Dd won't put earrings back in

[StormsDontLastForever]

Dd got her earring stuck in her ear a few weeks ago, was out & sorted etc. She absolutley loves having her earrings in, however she now has the fear about putting them in as she thinks it's going to be sore. She's crying that she wants them in, then won't let me do it as she's too scared, she can't get them in herself as she can't find the hole properly. Any tips on what I could do to make her less scared? Or do I just tell her we need to let them close up? Thanks

I think I was wearing stickers on my ears at 6.

That’s far too early to be messing around with metal in holes. Let them close up.

@tiredybear

Piercings are often cultural. I live in Spain and 99% of girls have pierced ears as babies. It doesn't appear to cause problems and they can always remove them when they are older, so what's the harm? Let's be a bit less judgy, eh?

If the OP is in Spain, I will gladly retract my comment.

I had this, I was a bit older as I was in year 5, so about 9? One got knocked out in the playground before it was healed, and I remember it being really painful after school when it was put back in. I refused to let anyone take them out for ages, I loved having them done but it was just really nerve-wracking at the time for some reason, and I kept begging my parents not to (they wanted me to take them out and clean them). Eventually after a bath I remember them asking if I was happy to try, and they distracted me whilst doing it and it was fine after that. If she has already been through having them done and likes them, maybe just explain if she isn't comfortable having them put back in then they will close up, but she can have them redone in the future (they don't fully heal though so probably won't be able to get them in the exact same place); and leave it at that.

@tiredybear

Piercings are often cultural. I live in Spain and 99% of girls have pierced ears as babies. It doesn't appear to cause problems and they can always remove them when they are older, so what's the harm? Let's be a bit less judgy, eh?

Baby boys being circumcised is also common in some cultures. Doesn’t makes it right.

Can she wear clip on earrings?

Actually OP it's not your choice. It's the choice of another human being - your 6 year old dd.

I don't want to be judgy but sometimes the adults need to make the big decisions and make sure they are the right decisions for the child. Child shows fear or distaste. It stops. End of.

I live in Spain and 99 per cent of girls do not have their ears pierced as babies.

This really is not a nice thing to impose on a child who lacks the legal capacity to consent at such a young age.

@StormsDontLastForever ignore the judgements!!! People will always have something to say

Try screw back earrings. I got a beautiful pair for my Dd on Etsy. They won't come out and can't get stuck in the piercing hole. Small enough to sleep in and small enough for school x

Glad you got a solution you can live with, OP.

Who is the parent here?

What does this mean? You think the OP should take control and.....force the girl to put earrings in?

I’m with the majority here. I don’t think girls need their ears pierced, and encouraging them in girls so young buys in to the idea that girls just need to be pretty.

DD has been told she can have hers done when I don’t need to sign the consent form.

I think this shows why 6bis too young for ear piercing. Sorry op. Let them close up and get them done at 11 to 13 depending on maturity.

well, you asked - let them grow over and let her do what she wants with her ears when she's an adult.

There's a reason there's usually an age limit for this kind of thing

Let them close up, put the earrings away and she'll have forgotten about them soon enough.

I had mine pierced when I was about 12 and some time later lost a butterfly in the hole that had to be removed in hospital. It put me off wearing them even at twice your DDs age and 25 years later is still rare that I do.

I can't for the life of me imagine why anyone wants to punch holes in perfect little girls before they're old enough to make the informed decision themselves

@Audreyseyebrows

I think I was wearing stickers on my ears at 6.

I had earrings in.

They are only a big deal if you make them so.

Regardless of the culture element - mine were done when I was 8, mums when she was 1 so she thought 8 was okay....

I couldn’t get on with them. I gave up. She’s only 6. If she doesn’t want to put them in, let it go.

My sister got on fine wth them but we’re all individuals. Because “culture” isn’t a reason to push her if she’s not happy.

I had my ears pierced when I was 8 months old. Get a grip MN.

the original studs were far too small for her ear so we chose slightly bigger ones

Ouch - do you mean the ones she was pierced with were too small?
That shouldn't be the case , the ear lobe thickness should be measured and there should be enough room for swelling .

Where did you have them done ?

I hate that saying 'my kid my decision'. You don't own your child's body.

Bit shocked at a 6 year old having ears pierced.

Think I was 14 when I had mine done...

6!
My mum said I had to wait until I was 16. Right decision. Thanks Mum

*StormsDontLastForever

Thanks to those for their actual advice 😁 which I asked for.

To those who are too judgemental, get a life. She's my child and my decisions, if I wanted opinions on whether she should have her ears pierced or not I would have asked that 👍🏼 parents of the year on here sometimes 😂 not everyone is perfect!*

I agree!! Well said.

We as parents should have the right to allow piecings- kids hardly know it is even happening- and if they fancy it or we like the look of of then why not??

I have a 15 month old with a belly piercing, my 3 year old twins have already started with ear stretchers and an 8 year old with a tongue bolt.

My babies= my business- #letmemutilatemykids

Let them close up. A 6 year old shouldn't have her ears pierced, especially if it's making her cry and she's scared. Bonkers.

She's my child and my decisions

No it’s her body and her decision.

If she needs a medical procedure for her health or needs to wear something to keep her safe from injury or warm enough on a freezing day then sure it’s your decision. But it’s not your decision for a piece of decoration, she’s not a doll. She doesn’t want to put the earrings in, you can’t do it by force obviously so either you can manage to persuade her nicely or you let the holes close up.

So it is your decision to punch a hole through your 6 year old daughter's ears because she is your child?

I agree with others that if she is too scared to let you put them back in, then let them heal over, and when she is older to make the decision herself, you can just go and get them pierced again.