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How are YOU feeling? I mean emotionally what with lockdown etc...

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UsernameNeverAvailable · 17/10/2020 22:59

I’m ok, generally happy with some really disorientated days when I feel very out of sorts and over emotional.
I want to know how everyone else is coping, come and voice your feelings, no judgement here.

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DramaAlpaca · 18/10/2020 01:14

Thoroughly fed up of the whole situation, to be honest.

Thank you for asking, OP.

GoldenPoppy · 18/10/2020 01:24

Not good at all.
I was shielding due to health conditions and didn't leave my house for 12 weeks, I am grateful to have my own garden and Dh who stayed in with me.
I almost managed to adjust to this.
Now I'm back at work and I am really struggling. I'm a nursery nurse so no social distancing from children. This is as it should be but conditions are horrendous. We have been told we will be disiplined if there is more than one case between staff, we are not allowed any PPE, I have been banned from seeing my friends who work with me out of work, one friend in particular helps me out with shopping and stuff, Dh is disabled and we have no car so struggle with shopping and cant go anywhere as public transport is essential only here and I'm scared to use it anyway.
I go to work where Im scared then come home and try to shut the world out.
Im scared to die but dont really want to live either.

MushMonster · 18/10/2020 01:42

@GoldenPoppy I do not even know what to say to you! You are having it from all angles! Lots of Flowers
I suppose we have to focus on the positives to keep going: you have a job, your husband and you did not get covid or got worst healthwise, and you get to see the children. I wish you all the best.

CovidNightmare · 18/10/2020 02:38

Was ok, bored senseless, worried sometimes, but ok. Mum has been in hospital for over 3 weeks, it's been hard not being able to visit but she was hopefully due out this week.

Then this week hit like a freight train. Mum has caught covid in hospital, her positive test had coincidened with her hearing aid breaking so we can't even talk to her, she is alone and noone can comfort her verbally. They can't do anything about her hearing aid now it is the weekend and not even sure if they can do something next week. She has no symptoms yet, but she is very vulnerable, dreading what next week will bring. Just want to talk to my mum.

katy1213 · 18/10/2020 03:13

@normandy144 I agree. I don't watch television news, haven't listened to a single government announcement, might quickly scan a couple of stories in the newspaper - and mostly I feel fine. It's a bit of a pain booking things in advance but I'm getting better at thinking ahead - and the initial rush for tickets has subsidised - so I make sure I have at least two or three outings a week. Refuse to get caught up in hysteria and other people's over-reactions. It's a minor irritation, I'll be glad when it's over - but it's not ruling my life.

tobee · 18/10/2020 03:36

Really up and down. A large amount of the time I can't remember what day of the week it is. Been mostly shielding with very vulnerable Dh and 2 adult children. We're all unemployed or wfh currently.

Shielding can make you quite cocooned until you remember. I have moments of feeling very low. And some of near uncontrolled laughter. Feel institutionalised. Will feel odd going out to shops etc eventually, but so looking forward to it!

tobee · 18/10/2020 03:40

So sorry @GoldenPoppy and @CovidNightmare ; my old dad had a heart attack and was in hospital a couple of weeks ago without hearing aid as was broken. Sad

And everyone else struggling Thanks

katy1213 · 18/10/2020 03:45

Subsided, sorry, not subsidised!

crabbiesoriginal · 18/10/2020 03:48

I'm feeling awful because I am struggling to process a bereavement and I can't move on. Nobody but me knows how much I am struggling as I have no support and it is causing problems with incompetence at work and having a negative impact on my relationship with my parents who are relying on my support. I go to work, look after my children and whenever I am at home on my own I go to bed. I am struggling financially due to covid reducing my working hours and working from home is difficult to get motivated.

PolarBearStrength · 18/10/2020 04:59

Okay... pretty lucky to have stable employment, a husband with a job (bit less stable but he’s fairly employable and I’m not too worried), family we could fall back on in an emergency, a lovely (if exhausting) toddler, good health etc. However... I’m heavily pregnant, am barely sleeping (wake up to pee every hour or two and struggle to George back to sleep, and she’s been super wriggly for the past hour and a half so I’ve given up and am eating a sandwich on the sofa), dreading maternity leave with a very active and demanding 2 year old and a newborn in a tiny house and no toddler drop in type activities running locally, and am super sick of all this COVID bullshit.

PolarBearStrength · 18/10/2020 05:01

Struggling to GET back to sleep.

No idea where George came from. Maybe I’m more sleepy than I thought.

