My mum is really angry about her Christmas card

[ChooseYourLameName]

I sent mine out early this year (I know, I know). My mum got hers today, earlier than expected since I sent them 2nd Class.

She doesn’t often answer her phone but she did today, I rang for a quick chat. She said ‘I got your card, thanks’. She sounded really disappointed (she’s either a really thrilled, happy as a button person or is really down in the dumps and snappy). I said is everything okay, she said ‘well it wasn’t a nice card, was it?’

It was part of a multipack, granted But I thought there were really sweet, with a snowman and red car with a tree on top. I said that I thought she’d like it, they’re just a little gesture. She said ‘Yeah well thanks’.

She then said ‘got to go, really busy, I’ll call you later’. She never does call later though.

Was I really CF for sending a multipack card? Can that be offensive if the person is an important person in your life? I just wanted to do something nice, to let people know they were in my thoughts.

I’m really hurt by this. I know I need to get a grip and I’m probably the silly one for thinking a cheap little card would be well received when people will probably bin it when they get them

She is being ridiculous!

My in laws sent Christmas cards with son and wife, grandson, granddaughter. His brother and sister Also send individual cards. I buy multipacks. They hate it and complain about it every year

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My mum & grandma would be upset with a multi pack card. But I don't usually get Mum ones - just nice individual ones. Or funny ones.
I have been known to forget to give them out though. They are more ok with that than they would be with a multi pack received in November!!

Just send her another one that has Mum on it and problem solved. I always buy the personalised ones in the Jan sales as they are expensive, but I actually like getting cards as you don’t get many these days. Send it later in December when she won’t expect it.

I haven't read all comments but think some I have seen are incredibly harsh too your poor mum. does she live alone? could she be feeling abit down about being stuck in? as others have said she may have seen it more as a "tick off the box" card and not felt that you hadnt really thought of her just ticking it off.

She’s a child! Everyone gets a card from a multipack. It’s a card ffs!

Wouldn't of sent this, special card for my Mum always and a multi pack one isn't.

What ridiculous behaviour from a grown woman 😂 I’d honestly laugh into anybody’s face who came out with such nonsense about a poxy piece of paper that’s going to be chucked in the bin in a few weeks.

I always buy a pack of cards where some of the money goes to a charity. I send those to all family members. No one has ever had an issue with it, some of the older generation aren't over the moon but they never say anything.

@Todaywewilldobetter

My mum & grandma would be upset with a multi pack card. But I don't usually get Mum ones - just nice individual ones. Or funny ones. I have been known to forget to give them out though. They are more ok with that than they would be with a multi pack received in November!!

But how would they know it’s from a multipack? Are you talking about the quality? Because I don’t really understand how a beautiful, good quality hand-finished card from a multipack of 5 for £20, let’s say, is different in any discernible way from a beautiful, hand-finished card sold on its own for £5, let’s say.

I don't even send Christmas cards so she'd hate me

Eh, I should have used an £3 - £3.50 for the lone card, to make my example more correct.

Blimey, with all the things going on she should be grateful. When I get Christmas cards , some of them I don't even open for several months after or even at all. Could careless what card I received.

@Harls1969

I don't even send Christmas cards so she'd hate me

I think if it’s a genuinely nice card that you think she would like then it shouldn’t matter that it has come out of a multi pack. For me, it’s the fact that someone has thought about me while choosing it. So I think she is being a bit unreasonable. I treasure literally anything my children choose to give me, surely that doesn’t change with age, does it? Was she having a down day particularly maybe?

Wouldn’t give a shit about the card but agree that the sentiment is not there if you send cards this early. That’s really odd and feels like you’re just getting a chore out of the way.

Would you be happy if your husband/boyfriend sent you a card from a multipack? How would you feel if you recieved it?
Personally, I wouldn't like it. I don't mind multipack cards from anyone, but I would draw the line with my partner, kid and parent. I'd have expected something more meaningful.

My Mum had a box with cards she'd chosen very carefully for people in advance, and a birthday book. She couldn't afford to send a gift but always took great pride in the cards she sent, I think it's a generational thing. I always had to send her a 'Mum' card for Christmas.

She's being very ungrateful and really doesn't get the concept of only going out when absolutely necessary. Nothing is normal this year in terms of normal shopping and being able to get out. I think your mum is getting the true meaning of christmas and shame on her!

I think there could be more going on here than the card. You say sometimes she is up and sometimes she is low. It could be mood related so she is maybe really struggling in lock down. My moods have been put of sorts this year, they say exercise boosts your mood, I run but it hasn't helped my mood, near the end of last lock down, I was a big downer after my birthday, that was ruined by the virus, it hit me hard at this point.
So maybe the card isn't the problem, I give multi pack cards, it is the thought that should count. Phone her back and check in on her, she might not want to talk, but maybe she will. Or if she doesn't answer, write her a letter. Or send some flowers.

I am a bit flabbergasted by the whole thing really, including some of the replies on this thread!!

She is your Mum! Just ring her up, tell her that you have picked up she was upset by the card. Tell her what your thinking was behind it, when you don't normally send cards. Tell her that maybe it didn't look like/feel like that to her and for that you are sorry, but it was truly done because you love her! Then move on. She is your Mum

Why should it matter whether the card was out of a multipack or not. The fact that you were thinking about her should be enough. A card will be thrown in the bin a few days after Christmas so what does it matter what is on it or how much it cost. I’d be really annoyed with that reaction and i don’t think I’d bother sending one in future. It’s just ungrateful.

@ChooseYourLameName

I sent mine out early this year (I know, I know). My mum got hers today, earlier than expected since I sent them 2nd Class.

She doesn’t often answer her phone but she did today, I rang for a quick chat. She said ‘I got your card, thanks’. She sounded really disappointed (she’s either a really thrilled, happy as a button person or is really down in the dumps and snappy). I said is everything okay, she said ‘well it wasn’t a nice card, was it?’

It was part of a multipack, granted But I thought there were really sweet, with a snowman and red car with a tree on top. I said that I thought she’d like it, they’re just a little gesture. She said ‘Yeah well thanks’.

She then said ‘got to go, really busy, I’ll call you later’. She never does call later though.

Was I really CF for sending a multipack card? Can that be offensive if the person is an important person in your life? I just wanted to do something nice, to let people know they were in my thoughts.

I’m really hurt by this. I know I need to get a grip and I’m probably the silly one for thinking a cheap little card would be well received when people will probably bin it when they get them

It doesn't matter what card it is. It's the moral of it that matters.

You were being thoughtful, your Mother was a ungrateful (spoiled b1tch). Your Mother was crass and undeserving of your warm heart.

You're upset because your Mother has dismissed your idea of a thoughtful gesture and had a paddy over a material item.

You have every right to feel upset, because your Mother acted very cold hearted. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If anyone in this thread thinks a multi-pack card is not good enough - You obviously think money will buy you morals, friends, family, love and a conscience.

It doesn't matter what money someone spends, it doesn't matter if they don't spend any - A phonecall, a visit, time spent with one another or even thinking of another is priceless.

A card with Mum on would have been more suited to the lady that gave birth to you and bought you up. It is only once a year and she should be treated differently to your friends and neighbours you said she was an important person in your life then treat her like it. Will you expect a multi card from your partner.