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Dd won't put earrings back in

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StormsDontLastForever · 23/10/2020 19:22

Dd got her earring stuck in her ear a few weeks ago, was out & sorted etc. She absolutley loves having her earrings in, however she now has the fear about putting them in as she thinks it's going to be sore. She's crying that she wants them in, then won't let me do it as she's too scared, she can't get them in herself as she can't find the hole properly. Any tips on what I could do to make her less scared? Or do I just tell her we need to let them close up? Thanks

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SummerInSun · 23/10/2020 22:30

Just buy the kid some clip on earrings. She doesn't really want them if she scared of them.

RoseGold7 · 23/10/2020 22:31

I was around the same age when I had my ears pierced for the first time. You need to get her thinner ear studs with a back that stops part way, to prevent it getting stuck. Or little sleeper hoops - these will be easier to put in and take out.

onemorerose · 23/10/2020 22:31

OP if she doesn’t want them back in now i would leave it. My almost 11 year old has had hers done after years of begging, some of her friends are on their third piercings! She’s allowed to change them now but we are both a little worried about it, is it better to leave the first earrings in longer?

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CoffeeRunner · 23/10/2020 22:33

She was clearly nowhere near old enough to cope with them when they were done.

Agree with others, let her have them done again as an adult if she wishes.

Thirtyrock39 · 23/10/2020 22:34

When I let my daughters get their ears pierced (at aged 8 and 10) the lady who pierced their ears (not Claire's I hasten to add!) said that between 3-6 is the worst age as they fiddle with the earrings and get infected . I remember a lot of girls getting their ears pierced between reception and year one and having weeping ears . I'd leave them out and wait a few years it's not worth the stress over .

RonaLisa · 23/10/2020 22:36

@RoseGold7

I was around the same age when I had my ears pierced for the first time. You need to get her thinner ear studs with a back that stops part way, to prevent it getting stuck. Or little sleeper hoops - these will be easier to put in and take out.
Either that, or let them grow over and wait until she is old enough to decide for herself, rather than have a parent mutilate her "because she wants it".
RoseGold7 · 23/10/2020 22:36

I also find it odd that mums on here are so judgemental. At 6 years old you’re not a baby. I had mine done at that age and I didn’t even cry. It doesn’t hurt.

I was a straight A grade student at school. I also have a post grad degree. I guess my pierced ears didn’t ruin my life Grin

Miljea · 23/10/2020 22:39

@RoseGold7

I also find it odd that mums on here are so judgemental. At 6 years old you’re not a baby. I had mine done at that age and I didn’t even cry. It doesn’t hurt.

I was a straight A grade student at school. I also have a post grad degree. I guess my pierced ears didn’t ruin my life Grin

Um- the fact you conflate your academic qualifications with the age of your piercings suggest you don't really understand the conversation happening here, doesn't it?

MrDarcysMa · 23/10/2020 22:40

She's clearly not ready to cope with having her ears pierced. I'd let them heal and wait until she's older.

pincertoe · 23/10/2020 22:43

We had similar, had put plastic stoppers in as school said no earrings but her holes hadn't healed (over a year later). Had to take her to urgent care as couldn't get it out.

By the time it healed her piercing healed. She had them re pierced a year later and these healed much better.

BoggledBudgie · 23/10/2020 22:43

@RoseGold7 you find it odd that people are judgemental? Or is it just mother’s you’ve an issue with being judgemental? Because mothers definitely don’t have negative opinions or feelings on things?

roarfeckingroarr · 23/10/2020 22:45

She's too young to have them pierced anyway. Let them close up

altforvarmt · 23/10/2020 22:45

I had my ears pierced when I was 4, and I whinged and whined about wanting it done.

It was in the 80s. It was just about culturally acceptable back then.

I'm pretty gobsmacked that people are getting their young children's ears pierced in 2020.

Let them close over.

RoseGold7 · 23/10/2020 22:45

A bit of lightheartedness. A lot of people here and equating pierced ears to abuse. If there isn’t any infection then I offered some advice, like tiny sleeper hoops.

Fatted · 23/10/2020 22:46

Regardless of opinions on piercings etc, your daughter has demonstrated she is clearly not of an age where she can safely care for her piercings herself. Let them close over and wait until she is old enough to manage the responsibility herself.

Mischance · 23/10/2020 22:46

Hmmmm...........the fact that she is so young is relevant to the problem and not necessarily a judgment on the decision to pierce them so young.

However, I hold my hand up to being judgmental about this unashamedly.

RoseGold7 · 23/10/2020 22:47

[quote BoggledBudgie]@RoseGold7 you find it odd that people are judgemental? Or is it just mother’s you’ve an issue with being judgemental? Because mothers definitely don’t have negative opinions or feelings on things?[/quote]
I said mums because this is Mumsnet. I find it odd when people are judgemental. Are you okay?

BoggledBudgie · 23/10/2020 22:49

@RoseGold7 you really find it odd that people are judgemental? Do you know very little about people in general? What an odd view to have.

OpEd · 23/10/2020 22:50

First evening of half term and a thread about piercing a young child's ears..?

throwaway100000 · 23/10/2020 22:52

Just leave it for now and let her decide if she wants piercings in the future.

Frankly you shouldn’t have changed her studs at only 3 months post piercing. Such a bad decision. Her piercings wouldn’t have completely healed so no wonder it has now flared up and become overwhelmingly painful for her. You should have left it alone and just continued to clean it.

It hurts her to the point she’s scared to wear them. Listen to her. If she wants them again in a few years then just get them repierced, no big deal. She’s only six.

lhmua12 · 23/10/2020 23:03

Cringing at the replies advising to force the studs in whilst she’s asleep or to use a lubricantConfused

She will most likely wake up confused and in pain as she is just asleep - she isn’t unconscious! Using a lubricant will make her piercings more susceptible to infection (particularly as they have not currently healed well)

ClickandForget · 23/10/2020 23:05

Yes she's 6 but many children get their ears pierced when they are babies

They don't really choose to though do they? Their mothers do.

Arthersleep · 23/10/2020 23:07

This really is not a nice thing to impose on a child who lacks the legal capacity to consent at such a young age

Whole heartedly agree! She's a child and not a doll to dress up.

whatthehelldowecare · 23/10/2020 23:08

I've had my ears pierced for years, but don't always wear earrings.. if it's been a while and they've started to close up I put the earring in from the back first.. I'm not sure if that side is slower to close up, but it's always a lot more comfortable that way

SBTLove · 23/10/2020 23:13

You want to push pieces of metal into someones' body
Only on MN would this be about earrings 🙄🤣

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