1990shopefulftm · 18/10/2020 05:16

I ve been lucky, I m heavily pregnant and was able to work from home until my maternity leave started and had more appointments than I ve heard of a lot of people getting.

I m still quite anxious at this point, I ve been very risk averse and know there's next to no chance I ll be taking covid into the hospital with me when I m in labour but having spoken to a couple of poor women who ended up on wards with covid positive women which meant them having to be there alone, I m terrified that after all the selfishness happening at the moment that that could happen to me despite my efforts to do what I can to keep us and all the staff that will care for me safe.

MonsterKidz · 18/10/2020 05:48

I am a complete wreck, emotions up and down all over the place. One day I’m ok, think I can do this, the next I just feel so down and angry. Mostly it’s isolation, boredom and worried about my kids.

I currently live in US and although my state has done a good job with the restrictions and our numbers on all levels are lower than the U.K, life isn’t anywhere near normal. My kids are not yet back in school, we started the new school year with 100% remote learning meaning 6+ hours a day in front of screens for a 6 and 10 year old. There are now vague plans for my youngest to return if our numbers continue to drop but who knows. It’s just a mess.

HeronLanyon · 18/10/2020 06:07

I feel generally flat. Not used to having little to look forward to (travel, gigs, bookings).
It’s also made me very aware of what a privileged life I’ve led and that I’m in a generally safe secure position and how incredibly lucky that all is.
Feel very down about how many are in real difficulty and always have been. Inequalities have just been exacerbated. Really worried for children and schooling/universities jobs/careers/opportunities.
So sick about brexit and this government on top of everything else. Think this country is a disgrace on so many levels right now.
Really really want a time machine but the trouble is I just want to go back - can’t see going forward will necessarily be any better at all now. That’s really fundamentally depressing.
Support all !!

LynetteScavo · 18/10/2020 06:12

Emotionally I'm absolutely fine.

Lockdown was one of the best times of my life.

DH is earning less, and I am concerned about his job in the future. I am concerned about the economy, and my DCs in Y11 & Y13. But overall, my life is ticking over nicely. I'm definitely not bored.

I can see certain relatives struggling though. Interestingly, the people I know who have always been the most dismissive of other peoples anxiety and depression are the ones now struggling the most. Confused

bengalcat · 18/10/2020 06:20

Frontline nhs so thankful I have a job and no concerns re loss of job / earnings . Parents died a few years ago so whilst that was traumatic at the time have no concerns around juggling / seeing family . Sticking to the rules re socialisation and have met the odd friend /s in a pub/ restaurant which as in tier two can no longer do - never mind it won’t be forever . Emotionally have written off 2020 for plans / holidays etc and wouldn’t be surprised if 2021 was similar - at least for the first part of the year .
Feel for those who have lost jobs , face illness , children losing out on school and young adults .

Bettyboop82 · 18/10/2020 06:23

Angry, lovely, bored, worried.
3 very young children who don’t understand why they can’t see grandparents or cousins (we are tier 3), go to soft play or for a ride on the bus. We had such a fun and happy life before and I miss it. Am so lonely as I’m in may leave and so don’t see any other adults other than my husband, I miss contact with friends or family so much. Currently self isolating for for the 2nd time as one of the children has a cough. Am a crap mum because I’m so moist and tired all the time, I’ve never had any issues with mental health before this. After this period of self isolation I’m done with ‘the rules’ I can’t take any more.

Bettyboop82 · 18/10/2020 06:23

Moist??? Moody I mean! Ha

emilybrontescorsett · 18/10/2020 06:26

I'm very up and down.
I've been working throughout which has been both a positive and a negative.
I've taken pleasure in getting dressed smartly and nicely for work yet enjoyed really dressing down whilst not working. I've had so many events cancelled. So many birthday treats I planned for my family and friends ruined.treats
The latest announcements left me upset. I can't see my chidren, yet I have to come into contact with strangers who mean nothing to me day in and day out.
I'm fed up of hearing about those who think the rules dont to them. It just prolongs the agony. Now a close relative has caught vivid so I'm doing their shopping and have the extra worry of that.

Liquorishlucy · 18/10/2020 06:41

Due to go into work in less just over an hour. Not sure if I'll be working in covid or non covid area as the whatsapp message from shift leader allocating our patients doesn't come until 7:15 ish. My last few shifts in the covid area were horrendous so my manager gave me a break last week which was a nice thought. We are full now, mainly covid and not by any means all 'elderly vulnerable'. We've extended into another ward not really equipped for ICU so it's a bit chaotic and are also short staffed so struggling for runners to get things for us.
I'm definitely going to retire next year, worked on ICU for over 20 years and not seen anything like it. Quite a few intending to do the same. Dread work now, feel like I'm living off adrenaline as every shift is so busy. We've had loads of restrictions the last few months (hotspot area) but tbh they're not that bad in the scheme of things. Okay so the spontaneity has gone but it's not going to be for ever.

