Sitting in Costa, trying not to cry

[bloodywhitecat]

While DP is undergoing his first session of chemo for advanced bile duct cancer. Surrounded by happy smiley people and feeling very scared and alone. Everything about this scary journey has been a battle. Every bit of news has been bad. I just wish I had a friend to lean on right now.

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I am so sorry it is tough.

My DH had 2 cancers diagnosed last year-a nice one and then a very nasty one. Went from GP to admission to hospital in 4 hours.

I found Macmillan useless as his was a very unusual cancer but did find a small specialist charity who were great at talking me through it all.

Which hospital are you at? Why do they all have Costa which is rubbish coffee?

I’m so so sorry. I hope the chemo can help. Wishing you both all the best in the world. Hope the floods subside, you don’t need that problem as well. [ flowers]

sending you strength and a virtual hug.

I'm so sorry. Big hugs

We have found Macmillan useless too (well up until yesterday when they received the paperwork to say he is life limited to under 6 months). So many people say how wonderful they are but it has not been our experience. We have had help from The Big C though. I am so sorry for the others that are going through, or have been through, this too.

Thank you for the support

So sorry you and your family are going though this. I’ll keep you in my thoughts today

Sending you lots of good wishes Whitecat. It must be so tough for you all, and as a pp said we are all here with you in spirit. I wish I could give you a huge hug - and I'm not a huggy person, but you need one.

💐 for you OP. Sending you strength

Sending much love your way @bloodywhitecat - I remember a tearful wait in one of those Costa whilst ds’s appendix was taken out - it had just burst but they caught it before the gunk went everywhere - obviously utterly minor compared to what you are going through but I do understand the loneliness of being in a crowded room.

Really hoping for absolute best possible outcome for your husband.

I'm so sorry @bloodywhitecat My dad had bile duct cancer and it's vile. I hope today is as positive as it can be and I'm thinking of you x

Am supervising the church this afternoon (services are banned here but we are having the church open for a few hours so people can come in, look at the crib, contemplate etc) and will light a candle for you both. No religious intent if you don't want it, just as a sign of thought and hope from many miles away.

This is so hard for you both. I hope and pray your husband's chemo is successful. I do get what you mean by being surrounded by happy, smiling people. Sometimes those who are upbeat are just a bit too much.

Please do come back and let us know how things are going.

I'm so sorry, what a year you're having...

Please keep posting for support, there will always be someone here to listen. I hope you're able to find someone IRL who can hold your hand, even if it's from a distance.

Take care of you

Gosh so sorry. I hope you can imagine us all sat around your table , sending you all love.

I remember sitting in a hospital Costa on many occasions with my sister when my dad was dying. Both of us utterly shattered and trying not to fall apart. I’m sure the staff see it a lot so don’t worry if the tears start to fall x

I am so sorry to hear this
You are right. He is very young for you all to be facing this. I don’t know where you are in the country but please look to see if there is a Maggie’s Centre close by. The original one in Edinburgh helped us so much when my Mum was diagnosed with end stage cancer.
www.maggies.org/

I'm so sorry, thinking of you today! One day at a time

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 56 is no age and I imagine that makes it all so much the harder to bear, for you, your husband snd your family. It’s just not how you expect life to pan out.
I really feel for you and am hoping for you that his treatment goes well. Hopefully he’ll be a bit stronger, being younger.
Take care of yourself too, be kind to yourself when you can and let the small stuff go.
You’re in my thoughts.

A virtual handhold from me too. Sending strength and good wishes, you will both be in my thoughts.

What an awful situation. Life is cruel for you right now and I’m sorry. I think you’re remarkably brave to face the world as it is right now and this. Reach out to your family for support and it’s okay to feel awful.
Enjoy your coffee and cake.
Hope your DH is back home to you soon.

Thinking of you both xxxx

I sat in a coffee shop.for about 6 hours in March while my DH had a brain tumour removed. They told me it would take up to 4 hours but it took 8 1/4 in the end. I sat there shaking in the end from drinking too much coffee and fear something had gone wrong. I know how scary it is. It is good he is having treatment with hospitals so full with Covid patients. Hold strong, it will get better. I know it is hard with no one to wait with you and to be under so much stress but it won't be too long now. Chin up and know I am sending you positive thoughts and virtual hugs.

The Macmillan helpline is good to just speak to people who understand.

I remember ringing at a very low point just after Christmas a few years ago and they were brilliant. It really lifted me up to keep going a bit longer.

I'm so sorry op. Sending prayers (if that's ok with you?) and all best wishes for some peace and strength xxx