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How are YOU feeling? I mean emotionally what with lockdown etc...

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UsernameNeverAvailable · 17/10/2020 22:59

I’m ok, generally happy with some really disorientated days when I feel very out of sorts and over emotional.
I want to know how everyone else is coping, come and voice your feelings, no judgement here.

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MountainDweller · 17/10/2020 23:54

Thanks for starting the thread @UsernameNeverAvailable . I'm fed up. We've taken a massive financial hit and although DH is back in work and we have kept our home by the skin of our teeth, I don't know how we're going to climb out of the financial hole.

No lockdown here but curfew maybe coming, cases going up, new rules about how many people allowed in closed spaces will probably lead to queues outside supermarkets again. Said supermarkets are supposed to give priority to disabled but they don't. More worried about going out generally. No trips to see family for the foreseeable future.

Fed up with people saying 'it's just a mask' when wearing one causes my BP to spike to 200/120. They are obligatory here with no exceptions and I have to wear one buy food and go to hospital appointments. I don't mind in principle, just when I can't breathe and the world starts spinning.

I am feeling low because of chronic mobility and pain problems and don't see my life ever getting better (already worse due to big gap in treatment). I have a therapist but I'm obviously very boring as she can't stay awake.

MythicalBiologicalFennel · 17/10/2020 23:55

I thought I was more ready and upbeat this time round.

However today DH told me he is not taking time off of work for half term after all (we had managed to cover the 2 week half term through annual leave, but he has now cancelled his days off). It all came back to me - the battle of home schooling, the bored, unhappy children, trying to work with the screaming, bickering, fighting, whining and constant DC demands, doing pretty much all the fucking housework while DH prioritises his work... I'm afraid I just burst into tears there and then.

Luckily we are all healthy and with relatively secure jobs.

Flowers to all

Sarahsah4r4 · 17/10/2020 23:56

😔
🙏
💙
To everyone who is struggling💐

StarUtopia · 17/10/2020 23:56

Not seen my Mum and Dad since February - they live 250 miles away and obviously now this whole can't go indoors etc.

I'd be a LOT happier if I could see my family. A lot.

Kids are suffering massively - more temper tantrums, mood swings etc. No play dates since March. School isn't fun any more (zero art, music etc, lots and lots of work and catch up homework) , hobbies still cancelled (swimming pool closed indefinitely for eg)

I go out, see all the masks and generally get pretty upset! NOT GREAT!

StarUtopia · 17/10/2020 23:57

Oh and DH lost his job in March - only got 6 weeks of furlough and then got a P45. That definitely hasnt helped either. In debt up to our eyeballs now.

indemMUND · 17/10/2020 23:58

Feeling out of my depth if I actually (rarely) get to speak to another adult.

Normandy144 · 17/10/2020 23:59

I feel fine, but part of the reason I feel fine is because I have massively changed my news consumption. Anyone who is feeling anxious I wholly recommend avoiding the news. I'm absolutely serious. I avoid TV news, turn off or turn down the radio, don't watch any government announcements. Avoid news centred programmes and have turned off alerts on my phone. I also have unfollowed lots of news outlets on social media and basically anywhere it pops up. I'm much happier as a result.

FoxParty · 18/10/2020 00:00

I feel ok. I'm not buzzing about the current situation and I'm low key worried about oh's job in the back of my mind.

But my kids are at school and nursery every day, and football and I work in a school so that part of life and the routine feels really normal. I miss my mum and dad although I see them in the garden and meet them in the park a couple of times a week, I do worry about them as they're older.

I miss going out and having a drink chat dance with friends and I want to go on a wee holiday but these yearnings are fleeting and I feel I'll be able to do them soon enough. So day to day I really do feel quite fine and I'm happy a lot of the time.

Othering · 18/10/2020 00:05

@MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously

I'm worried. The rise in figures is scaring me. I'm also starting to feel a little stir crazy - there's nowhere to go and nothing to do and I can't see a time when it will be better. I want to look forward to Christmas, but there won't be anything festive about it.
I really don't mean this in a provocative way but when you say there's nowhere to go and nothing to do......cafes and restaurants are still open, gyms, shops, tourist attractions, parks, pretty much everything really. What can you not go and do that you want to?
Fartleking · 18/10/2020 00:07

Flowers to everyone who is having a shit time.
I'm just numb alot of the time and spending too much time escaping into trashy fiction. There's nothing to look forward to and I don't want to plan anything because it will likely be cancelled. We're lucky in that DH and I are still working and DS is enjoying school. I just can't get any oomph to do anything. My house is a half decorated tip and all I do is sit on my arse reading. I'm probably a bit depressed.

