I opened my friend's Xmas present early and I wish I hadn't...

[Destinysdaughter]

Because it's a box of fucking Thornton chocolates! I spent ages looking for a pretty necklace for her that cost £13 And a box of Hotel Chocolat chocolates and this is what she gets me? I've known her since I was 16 so she is my oldest friend. It's not even about the money, its about the lack of thought and care that's gone into it that's upset me tbh. I feel like sending her a message tomorrow saying, let's not bother with Xmas presents any more if this is the pathetic amount of effort you're going to put into it. And she's not poor either, she's on a good salary. She's always been a bit unreliable but this feels like such an insult when I've always gone out of my way to get her something lovely. Pissed off!!

I know there's nothing anyone can say really, I just wanted to vent.

I’d also rather have a box of chocolates than a cheap necklace

I like Thorntons.
Agree a rough budget next time if you're so offended. Or suggest you stop getting pressies for eachother, it's unnecessary anyway.

You sound like a spoilt child.

@cheesemongery

Is that you Gerald Ratner?

OP I totally get why you feel upset. It's not the cost, it's the lack of effort and thought from someone you thought cared for you.

My dad literally bought me a £4 box of generic chocs for my birthday this year. I felt exactly the same as you in this situation. Safe to say he'll be getting a generic box of chocs back for his next birthday rather than some speciality gift that I usually spend ages looking for. Why should you put in the effort if others don't put it in for you?

@innercitysumo

In your reply you're blasting all over the internet about her personal life and choices over a pregnancy. You sound like a shit friend tbh, complaining about having to be there for your friend. That's what friends do. It's been a shit year, be grateful she got you anything.

Calm down, it’s an anonymous forum. If no one could post about other people, there’s be no threads.

@mumwon I can’t help wondering if you’ve heard of online shopping

You bought her a cheap necklace and you’re turning your nose up at her present. You sound very materialistic and ungrateful. Who needs friends like that.

I have absolutely fantastic life long friends that I love dearly but we never exchange presents..you really need to grow up!!

Where on earth can you get a decent necklace for £13?

Christ, you sound an awful friend, ungrateful and judgemental and all because you bought her some cheap jewellery!

Wow, you sound grabby as feck and not exactly like a great friend yourself, OP!!

I TOTALLY agree with you OP, I would be annoyed. I always get this too, I buy really nice and thoughtful gifts for others and more often than not I get something shit or clearly regifted stuff that isn't me at all from them. It's not ungrateful to hope for a similar level of thoughtfulness from a friend, it's not about money. Just note it down and next time don't get her anything nice.

Thorntons are in no way equal to Hotel Chocolate!

But hey, thanks for all the judgemental responses, that's really helped

You're freakin hilairious, OP!!

Give the Thornton's a chance! I really feel they have upped their game recently and their chocs are just as good as Hotel Chocolat.. trust me I'm a choc connoisseur

I've had Christmases where putting aside a few quid for all the people I know at Christmas was the biggest stress of my year. You might think it's a shite gift, but what were her options if she only had a few quid to spare? It could even be a regift in desperation.

I used to like their toffee, but I do have a sweet tooth.

Just agree to not buy for each other again.
Pull a cracker instead and argue about who gets the cheap toy.

Everyone has so much going on at the moment. She probably has other things on her mind than choosing the right gift this year, like a lot of us do.

@rottiemum88

A £13 necklace? If I was your friend I'd be considering telling you not to bother in future too.

I was thinking this too Was it an Elizabeth Duke forever friends bad boy?

I ran out of time and got my Dad a few jars from the local deli.Have just got my presents from him and there are loads.But I wasn’t expecting anything and thought we had a £10 limit. Sometimes there are present mismatches. Life happens. It’s been a shit year. I get why your upset but it’s not worth too much energy.

Next year, set a £10 limit. A £13 necklace, tho, seriously? Are you both like 12?