Will he cheat tonight?

[Devoilmum]

Need some distracting, stomach in knots.

Im taking the dcs away for a couple of nights to visit grandparents during half term. Dp is working some of the days we’re away but was planning to follow us there. However, logistically, rule of 6, travel sick dog, it’s not possible.

Six months ago I found out he’d been having an affair. He stayed, lockdown, and we said we’d work on fixing it.
We work well together, never argue, just drifted apart really. Anyway, we’ve thought, we’ve talked and are going to try and make it work.

I want to trust him, but I don’t yet. Tonight will be a real test. Last night he told me he’s committed to us, our family and will do whatever it takes. He told me he still loves me.

Will he come home, have dinner and go to bed? Or will he head to OW?

He doesn’t realise that I can track his location (his previous downfall).

I’m not sure how I shall manage to drive and think of anything other than this all day.

Just looking for a handhold I guess.

Hope your okay op.

Oh op I'm gutted your in this situation but I believe once the trust is broken you will always look over your shoulder.
Look after yourself

It's all very well for others to say leave him etc
But it's your life and you need to do what's best for you and your family. But don't put yourself at the bottom of the pile.

I hope it works out for the best

I'm sorry for your situation, I hope he proves you wrong

@noirchats Opposite in our house with my dad never forgiving my mother. He'd throw it in her face every time they quarrelled and they quarrelled a lot. He wasn't ever violent and growing up there were were some good times but my mother was walking on egg shells her whole life just waiting for something to trigger him. They're both gone now but what a waste of both their lives.

Whatever you decide OP I hope you find peace. 💐

I hope you’re alright, OP

you cant live your life like this what about when this woman goes back into work

Thanks everyone. He’s at home. I know she could be there or he could’ve left his phone but I don’t think either of these are likely. He’s never apart from his phone and we’ve got neighbours that don’t miss a thing.
He does have work very early tomorrow morning. Tomorrow is his last shift before days off. He doesn’t know when we’re back although he can track the dcs.

He was at home, yes, but she might not have been available and he may have texted her. I would try to see his phone log to see if he has carried on being in contact with her over the last few months.

How do you feel @Devoilmum ? Are you relieved?

If he goes there tonight, tomorrow night, it’s over. He’ll have to leave. And leave with the knowledge that he has looked me in the eye and blatantly lied to me

But he’s already looked you in the eye and blatantly lied to you. You just didn’t know at the time.

OP I’ve just read through this and I have a feeling that you are miserable and you kind of want him to go and be proved wrong to give you final reason to leave him.

But you already have good reason to. I hope you know you do.

What an awful, awful situation to be in. I hope you eventually find peace whatever you decide.

@Devoilmum how are you doing tonight ?

I have been think about you a lot today.

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate all the handholds and advice.

We’re really only at the very starting point of seeing if there’s a way to fix our relationship. We both know there’s no guarantee and no time frame.
I’m on the fence with it. Its going to take a long time to win back my trust.
He is home tonight.

I’ve been exactly where you are now OP. It’s horrible. I hope it all works out 💐

What a terrible situation for you. I hope, as you've chosen to stay, you can build your trust for him back and be happy again. X