Sitting in Costa, trying not to cry

[bloodywhitecat]

While DP is undergoing his first session of chemo for advanced bile duct cancer. Surrounded by happy smiley people and feeling very scared and alone. Everything about this scary journey has been a battle. Every bit of news has been bad. I just wish I had a friend to lean on right now.

@StandardPoodle

Sending positive thoughts and good wishes to you both, OP. DH's first dose of chemo had few side effects and here's hoping it's the same for your DP. It was a different cancer, but DH's prognosis was poor ("7 chances in 100 of 5 years" according to the oncologist). That was 12 years ago. He's cooking Christmas dinner tomorrow.

DP's is 7% too but he already has secondaries but someone has to be those 7 right? You have given me hope, thank you.

So sorry. Massive unmumsnetty hug

I’m so sorry OP.

@bloodywhitecat

Sending thoughts your way. And hugs. And hoping you and DH have time together ❤ 💕

Since I read your OP some time ago, you and your DH have been in my thoughts. I wish you many moments of love and laughter over this period.

and hugs

I hope it all goes really well @bloodywhitecat

@bloodywhitecat
Wishing you and your DH all the love and strength in the world. My DH had a scare with bile duct cancer last year and I have never been so scared. Fortunately it wasn't but it is always a risk with the condition he has. Hope you enjoy the best Christmas you can in the circumstances xx

Sending love and best wishes to you and your DP xxx

Slightly off topic but I think that foster caring is such an amazing thing to do. If anyone deserves a bit of good luck it’s you pair.

Late to this but sending much love and hugs. Your love for your DH shines through.

My mum had the same diagnosis in her mid eighties and they tried whipples procedure but couldn't finish the surgery due to complications. She also was not a candidate for chemo. They gave her 6 months without surgery and but she lived another year and a half including 2 Christmases. It's such a frightening diagnosis and I feared she would be in pain and have a terrible time. She was surprisingly comfortable most of the time apart from tiredness. Her consultant said he loved to see her coming in and proving them all wrong. So your DH is much younger, has had the op and is getting treated with chemo so that gives him a strong chance to fight it. Dr's told my mum if she had the op and chemo she could live another 10 years.

How is he doing bloodywhitecat?

How are things? @bloodywhitecat

I feel for you and like the lovely PP, would bring my coffee over to share your table. Shall send out thoughts during the day and please take heart from knowing so many other MNers are doing the same. You're not alone.

Chemo session 2 has arrived and I am in a more positive place mentally today. He has taken himself today and I am staying home to do video contact with fosterling baby's parent today. I hate video contact, Small gets nothing from it and I feel it must be so difficult for the parent.

We have seen our other fosterling this week that we moved on to adoption a few weeks ago. He came to us in his first month and was 1 when he left. Giving children over is the hardest thing we do, we love them so much but watching them settle and bond with their mummies and daddies is just wonderful.

You sound like such a wonderful person OP. Hoping you all managed to have some fun on Christmas Day. Lots of love