fucking boat.

They are now 21 and 15. I'd have had 3 not just 2 I think. A miscarriage put paid to the middle one 😥

I wouldn’t change having children for a second. I absolutely love being a mum. I also work and have a great career, a lovely husband and home and feel really grateful. I don’t think I would change anything if I could do it all again.

It's a hard one for me.

I love the bones off DS, do not regret having him for a minute and I couldn't imagine not having him in my life. But the saying "you're only as happy as your happiest child" is true. He's turning 8 this year and I'm starting to worry about the coming years as he starts becoming more independent. What if he gets bullied at school? What if he falls in with the wrong crowd? What if he's not happy? Plus now with Covid and Brexit I'm concerned about his future regarding cost of living and job prospects.

I would definitely still have had my 2 children, but I would have waited until the eldest was in school full time before popping out the 2nd one.

I would definitely have had my children, they are the best, no regrets ever. If I could do it all again I would.

@carbvinc I'm so sorry. Cancer is so cruel

Yes, definitely.

Yes, but more and with a different man.

Yes, and I'd have done it sooner so as to have longer with them. I regret leaving it so late (36) but I didn't feel I could afford it prior to that.

It's a hesitant yes.
I've always wanted DC and there was a time I thought I wouldn't be able to have any. I can't imagine my life without them, but parenting has been really hard and I am not very good at it.

Yes because my life was empty before them. They are also lovely girls (both at junior school now) and bring me a lot of happiness.

Occasional flashes of no through because dd has sn and it’s so very hard being an sn parent, even though she’s a lovely girl

Yes. I'd have had them 5-8 years younger and I'd have had 2 instead of 1.