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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
4Mongrels · 19/01/2021 20:33

I'm still hoping your husband defies the odds, you have been in my thoughts. I can't imagine how hard this is for you and your family Flowers

ButterfliesandMoths · 19/01/2021 20:38

Thinking of you and your family. Praying for your husband Thanks

Halfagonyhalfhope · 19/01/2021 20:38

You're such a lovely person wardrobes. We're all thinking of you and your lovely DH at this incredibly difficult time. X

thekingfisher · 19/01/2021 20:39

Wardrobes sending you all the strength you need to cope at the moment Thanks

Tisahardlife · 19/01/2021 20:43

Lots of love to you Wardrobes Flowers

AlternativePerspective · 19/01/2021 20:46

Have been thinking of you. Flowers

toolazytothinkofausername · 19/01/2021 20:46

Sending you lots of love Wardrobes Flowers

Santaiscovidfree · 19/01/2021 20:49

I have to admit reading your thread has made me be a lot nicer to my dh. Easy to take loved ones for granted....
Rooting for your family op..

KilljoysDutch · 19/01/2021 20:50

I was just thinking of you and your DH yesterday Flowers It's hard to know what to say when words aren't really enough but you and your family remain in my thoughts and heart.

DeeDimer · 19/01/2021 20:52

I've been thinking about you and yours. Sending love and healing thoughts.

MustardMitt · 19/01/2021 20:53

I’m so sorry. I read your last thread then lost it - was hoping the news might be better.

My thoughts are with you Flowers

Chutneymaura · 19/01/2021 20:57

Sending love to you and everyone in this hideous situation x

Impatientwino · 19/01/2021 20:57

Hey wardrobes, I've been thinking of you and your family. You must be utterly exhausted. How very difficult to have to manage your children's emotions as well as your own. Glad you have your mum with you to help in some way with the every day that soldiers on despite the enormity of your situation.

When I've been a sort of similar situation with a family member that's the thing I begrudged the most - having to do the rest of life as well - wanted everything else to just bloody stop so I could think for a single second. Shouldn't imagine it would have helped but might have eased the pressure in my brain a bit.

Such an incredibly difficult time for you all. Sending you every possible good wish and hope for a positive outcome for your family. Will be keeping you in my thoughts Thanks

Oh12lookanothernamechange1234 · 19/01/2021 21:00

@Wardrobes123 I’ve also been thinking of you and your lovely family and sending lots of love your way.

Thinking of you, share as much or as little as you want too. Xxx

Impatientwino · 19/01/2021 21:02

@groovinpeanut so terribly sorry for the loss of your DH. Hoping you have support and love to lead you through this next phase Thanks

Alternista · 19/01/2021 21:02

Thank you for updating us, been thinking of you. I think coping is overrated in this sort of situation- there’s some things you’re just not meant to be able to cope with.

Glad you’ve got your Mum there. Sending you a hand squeeze again, and keeping us all the fuck at home, which seems the tiniest thing we can all do to honour you, your poor husband and all who are working so tirelessly to try and save him x

Whitegrenache · 19/01/2021 21:03

Gosh I have been thinking you and mushrooms and peanut. I so wish I could be there in person for each and everyone of you.
Sending all my love to you all xx

MadameBlobby · 19/01/2021 21:03

I didn’t see your other thread but fingers crossed he turns a corner soon

C0NNIE · 19/01/2021 21:04

The majority of patients who are ventilated with Covid survive. I know your Dh is ECV but he also has ( relative ) youth on his side. I’m sure you know that the staff will be doing everything they can for him.

Flowers
chipshopElvis · 19/01/2021 21:06

I read through the whole post last night but didn't post for fear of sending you over 1000. I'm so very sorry for all you are going through and am desperately wishing that your husband makes a full recovery. I hope it helps a tiny bit that strangers on the internet are rooting for you all.

Groovinpeanut much love to you, I am so very sorry for your loss.

HazelBite · 19/01/2021 21:12

My heart goes out to you OP sending love and strength to you and yours x

Capetownmothercity · 19/01/2021 21:12

You, and any other families in this situation right now, are in my thoughts. Praying to every god there is that you get the healing you need.

MrsPerfect12 · 19/01/2021 21:15

@Wardrobes123 thinking or you and your family. Praying your husband pulls through. Flowers

@groovinpeanut I'm so very sorry for your loss. Xx

Ohbabybab · 19/01/2021 21:16

Sending much strength and love to you and your family. Your previous thread really stuck with me. All power to your DH to defy the odds. Flowers

Josiemac93 · 19/01/2021 21:20

So sorry to hear your update. Sending so much love.