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Armie Hammer *MNHQ has added a content warning to this thread*

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buenavistabelle · 12/01/2021 17:05

Not sure if it is permitted to talk about this but has anyone seen the allegations? I'm not easily shocked but if it's true then.....wow

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InglouriousBasterd · 14/01/2021 09:33

The silence from his PR etc is damning, surely? Given how sick and violent these messages are, if they were fabricated they would be on it with denials in a nano second. He’s also from a spectacularly rich family who would sue the accusers into submission without a second thought.

JanewaysBun · 14/01/2021 09:35

I would say any man who likes bdsm in the specific way of only tiring women up is problematic. Seeing as the balance of power is already on the man's side

TheCap · 14/01/2021 09:38

@Hoppinggreen

He’s obviously a very sick individual but being a white man from a wealthy background I am sure as a PP said he will go away for a bit to deal with his ishoos and then return to be redeemed
It's sickening that nothing will happen to him in terms of punishment by law. These women will have already been paid for their silence - his family are richer than God. I think his career is effectively over though. I doubt he will get any more work, even in Hollyweird. I also think he will lose his children over this. Unfortunately I think this is the most punishment he will endure.
AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter · 14/01/2021 10:43

@JanewaysBun

I would say any man who likes bdsm in the specific way of only tiring women up is problematic. Seeing as the balance of power is already on the man's side
I agree with you. White rich men already have the most power in our society. If the only way you can get turned on is by threatening, hurting, damaging, and humiliating women then I'm sorry but there is something extremely wrong with you.
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buenavistabelle · 14/01/2021 10:58

I hope his career is over.
According to sources in the entertainment biz he is in the middle of a film and they are looking to replace him with immediate effect.

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Housebuyer2021 · 14/01/2021 11:15

Gosh this is completely shocking. Had the chills reading all of them. No idea who the guy is but his messages and the fact he sends loads in a row about what he wants to do to someone reminded me so much of a really narcissistic ex of mine.

His poor victims Sad

IHaveBrilloHair · 14/01/2021 11:21

Omg.
Call me by your name is one of my favourites, I must have watched it like 50 times.

RhubarbTea · 14/01/2021 12:27

I know, same here @IHaveBrilloHair Sad I've watched it so many times and was desperate for the sequel. Guess that won't be happening now...
It's crushing when someone you admire turns out to be a complete twunt. Gutted!

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/01/2021 12:33

The silence from his PR etc is damning, surely? Given how sick and violent these messages are, if they were fabricated they would be on it with denials in a nano second. He’s also from a spectacularly rich family who would sue the accusers into submission without a second thought.

This is what I thought.. I presume there would be evidence on his phone accounts that could be retrieved to prove the conversations never happened.. I think the accusations first started being leaked from Sunday.. so it's a long time for silence.

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/01/2021 12:34

Call me by your name is one of my favourites,

I only watched it for the first time during last summer but LOVED it, supposedly there was going to be a sequel.. or maybe it was a prequel.. guess that won't be happening anytime soon!

IHaveBrilloHair · 14/01/2021 12:38

Sequel, I've read the book but was desperate for the film, as was Dd.
I just told her and she googled and was like Wtf, Oliver?

TheCap · 14/01/2021 12:39

Some are saying that they suspect it's a set up by his ex but it would have to be a pretty elaborate bloody set up, involving a hell of a lot of people and a reliance on keeping quiet!

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/01/2021 12:44

Will be interesting to see if his wife releases a statement or anything about it.

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/01/2021 12:45

Now separated wife that is, think they separated a few months ago.

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/01/2021 12:45

Wasn't there rumours of infidelity around the split involving him and others?

UserMcNewName · 14/01/2021 12:47

The thing that stands out to me is that from what I know he said he liked "rough sex" in an interview then said something about not being comfortable doing it to his wife.

That statement absolutely sounds like the underplaying of someone whose kink is in degrading women he doesn't care about. That's very different to consensual BDSM.

This statement made by him plus the things he follows added to the sheer volume of messages and number of sources? I can't see how it would all be fake.

He's not careful from what I can tell. He said he wanted to be caught I think and I can absolutely believe that. I suspect he's begun to be ashamed of his actions but can't stop so is hoping being caught will make him stop.

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/01/2021 12:50

The thing that stands out to me is that from what I know he said he liked "rough sex" in an interview then said something about not being comfortable doing it to his wife.

Yes I saw a snippet from that interview too and was a bit Hmm

Also the one where his dream dinner guest was Marquis De Sade - who I'll admit I hadn't heard of, but since googling seems a bit of an odd choice!

UserMcNewName · 14/01/2021 12:52

Honestly I hope for the sake of these women it's fake but sadly I can't see it. Extreme kinks like this are a thing.

I just hope that this makes more women aware of when to run and I also hope it stops some of this behaviour. Anyone who thinks this is acceptable needs to know that it isn't. There's nothing consensual about this from what I can see just a desire to degrade with no respect and no thought for others safety.

covetingthepreciousthings · 14/01/2021 12:52

He's not careful from what I can tell

I remember a while ago, think post split with his wife he posted on his Instagram to invite 'fans' to message him and he said he'd reply.. I found it a bit off at the time because it seemed like it just reeked of desperation? I'm sure I remember this and I'm not misremembering.

IDontMindMarmite · 14/01/2021 13:05

He's quit the film he was shooting and calls the messages bullshit.

Hellothere19999 · 14/01/2021 13:10

Omg didn’t know there was that much to it. I genuinely thought people were outraged he liked a bit of bondage and was like eh? What about 50 shades of grey 🧐 i didn’t see anything wrong with a man been into that and being an actor, not like he’s the priminister or something. But didn’t know it went that far!!!

MondayYogurt · 14/01/2021 13:11

Crazydaysandnights blinds have been hinting this inclination for years.

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buenavistabelle · 14/01/2021 15:41

@IDontMindMarmite

He's quit the film he was shooting and calls the messages bullshit.
He has not quit the film - he's been sacked
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IDontMindMarmite · 14/01/2021 15:45

I was just saying what the article said.

It's quite contradictory to deny the allegations but also drop out of the film.

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buenavistabelle · 14/01/2021 15:53

@IDontMindMarmite Sorry I didn't mean that in the way it sounded. Yes I agree - very contradictory....

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