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would you be annoyed if a new person at work did this

274 replies

durdur · 01/12/2020 11:23

I have started a new FT job. DH became redundant just after I got this job which now means I have to do the school run and dh used to work completely remote from home anyway so this was never an issue for us.

So I've asked to reduce my hours to fit in with school times.
I have only been there a few weeks. Would they refuse? I would leave if they did as we need one of us to do the drop off and pick ups.

I honestly feel bad for asking to reduce my hours.

OP posts:
GlummyMcGlummerson · 01/12/2020 11:24

But if your DH isn't working why can't he do the school run?

edwinbear · 01/12/2020 11:24

Why isn't your DH dong the school run if he's out of work at the moment? What am I missing?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 01/12/2020 11:24

I'm not quite sure what your husband's work situation is. Is he still out of work?

Anoisagusaris · 01/12/2020 11:24

Why do you have to do school runs if your husband has been made redundant?

gingerbreadfox · 01/12/2020 11:25

@GlummyMcGlummerson

But if your DH isn't working why can't he do the school run?
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Bitchysideisouttoplay · 01/12/2020 11:26

I'm confused, you say DH has been made redundant so why cant he do the school run???

IndecentFeminist · 01/12/2020 11:27

I wouldn't be asking anything of a new job just now.

Do you mean he has got another job that doesn't allow pick ups? I'd be looking for a childminder or whatever in that case.

Viviennemary · 01/12/2020 11:27

Yes I'd be annoyed. You accepted the job on the agreed hours. It's really cheeky after such a short time.,

espressoontap · 01/12/2020 11:29

If your husband doesn't have a job, what exactly is he doing?

PuppyMonkey · 01/12/2020 11:30

They'll probably refuse you, yes. This can't be a huge shock to you OP. Confused

Waiting for the update on why DH can't do school runs.

Porgy · 01/12/2020 11:31

I'm also confused. If your DH is out of work, why can't he do the school runs?

If neither of you cannot do drop offs and pick ups, then you need to look into the option of a childminder or breakfast club etc. I appreciate it's an added expense, might not make it worthwhile etc. But I would be looking at that option before quiting my new job.

Butterymuffin · 01/12/2020 11:31

Also confused about why you have to do the school run when your husband's been made redundant. Are we missing some info here about a new job for him?
If not, I would want to keep your job on as secure a footing as possible. So look for alternatives. I know Covid creates problems but how about a childminder who will do drop off etc? Some now have spaces as people who are now working at home may not need their childminder anymore.

Nicknacky · 01/12/2020 11:32

I assume you have missed out the part where your h has a new job?

GU24Mum · 01/12/2020 11:33

Agree with the others that I'm confused why your OH can't do the school runs but that aside....

...... how much are you asking to reduce/change your hours? If you are asking to start at 9 rather than 8.30, say, and have a shorter lunch, that's less of an issue than asking to chop 2.5-3 hours off your day.

It also depends what you do as to how possible it will be for the new place to accommodate you. If the job is a dentist receptionist and your hours were supposed to tie in with the surgery opening times, then you not being there will not work. If you're in accounts in an office then it may matter less.

Justmuddlingalong · 01/12/2020 11:37

If you've already asked, it's a moot point. But to answer your question, yes, it would annoy me.

WhyNotMeThough · 01/12/2020 11:37

They can of course refuse, too soon for a flexible working request.

They might agree though, I did for a member of my team. Logic at the time was that he was frantic first thing due to rushing around to drop his child off so actually it made sense for him to start later when he'd be ready to be productive. Good theory anyway.
However, the childcare in the morning was just the tip of the iceberg and opened up a complete fiasco, to leaving early, can't make it in because no childcare. Red flag at the beginning of a new job OP.

Original poster
durdur · 01/12/2020 11:37

Omg! I completely missed out that he has got a new job! There's no working from home due to the nature of it.

OP posts:
helloxhristmas · 01/12/2020 11:38

Why are you doing the school run? Is it a car issue or a lazy Dh issue?

Justmuddlingalong · 01/12/2020 11:38

Why can't he ask for reduced hours then?

Nicknacky · 01/12/2020 11:38

So why didn’t he arrange his hours around your existing job?

Or get a childminder or after school club.

helloxhristmas · 01/12/2020 11:39

Crossed post sorry! Yes I would be annoyed as an employer.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 01/12/2020 11:40

Ah ok.

So why is it you and not him who has to do the school run. Can't you split the days?

MiniCooperLover · 01/12/2020 11:40

If you do 9-5 and are asking to do 9.15 to 2.45 say then yes I'd be annoyed

AllTheCakes · 01/12/2020 11:40

It shouldn’t fall solely to you to pick up the slack, you both need to take responsibility for the drop offs.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 01/12/2020 11:41

Why is it you that has to change?

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