Dd won't put earrings back in

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Dd got her earring stuck in her ear a few weeks ago, was out & sorted etc. She absolutley loves having her earrings in, however she now has the fear about putting them in as she thinks it's going to be sore. She's crying that she wants them in, then won't let me do it as she's too scared, she can't get them in herself as she can't find the hole properly. Any tips on what I could do to make her less scared? Or do I just tell her we need to let them close up? Thanks

@Giganticshark

I hate that saying 'my kid my decision'. You don't own your child's body.

No but her daughter wanted them & she allowed her to get them done

Her decision, not the judgey pants of MN clutching their pearls

People also, in their haste to judge & condemn, seem to be over looking the fact that it's her DD in tears WANTING her earrings back in, just a bit scared they'll hurt again.

FFS the OP isn't forcing her to have earrings she doesn't want.

Kids need help with all kinds of things they want to do but are a bit scared of doing.

Some kids won't go to the toilet after being constipated because they're scared it will hurt. Its an irrational fear of pain because they don't understand why it hurt before. Same principle.

NO!!
Children need to defacate.
Children dont need a random puncture wound in their body.

It is not the same thing at all!!

Should be illegal under 10. My DD just had them done at 11 and she is struggling with taking them out and putting them back! Keeps getting sore. No wonder a 6 year old is struggling!

why are people suggesting to put them in while she’s sleeping?? awful

I don’t think it’s appropriate that young children should have their ears pierced. I’m sorry but I think it’s tacky.

6 is not ok for ear piercing, whatever your DD thought at the time. Since when has a six year old been responsible and mature enough to make rational decisions on body mutilation?

A 6 year old cannot give informed consent to anything.

Some of these comments are hilarious, it's not like she has a tattoo my mum has my ears pierced when I was a baby (which I actually don't agree with) I'm 36 and still have the holes but I hardly ever wear earrings anymore. When i do, I put sudocrem on the earring which helps it heal and makes it easier for them to go in. You could try that, and maybe like someone else said let her stand in front of the mirror and do it. Just tell her if she doesn't do it soon they will close up.
My friend had to wait until she was 16 and she hated it, everyone had their ears pierced, I had 8 in my ears by the time I was
16, the good old days where you didn't have to have your parents consent lol (except for my tragus which my mum paid for for my 16th birthday)

She’s far too young to have made an informed decision to have hers pierced. Let them grow over and when she sold enough to take responsibility for putting them in / out you can start the process again.

Pierced ears aren't like a tattoo

They really are.

Cruel and vulgar

Exactly why kids that age should be banned from having it done.

She's my child and my decisions

She’s a little girl, a human being, who is not a fashion accessory.

• Pierced ears aren't like a tattoo

They really are

Erm no they're not .

My DD had her helix done , then her tragus (before 16) her choice , I just had to find a piercer that used a needle and I was happy with the sterile field .
Unfortunately a hairdresser caught the helix with a comb and it got infected . She decided to temove these studs (again her choice) and there is No Scar or Mark.
So nothing like a tattoo.
In fact when I was looking for a piercer , some areas ( like Westminster ) don't allow under 16 , our area does with parental consent because it isn't permenant ( like a tattoo is)

DD got her belly button pierced (16)which she has kept in.
She has 3 lobes piercings done in Yr 7 /Yr 8 .

Her choices .

because I know I'm a great mum who would never put my child in any danger!!

You did put her in danger. You took her to a piercing shop in the middle of a pandemic exposing her to both Covid unnecessarily and to infection due to getting her ears pierced so young.

@draughtycatflap

Quickly push it back in when she’s choosing her favourite tattoo.

Bloody hell nothing like an ear piercing thread to bring out the perfect parents.

My daughter was 5 and asked for them to be pierced with no encouragement or input at all from me. She'd seen other girls/women with them and liked them.

I made her wait a few weeks Incase she changed her mind but she was sure so I let her get them done.

Tiny cry when they were pierced then she was thrilled to bits with them and no trouble at all with them since.

It's not a big deal at all. Some parents are ok with it, some aren't, and that's fine. In fact the ones who make it a big deal are the ones that are dead against it.

@BoggledBudgie

because I know I'm a great mum who would never put my child in any danger!!

You did put her in danger. You took her to a piercing shop in the middle of a pandemic exposing her to both Covid unnecessarily and to infection due to getting her ears pierced so young.

No interest at all in Covid, but piercings on small children look crarp.

@TeachesOfPeaches

I had my ears pierced when I was 8 months old. Get a grip MN.

Same here. Still love my parents and my earrings, funnily enough

She asked for her ears pierced, I agreed, everything was fine

Except it wasn’t because the first sentence of the OP is *”Dd got her earring stuck in her ear a few weeks ago”. And you’ve subsequently used the words: crying, the fear, too scared and sore in the OP.

Just let them close up.

We had this drama-dd was older (10) but after the first time taking them out she couldn’t Face putting them back in again. Hours of crying, trying to put them back in, asking me to do it but then flinching away.

Eventually we decided to let them close up and I’ve said she can wait til she’s 16 and doesn’t have to take them out for school anymore.

Sudocreme

My DD begged to get her ears pierced when she was about that age, as a few other girls in the class had them.
I said no, as she struggled with fine motor skills and would not be able to get them out for PE.
Now nearly 4 years on I asked her of she wanted them done for her birthday.
Now she doesn't want them!
So now it's up to her when she's older if she does or not 🤷🏼‍♂️

I am so far from a perfect parent and, honestly, live and let live but oh god. Why would you put a 6 year old through something painful, that requires constant cleaning and focus to manage. Why why why.

Please let them close up and don't mutilate her again.