Will he cheat tonight?

[Devoilmum]

Need some distracting, stomach in knots.

Im taking the dcs away for a couple of nights to visit grandparents during half term. Dp is working some of the days we’re away but was planning to follow us there. However, logistically, rule of 6, travel sick dog, it’s not possible.

Six months ago I found out he’d been having an affair. He stayed, lockdown, and we said we’d work on fixing it.
We work well together, never argue, just drifted apart really. Anyway, we’ve thought, we’ve talked and are going to try and make it work.

I want to trust him, but I don’t yet. Tonight will be a real test. Last night he told me he’s committed to us, our family and will do whatever it takes. He told me he still loves me.

Will he come home, have dinner and go to bed? Or will he head to OW?

He doesn’t realise that I can track his location (his previous downfall).

I’m not sure how I shall manage to drive and think of anything other than this all day.

Just looking for a handhold I guess.

God, the constant stomach-churning anxiety must be intolerable, OP. I hope he proves you wrong, but even if he does it's not going to unfix the broken trust. You need to ask yourself what's really better for your children: a mum who is utterly miserable because she can't trust their dad, or a mum who is happy and confident because she's reclaimed her battered self-esteem post-divorce?

PS> I can't imagine he'd be so stupid to invite her to yours.

Oh love. Handholding here xx

I hope he stays home and watches Netflix but either way, you can't keep feeling like this. It's no way to live.

Oh I'm hoping for the best for you. You must be having kittens.

Hand hold for you OP. Sorry you are having to go through this. It must be incredibly difficult. Stay safe with your DCs and I really hope whatever happens you decide what is best for you and them.

Hand hold for you OP

Blimey, I feel awful for you.
Because your stomach will be in knots and even if the tracker thing shows he hasn’t moved, you don’t know that the OW isn’t at your house and so you will possibly still feel unsure.

Been there, got the Tshirt. Really feel for you OP. I hope your dp appreciates the second chance you've given him and does his best to rebuild your relationship.

You really need a ring doorbell at your house to monitor comings and goings

Christ, just reading this made me feel nervous, you must be feeling bloody awful. You poor thing It really does sound like you have completely lost all trust though. And as though the choice is all his... you’re waiting to see who he picks and hoping that it’s you. It’s shit and you deserve better.

Oh I hope this turns out well for you

I'm anxious for you OP.. this is stomach churning

Good luck. At least you will know and thats better than being hoodwinked forever.

Its a sensible approach in my view. And you cannot control him if he is determined. What will be will be.

Hand hold here

You will never trust him again. This will happens every time he goes out, you go away, have a night out

If you can’t get past it your life will be miserable 😩

This is really sad op but it sounds like you have a plan which is good.

If he stays in tonight will you truly believe he doesn’t have her over ?
Is this how you want to live your life: doubting and second guessing over what he does with someone who will never be you because she knowingly cheated on a married man

If I were you I’d bin the tracker and bin him because you the reality of life in a relationship is without trust there is nothing. You don’t trust him. There is nothing.

Gosh, I feel for you, especially with the ow returning to work next week... I could never live with knowing they are at work together and just wondering. I really hope he stays faithful to you tonight, but I feel like when she returns to work, even if they don't resume an affair, then it will still be an awful situation for you

Even if he doesn't cheat tonight, it doesn't mean he won't betray your trust again

Hoping this turns out the way you’d like it to but I’m worried you’ll always be doubting him

Hand hold for you OP

I've just looked at your previous threads, OP. You poor thing. You've been in agony over this all year.

I really hope he stays at home and you can start rebuilding

For the dcs I need to give it our best shot.

No. You don't. You really don't.

It sounds like he stopped seeing her because he hasn't had opportunity, not because he wanted too.

How add you going to cope when they're back at work? You don't deserve this op. He's the one whose cheated but you're suffering and anxious. End it.

What @lostmymitten says. Sorry OP.

Seconding what @lostmymitten said. My mother never truly forgave my father for cheating and she made life miserable for myself and my two brothers. The atmosphere in the house (I won't call it a family home 'cause it wasn't) was horrible. He ended up leaving for another woman in the end anyway.