Do you think you're resilient?

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Sometimes I think yes!

Sometimes I think no (declaring myself crap).

Do you think you're resilient and answer dependent, what's helped you to be so do you think?

Yes. I have rebuilt myself many times from the ashes like a phoenix.

Ive also done it alone as I had no family to help me at all.
I also have the kind of job whereby I have to be resilient (psychiatric ward).

I think I'm pretty resilient. Had to be, thanks to my parents. And suffered a horrendous baby loss (stillbirth), brought up our DC alone while DH set a business up.

I've been the only person I can rely on since my mid teens.

Yes, I’d consider myself resilient. I am very rarely defeated and like to think when faced with a problem I don’t give up or go to pieces, I try and find a solution. It doesn’t always work but I don’t throw the towel in after the first/second/third try.
I hate relying on people and prefer to get stuff done myself, would pain me to ask for help with something I know I should be able to do myself.
It’s an attitude that has served me very well over the years to be honest.
To me, being resilient doesn’t mean being the best, being the fastest or the most efficient etc, it’s the attitude of refusing to be defeated.

No. I suffer terribly with mental health issues. I'm still alive, though I suspect that is my body's resilience to suicide attempts rather than a mental strength. I have survived a lot, physically and mentally. But I think it's literally chance that I'm still here.

No (though I'm working on it!).

People expect me to be though because I'm excellent in a crisis that isn't happening directly to me.

Yes incredibly so , my sister started having severe mental health issues at around age 9/10 and I had to be her carer / supporter . I have coped with way more than most people as well and juts have an ability to bounce back .. I don't know if it's nature or nurture because the rest of family aren't .

I think so. I've no idea why I am though.

In some ways I've had a relatively easy life to date (reasonably intelligent, education & career opportunities, financially stable, supportive family, healthy NT kids).
In other ways I've gone through some significant traumas (1st H leaving when the kids were v small, 2nd DH dying when I was mid-40's).

I keep going and I'm relatively level, the 2 events mentioned were very difficult but even in the middle of the pain I knew things would get better.

I'm definitely resilient. I've got end-stage cancer, and I've had more comebacks than Status Quo. Never give up.

Yes.
I am a Christian. I have inner peace.

If I wasnt a Christian I would be like jelly.

Oh BitOfFun I recognise your username from over the years but wasn't aware of that. Keep going x

Yes

After the past few years I have had thst much shite to deal with and I'm still here and functioning so I see thst as resilient

I think I am because I tend to be able to deal with the here and now.
I don’t waste too much energy on the past or on worrying about what might go wrong in future. Therefore I have more energy left to deal with today.

I'm an anxious fallible mess with a fragile sense of self and difficulty being grounded. BUT I'm 63 and have survived a lot of life events and am still here and still have a lot of love in me to share. So I would say yes, I'm resilient

Yes. I'm a bit of a drama llama, but when push comes to shove - I get up everyday, do all the shit that needs to be done, and still am mostly nice to people.

What more does anyone want

Works definition of resilient is 'teally positive when we ask you to do pointless stuff' but my definition is different.

@BitOfFun Blimey .. well done you .. keep fighting!! 💪🏻

Oh @BitOfFun! My heart goes out to you for your courage 💗

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I wasn’t until I was pregnant and got cancer at the same time. It was tough being hit with lush and bad news at the same time but I knew I had to get on with it because treatment was limited while pregnant

Very much so. I've been through hideous hideous situations and I'm still a positive, high functioning person. It's how I cope. Of course, I have down days like everyone but I know I can survive really horrible situations and that gives me a lot of inner strength.

Yes. I've had a lot of bad stuff happen in my life but got through it all. I have a core of steel (sadly nothing to do with my abs)

A lot of this is actually hardiness rather than resilience per se

I am but not in a jolly way.
I get down days and allow myself a wallow.
But I survived my childhood and after that utter shit storm, I genuinely can survive anything.

Same as @larrythelizard, and "fake it to make it" is one of my stock phrases. Lockdown has actually shown me how resilient I can be. I'm adaptable, it's a strength I didn't realise I had.

Gosh, interesting question. I have lived, and am living through hell, the past few years. Everything I built up and that mattered to me was lost pretty much overnight. It almost destroyed me, and if it weren't for my kids it probably would have. I have had to slowly build up a new life and I have. And at many times I feel happiness. But at other times I crumble again and would like to disappear from the world. I know I will never get back what I lost and my life will always be seriously diminished. But overall I guess I am, because keeping going and keeping finding ways to make the best life I can for me and my kids in very constrained circumstances I guess is resilience.