Do you think you're resilient?

[wonderwhatshappening1978]

Sometimes I think yes!

Sometimes I think no (declaring myself crap).

Do you think you're resilient and answer dependent, what's helped you to be so do you think?

I would say it depends on the situation. Mostly no, as I’m a very anxious person.

But people who [think they] know me would be shocked by that as I think I have quite a good front and come across as very resilient. Maybe that’s half the battle.

Yes. I’m 40 and I’m still here. Resilience isn’t about being the toughest person out there. Its about keeping going when everything falls apart, or seems to.

I give the impression I am.

I read somewhere (wish I could remember where) that your resilience can be measured as the time it takes you to go from "oh fuck" to "fuck it"!
In other words, how long before you are able to relativise a problem and be able to deal with it. I quite liked that as a measure.

I'm definitely a pretty resilient person, although I've been through my fare share of trauma. My parents were too - I never saw them in a flap, even in difficult situations. They did confront problems head on, too. No beating around the bush - just get on and deal with it (sensitively, though), and move on. I think that really helped me, growing up.

Oh yes.

I went to a crappy, tough secondary school, that built resilience. Did martial arts throughout my teens, taught me resilience.

Moved abroad, didn't speak the language, found integrating difficult, needed resilience.

I think I am. My job depended on it or I would have crumbled.

I like to think it's one of my greatest strengths. Not much phases me and when it does, I'm very much of the 'fake it til you make it' brigade.

I don't have a clue how I've got this way though, I think a lot of it is being confident in myself and my decision making.

I also think I live a fairly charmed life with only minor levels of shit from time to time so not sure how tested it is.

Yes I believe I am. I've had lots of things go wrong or not to plan and I've had to build myself back up.

For me key is having a lot of self belief and trusting in myself to get through it.

Yes. I had a difficult childhood, my dad was in prison and my mum suffered severe depression. We moved a lot. I became a mum young and lived on benefits for 4 years. I've been through it all with my mental health intact and always seen the bright side in life.

In some ways I think it's hardened me though as I don't feel emotions like others do.

I think there's a scale to resilience. When it comes to most aspects of my job and my day-to-day personal life then yes. When it comes to losing loved ones, going through heartbreak/other big life events then no not at all

I'm a secondary school and I like to try and teach my students about resilience, it's not about doing everything with a smile or being the toughest person in the room, its about knowing how to pick yourself up when you feel at your lowest and to keep going even in the darkest times

I don't think I am but I consider it one of the greatest qualities someone can possess. I hope to instill some in my children but I'm not really sure how.

That should read I'm a secondary school teacher, not just secondary school!

I don’t know. In some ways I’d say yes as I’ve a lot of grit and determination and I’ve come through some rough things and am still here.

But on the other hand, some experiences have affected me much more profoundly than feels reasonable. So I also feel it’s also a no.

I guess I’m not entirely sure what we’re talking about.

Yes

I give the impression I’m not to many

Horrible childhood and a fierce sense of independence I can’t stand relying on anyone so I don’t

I am, but only because I've learned to be.

I don't know. Sometimes I am easily overwhelmed and it doesn't take much to make me crumble. Then again I remind myself that I've coped with so much over my life - worked for many years in an extremely challenging work environment dealing with traumatic situations, whilst parenting four children and have gone through the sudden deaths of 3 out of four of our parents over the past ten years. So yes I think I must be reasonably resilient to still be here and facing each day.

I am, but never used to be.

Was a single mum at 18 and I was determined to make a good life for me and DS so I went to college and then uni to become a nurse, no mean feat as a single teen mum!
It was some of the hardest years of my life but it made me resilient because I had to overcome barriers by myself, I had no one to bail me out. Also my job makes me quite resilient, you have to adapt to change in a blink of an eye and be confident with your decision.

There is a resilience equation (self esteem + positivity = resilience). Work on boosting your self esteem or positivity and you will see your resilience increase.

Yes
I’ve had to be. I’ve had to deal with lots of tough issues
I’m practical and pragmatic

Yes. I have had lots of tough times with no one to depend on but myself, and with other people depending on me. It builds resilience. I was fairly stoical as a child and didn't do much complaining or weeping about stuff.

As I've got older I've just mentally shrugged and got on with shit. I don't know any other way to be.

Usually I see myself as pretty resilient. This evening I don't feel resilient at all.

I am.

I wasn’t always.

I had a very traumatic event in my life about four years ago. I was able to compartmentalise everything when it was happening.

Since then, I figure nothing worse could happen to me, so I find it easier to park my emotions and get though things.

Interesting to hear your stories. Thank you,

@Finfintytint

I think I am. My job depended on it or I would have crumbled.

What job do you do if you don't mind me asking?

Yes, I am, as a result of a lifetime of having had to rely upon myself to deal with difficult things or go under.