I opened my friend's Xmas present early and I wish I hadn't...

[Destinysdaughter]

Because it's a box of fucking Thornton chocolates! I spent ages looking for a pretty necklace for her that cost £13 And a box of Hotel Chocolat chocolates and this is what she gets me? I've known her since I was 16 so she is my oldest friend. It's not even about the money, its about the lack of thought and care that's gone into it that's upset me tbh. I feel like sending her a message tomorrow saying, let's not bother with Xmas presents any more if this is the pathetic amount of effort you're going to put into it. And she's not poor either, she's on a good salary. She's always been a bit unreliable but this feels like such an insult when I've always gone out of my way to get her something lovely. Pissed off!!

I know there's nothing anyone can say really, I just wanted to vent.

Oh and those slagging off the cost of the OPs gift....my favourite piece of jewellery is a £20 second hand "Diamond" ring that I bought for myself. My engagement ring cost ££££ but it means naff all compared to it.

Sadly there are a lot of people who confused cost with worth, and most of them are on here it seems.....

I feel for you. My friend still has my present for last year and has apparently added to it. She doesn't live near me. I posted her presents. Apparently she never thought of doing that 🙄

You want to send a message to her saying not to bother anymore whilst telling her she’s put a pathetic amount of effort in, on Christmas Day? Are you for real?

I’m more concerned that you’re slagging off your friend on a forum and being ungrateful, is this what friendship is about nowadays? There’s many reasons why she’s given you a box of chocolates, also just because she’s on a good salary this doesn’t mean she has lots of disposable money. Just be grateful and stop acting spoilt!

Get over yourself and think about the less fortune at Christmas instead of whingeing over a box of chocolates

@gamerchick

Pretty sure this is a pisstake thread

I hope so. Just awful.

OP you sound like an arsehole. I’d rather the chocolates than a £13 piece of jewellery

I think after the year we have had I'd give her a break.

I’d rather have chocolate than a cheapo necklace tbh

She may be your oldest friend but you sound Horid.

If my "oldest friend" bought me a gift that was a little out of the ordinary I would have the possibility of doing a couple of things, checking in to see if she is ok, putting it down to "her being busy and you know a friendship isn't based on gifts" or maybe she just had other stuff going on...... I WOULD NOT message her like a spilt brat on Christmas Day.

You sound like you bought her a diamond necklace, a 13 quid necklace a box of chocolates (a more expensive box but a box of chocolates non the less. Get a grip and value your friendships more.

I prefer Thornton’s to Hotel Chocolate!

A £13 necklace doesn’t necessarily have to be a shit gift. It could be something special and personalised, albeit not the highest quality

Thornton's chocolate is far superior to Hotel Chocolat...

Vitaminss I was about to say the same thing. We don't know what it is made of - everybody seems to be assuming it's some cheap base metal but it could be beads.

I spent ages looking for a pretty necklace for her that cost £13

That is a VERY specific amount you were looking for - not a penny more not a penny less eh!

You sound ungrateful tbh
However I bought my friend something I thought she’d like cost £10 ish
She got me a card
Am I bothered. No. Will it change anything no

Don't send that text, OP. Tell her in Nov next year that you're not doing presents anymore, or just send a box of Dairy Milk.

C'mon guys you are being a bit harsh on the OP. She clearly put a lot of effort into getting her mum to give her a lift to Claire's Accessories after school.

We’ve all had a bit of a crap year, I for one, haven’t been able to buy the range of things I normally would (I’m not mega keen on shopping on line)
Maybe you need to find a new friend who can meet your expectations

Did you get her necklace at Argos? People are so weird about gifts.

Wow, proper bitchfest on here tonight.

Did you all find a necklace in your husbands pocket and get the Joni Mitchell CD?

You always get posters falling over themselves on these kind of threads to let you know how virtuous and non materialistic they are. I'm sure the same posters would be delighted with a bottle of washing up liquid and an ironing board for Christmas from their nearest and dearest, after all it's a gift and we must always be grateful for any old shit we get.
Op I get you. I'm not particularly materialistic and couldn't care less how much was spent, but a generic box of chocolates that lack any thought, compared to you taking the trouble to find something your friend would appreciate is a bit crap, so maybe scale back on the effort next year.

Get a grip op, you should give with an open heart and not give to receive!

I agree @Gingerwhinger0

Maybe it's a typo and there's a 0 missing from the £13