My mum is really angry about her Christmas card

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I sent mine out early this year (I know, I know). My mum got hers today, earlier than expected since I sent them 2nd Class.

She doesn’t often answer her phone but she did today, I rang for a quick chat. She said ‘I got your card, thanks’. She sounded really disappointed (she’s either a really thrilled, happy as a button person or is really down in the dumps and snappy). I said is everything okay, she said ‘well it wasn’t a nice card, was it?’

It was part of a multipack, granted But I thought there were really sweet, with a snowman and red car with a tree on top. I said that I thought she’d like it, they’re just a little gesture. She said ‘Yeah well thanks’.

She then said ‘got to go, really busy, I’ll call you later’. She never does call later though.

Was I really CF for sending a multipack card? Can that be offensive if the person is an important person in your life? I just wanted to do something nice, to let people know they were in my thoughts.

I’m really hurt by this. I know I need to get a grip and I’m probably the silly one for thinking a cheap little card would be well received when people will probably bin it when they get them

Nah it must be broken

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—mass produced, generic, not-at-all-personal—

I think it’s to do with being on a tablet - I always post from my iPad.

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@dementedpixie

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It goes to show what a ' number' the card companies have done to us to make buying special cards such a thing
Saying that though, I do hope the card factory doesn't close down this year as they have been shut and open now shut again and our one in town is mega popular and cheaper than the supermarket cards , especially at Christmas.
I may not be a fan of cards myself , but it creates jobs and a busy town centre we can't afford to lose ! Clinton's has gone already ( although they were pricey)

Surely only as much of a number as any producer of a commodity?

My mum would genuinely prefer a nice card over a present. There is a massive difference between individual ones and multi pack ones.

But surely that's the same as getting someone a box of Lindor from the garage or a box from Paul A Young.

I dont really understand why people are so sneery. Different strokes and all that.

@OhToBeASeahorse

Surely only as much of a number as any producer of a commodity?

My mum would genuinely prefer a nice card over a present. There is a massive difference between individual ones and multi pack ones.

But surely that's the same as getting someone a box of Lindor from the garage or a box from Paul A Young.

I dont really understand why people are so sneery. Different strokes and all that.

Yes, exactly this. Huge assumptions and sneeriness on this thread - all “Mum” cards are tacky, all multipacks are cheap, parents who appreciate a named card/verse must be narcissistic, only low class people buy named cards etc etc. I’ve never come across a more ridiculous thread.

I don't even send cards...

@FabbyChix

You didnt send her one with Mum on? Jesus I'd be mightily annoyed and upset

why though?

Actually I said specifically that I was NOT saying that my experience of one person means anything in terms of the greater demographic. Just in case it’s my comment you’re referring to about the ‘narcissistic parent.’ Appreciate that I haven’t read all comments so maybe you’re referring to something else.

However the individual I mentioned definitely was a very difficult person on every level, especially in terms of familial obligations to her, so it’s hardly a surprise that she was exceedingly difficult about her very arbitrary rules about cards and poems.

@EleanorOalike

I do think this must be a regional thing. Up North, with family in Scotland, I don’t know a single adult person who would send a parent a card from a multipack. This is genuinely the sort of thing there would be rows about within our family as it would be seen as deliberately hurtful or lazy. I know it’s hard to believe for some people but I couldn’t envisage doing something like this to my parents. I know it would deeply hurt them .

Im from up north with friends and family in north England and Scotland and I dont know a single adult under 60 who sends cards (and then its just to announce who died that year, a generation without social media lol) and they are always bog standard multipack cards.

No one 'expects' to recieve one either, if anything its a pain in the ass because then they have to keep up the charade by replying to great aunt Sadie who remarried after your great uncle (the blood relative) died 30 years ago with a 'Sorry to hear about your Davids cancer, we lost our Paul this year too he was only 45 a bit of a shock really' when you havent seen the woman in 40 bloody years and wouldnt know her if you tripped over her lol.

I don’t really do Christmas cards my mum would be thrilled with a multi pack card she is being unreasonable

I feel maybe we should all settle down with the mince pies and a glass of cognac/baileys/port, listen to some Christmas hymns, get into the spirit of the season and just chill.

I’ve got freshly baked Lucia buns if anyone fancies one!

@HollyandIvyandallthingsYule

I feel maybe we should all settle down with the mince pies and a glass of cognac/baileys/port, listen to some Christmas hymns, get into the spirit of the season and just chill.

I’ve got freshly baked Lucia buns if anyone fancies one!

I'd love one of those but I'm too busy writing personalised Christmas cards to friends, family and ex-work colleagues. On a bit of a time limit as I need to get them out this week to ensure everyone can still enjoy them for a full 5 weeks.

I absolutely adored my darling Mother but I can honestly say that I never sent her a personalised Christmas card but always a birthday card with Mum or Mummy on it . It never crossed my mind to get her one at Christmas.

I sent one card at the end of October this year (which was very organised for me)! But that was to my Dad and his wife who live in South Africa and the post takes absolutely ages! - we had a Christmas card from them arrive in July a couple of years ago...So I’m still not confident that it’ll get to them in time...

I’ll send ours to my family & friends at the end of November - it’s going to be lovely to sit down and write them out on the first Sunday of Advent after we’ve lit the first candle, then I can post them the very next day which means I don’t have to stress about it later on (although circumstances are different this year so it wouldn’t be difficult to find the time) but mainly because they need to be sent to a range of countries around the world and some of them could take a couple of weeks to arrive.

Ahhhh. Even talking about it fills me with a warm glow of happiness! But I am a huge Christmas fan and very nostalgic/sentimental about it.

Argh well that’s enough procrastinating, need to go and sand some architraves!

I am also from up north with family in Scotland and nobody I know gets personalised cards. I have never done this, I didn't even know it was a thing (obviously seen them in the shops but wasn't sure el

Sure who was buying them!

Any twonk that cares about what kind of card they get at the moment with hundreds of thousands of people dying is a complete bloody moron. Don't care about age, status, illness, I have seen three of my friends die this year, all under 55, and for somone to bitch about a card really doesn;t know what its like to have a problem.