Dd won't put earrings back in

[StormsDontLastForever]

Dd got her earring stuck in her ear a few weeks ago, was out & sorted etc. She absolutley loves having her earrings in, however she now has the fear about putting them in as she thinks it's going to be sore. She's crying that she wants them in, then won't let me do it as she's too scared, she can't get them in herself as she can't find the hole properly. Any tips on what I could do to make her less scared? Or do I just tell her we need to let them close up? Thanks

We had something similar. DD healed up so well after her first ear piercing that her ear grew over the initial tiny stud and it had to be cut free. She was about 9 then and it was several years before she was ready to be pierced again. I left the choice up to her and when she was ready I gave her the money to go with her mates for the second appointment. I reasoned that my decision hadn’t worked well for her the first time round so I wasn’t going to make her do things my way the second time.

Tiny hinged hoops and Vaseline to get them in. Ignore the judging.

You let them close up. This is a good illustration of why 6 year olds are not ready for piercings.

The way some people are going on you would think I'm pinning her to the floor and forcing them in her ears 😂. She asked for her ears pierced, I agreed, everything was fine. She is only scared the earring going in is going to hurt, I'm not in any way going to force her to put them in!! I was simply asking if anyone had been in the same position and was looking for some advice!! My daughter, my choice! Yes she's 6 but many children get their ears pierced when they are babies, many don't, everyone is different. I'm not here asking for peoples opinions on the age of my child and her piercings I was simply only asking for advice if anyone had been in similar situation! She doesn't want them in again that's absolutley fine, but if she does and is happy for me to put them in then I will. If you don't have anything relevant to say then simply scroll past 👍🏼

@speakout

*StormsDontLastForever

Thanks to those for their actual advice 😁 which I asked for.

To those who are too judgemental, get a life. She's my child and my decisions, if I wanted opinions on whether she should have her ears pierced or not I would have asked that 👍🏼 parents of the year on here sometimes 😂 not everyone is perfect!*

I agree!! Well said.

We as parents should have the right to allow piecings- kids hardly know it is even happening- and if they fancy it or we like the look of of then why not??

I have a 15 month old with a belly piercing, my 3 year old twins have already started with ear stretchers and an 8 year old with a tongue bolt.

My babies= my business- #letmemutilatemykids

No labia or nipple piercing??? How disappointingly

Disappointing

And yes my child my decision, meaning she asked for them to be done, I made the decision that yes she could have them done as she wanted them done.

Maybe try putting them in when she's asleep if possible?

Pls ignore the judgemental brigade. I had mine done at 3 and so did my sisters. Mine were fine but my older sister’s got infected and once taken out she wouldn’t let anyone put them in again and developed a phobia until her 30s. I’d recommend leaving them out and when she’s happy to talk about it again give her the autonomy to decide - and be led by her. I’m sure you’re a great mum so pls don’t listen to the naysayers

And yes my child my decision, meaning she asked for them to be done, I made the decision that yes she could have them done as she wanted them done.

The fact she asked is meaningless.

My two year old may want a go at driving, or to drink my wine. Children connot consent

She is scared of them hurting when they go in. This tells you she isn't ready. I don't have any particular ideas about the right age, but it just seems so obvious that she likes them like a little girl might like a princess dress. A princess dress can be taken off without needing to be careful not to hurt yourself. At school, your dd will need to remove them for PE. It just seems so obvious that you should wait until she is more mature.

Well, it was evidently a shit decision, wasn't it?

Being her parent means you have a responsibility to act in her best interests. It doesn't mean you get to treat her like a possession.

I'd let her do it herself in front of the mirror of she would. She'll do it slowly and gently, probably much better than you would. My dd only asks for my help if she can't grasp the butterfly.

I think it's weird to pierce a baby's ears, but a 6-year-old is very likely to actively want pierced ears and beg for them! I know I did. I had mine pierced at about that age. Now... we did end up letting them close up again, so maybe I wasn't quite old enough, but plenty of girls that age don't have problems. (I got them pierced again, a few years later. No trouble that time.)

As for practical advice, I can't think of anything other than what's been suggested.

Jesus. The fact that she's freaking out evidences precisely why she's too young, never mind your 'Mum of the Year' 'Perfect Parent' bs . . . 😒

Pierced ears aren't like a tattoo or drinking alcohol or driving! Talk about an overreaction!

I have mine done when I was 5 (six weeks holidays between reception and yr1) mine got stuck and I remember my mums saying if I wouldn't let her put them back in then we would have to let them close up. I can remember not wanting that to happen so I let her. If it isnt that important to her she won't let you therefore just let them close up

@TheyreComingToGetYouBarbara I know exactly!

My child is my absolute world, I do everything I can to protect her & keep her safe! She asked for her ears pierced and I made the decision to let her. I'm sure if it was so bad then none of these piercing shops would allow it so none of these negative comments make me feel bad because I know I'm a great mum who would never put my child in any danger!! Some people may not agree with that but that's you're personal opinions

I had them done as an adult. One ear constantly wept and if I din,t wear them for more thn a wk the hole closed. Can,t get them in at all nowso would have to repeierce. I am an adult it was my decision I understood the consequences a 6 year doesn,t.

Quickly push it back in when she’s choosing her favourite tattoo.

@MintyMabel

Who is the parent here?

What does this mean? You think the OP should take control and.....force the girl to put earrings in?

I’m with the majority here. I don’t think girls need their ears pierced, and encouraging them in girls so young buys in to the idea that girls just need to be pretty.

DD has been told she can have hers done when I don’t need to sign the consent form.

I am assuming that this means that the parent should take control and should be a parent - meaning that they tell said child that they can have whatever piercings they like as an older person.

OP you did ask if you should let them close up

I think a lot of us are saying yes.

Ffs she's 6 years old not 6 months. She is just a bit scared because she had an infection and it hurt. Some kids won't go to the toilet after being constipated because they're scared it will hurt. Its an irrational fear of pain because they don't understand why it hurt before. Same principle. They have to just bite the bullet and do it before they will realise that it doesn't hurt.

Just tell her that she either let's you put them in or let them close up. Her choice but if they close then she can't have them done again until she is much older. She will choose if they are important enough to her. They might have already started closing up though.

Good grief. Anyone would think you'd forced her to donate a kidney. Ignore the nastiness op. People are bored. No big deal to pierce at whatever age. My girls dont yet have them pierced, but not cos i disapprove. Its a nothing issue the age when you do it.

@Hercwasonaroll

You got a 6 year old ears pierced

Apparently so.