SilenceOfThePrams · 18/10/2020 06:45

Was shielding until August, that was awful. Then emerged from that cocoon and thought everything would be fine again. But it’s so very not. Shielding paused but advice is still to keep social interactions low and to avoid meeting people indoors. Additionally cannot self-isolate due to caring responsibilities so therefore avoiding track and trace by not using cafes pubs restaurants or anywhere where track and trace might be needed. Which means still where we were in August, meeting people outside only.

And so much has just gone. The playground is silent when I drop my child at school, no parents and preschoolers hanging around for chats. No church. No toddler groups. Therapists online or on the phone - how on earth do you do an effective physiotherapy session over the phone?

And then the constant constant reminders that people resent doing this for people like us. “Oh but we didn’t mean you.” You do though. You think it’s ok if we die as long as your world gets back to normal. And you forget that it’s not just “the elderly and the vulnerable” who have died. And that those in those categories aren’t all at death’s door just waiting to be pushed inside.

And I’m weary because I know these measures aren’t going to do anything at all. What’s the point of having sage if you ignore their advice? And then meanwhile to sneak in the loss of our food standards post brexit - goodbye British farming, hello chlorinated chicken and pink slime - and now no deal brexit too.

My country is falling apart. My world is falling apart. And all the things I would usually do in order to help me process that are not available.

So yeah. Not doing so well really. Children in school. Keep going. Keep the face on until they’ve gone. Plod through the weekends without doing most of the stuff which made weekends pleasant. Not mega stuff. Just getting up on a Saturday and deciding to go and visit somewhere nice without having had to book it in advance. Going to sit in a cafe and bumping into friends. Just sitting next to someone all squished in together, two families on one tiny table sharing a piece of cake with my friend and children having a sharing plate together.

You know, normality. I miss that. And it seems so very very far away.

TokyoSushi · 18/10/2020 06:50

I'm going to go with OK. Lovely house, lovely DH and DC. However I also did have a lovely job, and still do, but that's become precarious over the last week (COVID Finances) and it seems that it will die a slow death probably by around next spring. I was made redundant in 2015 and it stressed me out beyond belief so I'm really worried that's going to happen again. Also, I used to be one of those people who was out all the time, now I really don't want to go anywhere. I'm not afraid of catching the virus, but nothing is any fun at all. The masks, the distancing, the sit at your table, don't move and wear a mask if you get up. It just absolutely sucks the joy out of anything. And everybody else that you come into contact with seems so stressed and miserable too.

I'm desperate for this to be over but I'm also afraid that I've lost all sense of what 'back to normal' is.

TokyoSushi · 18/10/2020 06:50

I'm going to go with OK. Lovely house, lovely DH and DC. However I also did have a lovely job, and still do, but that's become precarious over the last week (COVID Finances) and it seems that it will die a slow death probably by around next spring. I was made redundant in 2015 and it stressed me out beyond belief so I'm really worried that's going to happen again. Also, I used to be one of those people who was out all the time, now I really don't want to go anywhere. I'm not afraid of catching the virus, but nothing is any fun at all. The masks, the distancing, the sit at your table, don't move and wear a mask if you get up. It just absolutely sucks the joy out of anything. And everybody else that you come into contact with seems so stressed and miserable too.

I'm desperate for this to be over but I'm also afraid that I've lost all sense of what 'back to normal' is.

devildeepbluesea · 18/10/2020 06:54

Really really fucking pissed off. Single parent, sick to death of not seeing friends, sick to death of no playdates for DD, sick to death of nothing to do bar walking / biking (which we do a lot of).

I think this time round it's a huge overreaction and we're throwing the younger generation under a bus for the sake of a very small number of older people. Kids not getting exams, a proper uni experience, not meeting new people and trying new things. The economy being totally and utterly destroyed. It's completely insane.

TokyoSushi · 18/10/2020 06:58

While I'm at it, I'm absolutely horrified with the government, unlike so many other counties they just don't seem to be able to get a grip of the situation. Well I think they know what they need to do, but they won't. That, combined with a no deal Brexit, which is almost guaranteed to be a complete shitshow is just too much to bear.

It's so sad because I was saying to DH, in 'the time before' we were doing so well. We had jobs, money, holidays, tonnes of friends, and now this.