If you're a feminist, why take your husband's name?

[OrIsTheWorldNuts]

I just want to talk. No judgements so no biscuits

As a feminist, why take your husband's name? I know some say it's because they want to have the same name as their children but why do the children have to have your husband's/bf's/partner's name not yours? Then your husband could change his name or better still both change names to something new as a family?

I know to each their own but just wondering how you reconcile some feminist beliefs with the old tradition of taking the man's name.

I had my kids before getting married & gave them my DH surname & then took his name when we got married. I wanted to have the same name as my kids but also my maiden name is really hard to pronounce & spell & everyone always gets it wrong. I always had to have the same conversation with receptionists,at interviews, meeting new people & always having to spell it over the phone " yes that's correct, yes I know it doesn't look like it's pronounced" so I just wanted a normal name that doesn't stand out & it's nice to have a change.

[quote SomersetHamlyn]@OrIsTheWorldNuts I think it's a brilliant thing to do. I was already too 'invested' in my name to change it for any reason, but I love the idea of creating your own identity.[/quote]
@SomersetHamlyn Thanks . It's quite freeing tbh.