I opened my friend's Xmas present early and I wish I hadn't...

[Destinysdaughter]

Because it's a box of fucking Thornton chocolates! I spent ages looking for a pretty necklace for her that cost £13 And a box of Hotel Chocolat chocolates and this is what she gets me? I've known her since I was 16 so she is my oldest friend. It's not even about the money, its about the lack of thought and care that's gone into it that's upset me tbh. I feel like sending her a message tomorrow saying, let's not bother with Xmas presents any more if this is the pathetic amount of effort you're going to put into it. And she's not poor either, she's on a good salary. She's always been a bit unreliable but this feels like such an insult when I've always gone out of my way to get her something lovely. Pissed off!!

I know there's nothing anyone can say really, I just wanted to vent.

Real Christmas spirit. Well done.

Thornton's are crap, much too sweet. I think she is BU because she picked out shit chocolate. I do think it's good that at least she didn't forget to get you a gift.

I hate this bollocks.

Buy your own present if you think you need more.
So your friend 'can afford it'. Maybe she can maybe she can't.
I just don't understand. So don't buy next year but don't piss and whinge about how hard done by you are on the Internet.

The OP must be joking. A £13 necklace is something my dds gave each other when they were around 12.

Out of that lot, I'd be keenest on the Thornton's chocolates.
What adult wants a £13 necklace?
Just tell her next year you're not doing presents, save yourself this ridiculous drama.

I like Thornton's chocolates.

You honestly don't sound like friends to me. I cannot imagine saying anything like this over anything my friends got me.

It’s fine you’re annoyed but don’t say anything.

I hate Thornton’s chocolates. They all taste the same.
On this basis alone, YANBU.

There's more important shit to be worrying about at the moment OP. Your friend might have not had time or value materialism during a pandemic as much as you do. It's the thought that counts, especially in times like these. If you don't like it, then find friends who gifts more lavishly, if that's what really matters to you.

Get a grip. It's simply disgraceful just how ungrateful you are. Especially as it's not as though you spent a fortune on her, why don't you show us the £13 necklace you spent so long choosing?

I love Thorntons and you sound like a snob, Hotel Chocolat is just another shop you walked into as is wherever you bought the necklace. She prob didn't want to buy you the same chocs you bought her.
WTF is wrong with people being so ungrateful this year when everyone's finances have taken a battering?

Definitely prefer Thorntons to some accessorise tat that will turn your neck green! £13 necklace are you 13 yourself OP?

Your expectations and rules about what constitutes a good enough present is your problem. What’s the Law of the Universe that says she must match your gift? To be honest you sound like a whiny child.

It really is the thought that counts.

A £2 gift that you spent ages finding for the fact that you knew she'd like it is worth far more than a £150 "oh that'll do" gift.

So I would say that your being pissed off is perfectly justified. I agree with the box of biscuits next year and fuck all every year after that.

I'm sorry, but I have to agree with other pps. I wouldn't be impressed to receive £13 necklace, let alone wear it, unless it was from a child. Box of chocolate is way more age appropriate imo to an adult woman.

I’ve been feeling particularly bad this year with the gifts I’ve got. I haven’t seen people s the little clues about what to get everyone are completely missing and I’ve had to revert to safe but obvious choices and I’ve already apologised to my friend that I was really stumped and opted for what I know she likes (snow fairy stuff) over the sorts of things I got last year (big box of ready potted spring bulbs I’d had in my garden potted since autumn ready for her to whack straight in the ground)

It’s been really hard this year to pick gifts because social contact has been so... thin on the ground.

I would be gifting her that next year. But it’s not worth mentioning to her.

With everything going on in the world and you are worrying about a Thornton’s box of chocolates?..... 🤷🏻‍♀️

I can understand your feelings but maybe it is time to drop the xmas pressies? Maybe you also need to think about the giving more than the receiving. Sending a lovely gift is your way of telling your friend you care about her and value her. Is this only valid and true if you get something equally lovely in return? The children in my class did secret santa; despite the fact that they had a 3.00 limit, one child went way beyond many others and bought a beautiful and very unique gift for another child. He got a very basic choccy gift. However, he was really pleased at the reaction that his gift received. I haven't asked him but I think the happiness of the person who received it and everyone else's reaction made it special for him.

If you begrudge your oldest friend a cheap necklace and a box of chocolates marginally better than Thornton's - you're not really much of a friend, are you? She has remembered you and got something to you on time when nobody is having a wonderful time this year. If you don't like Thornton's - and I don't either - just stick them in the food bank, somebody's kids will think they're a treat.

Pretty sure this is a pisstake thread

People are being very snobby about the necklace- it might be a style her friend really likes..

I’m not a fan of Hotel Chocolate- I like it but think it’s overpriced and overrated. I’d prefer the Thornton’s personally. But I can understand why you’re peeved OP.

I'd rather have the Thornton's than a £13 necklace (won't it turn her neck green and break within a week??) I think you need to give your head a wobble op.

Please don't say anything it makes you look petty and selfish. Maybe your friend is limiting the places she is visiting. Maybe she ordered online and it has not arrived and she had to make do. Maybe she decided to give a gift that can be used up rather than adding clutter. Whatever the reason just be grateful to have a good friend.