Bbq1 · 18/10/2020 00:07

Fed up. Slightly worried. I'm in Liverpool and work in a school. Ds in year 10 and 60% of his year are currently self isolating as somebody tested positive. Today, we found out that my dh has been in work with somebody who has Covid but thankfully not close contact so work told him to continue going into work. Just after that I find an entire section of my school are self isolating as somebody has tested positive for Covid. I'm not affected. I was classed as cev during lockdown and shielded. I hate to say it but despite loving my job, I almost hope shielding comes back in and I think we need a short full lockdown again to sort of reset.

clopper · 18/10/2020 00:12

Beyond bored with it all. It feels like just work then home, work then home again. However, I feel lucky that I have a job, so am better off than many and appreciate that.

Agree with pp that avoiding a lot of the news is helpful as I’m sick of the hearing politicians talking us into lockdown again. Some are worse than others...Matt Hancock is like a school prefect talking at us like we are naughty kids. I also feel particularly sorry for young people at uni or those trying to find jobs their at the moment.

It feels like there is nothing to look forward to, including no celebrations, seeing family is difficult when we don’t leave near each other. Even when you go out it is unenjoyable with petty rules about everything, especially in shops.

campion · 18/10/2020 00:32

cafes and restaurants are still open, gyms, shops, tourist attractions, parks, pretty much everything really. What can you not go and do that you want to?

I'd like to be able to visit my relatives, go for a meal with them, have a family get-together just for starters. I'd also appreciate spontenaiety, not having to book everywhere in advance. For eg be able to visit a National Trust place without having to scramble for tickets and hope the weather's ok. I'd like to go shopping without a mask and I'd prefer it if people didn't regard each other with suspicion when out and about.
And I'd like to go to all the things that have been cancelled but that's not possible.
We make the best of whatever situation we find ourselves in generally, but it doesn't mean we're not affected by it.

Schoolisback1973 · 18/10/2020 00:32

Done with it all! Had a phone consultation with doc. I am displaying physical symptoms of stress. I am worried for my health.
The first few months on lockdown were fine but now I am mentally shuttered and with anxiety.
I have switched the new off though.
I work from home. We've made a few roles redundant which means I am picking a lot more work and woking longer hours.
Single mum of a teen! I am miss talking, releasing my feelings

Davros · 18/10/2020 00:37

Normandy144 I totally agree. I will try to get news headlines once in the morning and that's it fir the day. I've always been skeptical about the media though and don't tolerate well people who are obsessed with it. Self inflicted misery imo. I feel pretty good.

goisey · 18/10/2020 00:44

I'm personally ok.
I hate the constant rain though.
I feel really worried about climate change (see the rain - I'm fed up of long wet grey winters, I preferred the colder brighter winters of the past) and I'm worried about no deal Brexit.

Covid - I'm not that worried about, just bored of it.
I realise things could get so much worse, more deaths, economical depression, so I'm pacing myself!

Readandwalk · 18/10/2020 00:51

I feel really good. Have done throughout it all. In fact early lockdown was the happiest time of my life. I dont miss social interaction. I dont miss the constant social obligation.

I have come to love silence and solitude.

jennie0412 · 18/10/2020 00:59

It hasn't affected my life too much really, so for that i'm very happy, as I appreciate that this isn't the case for everyone. Relieved, would be my best way of explaining how I'm feeling.

grassisjeweled · 18/10/2020 01:01

Bored of it all. Seems pointless in order to save lives, mostly of people who are elderly /vulnerable?

Mental health, social care and education will cost more to us in the long term.

On a personal note, I'm missing the office, seeing friends and human interaction.

feelingsomewhatlost · 18/10/2020 01:03

Lonely. Very lonely.

MushMonster · 18/10/2020 01:05

Some days better than others. I feel vey lucky as I have managed to keep my job so far. Flowers so sorry for those who have gone through losing income and jobs.
And on the other hand, quite exhausted as with some staff on furlough and then redundancy, we had to stay in our post from March. Only recently we have started taking holidays. And then we were left to do all the work with half the staff because quarantines with travelling abroad.
But I am getting a burning rage inside me fueled by the wrong things done these months. People sent on furlough when we were really busy! So endless amount of things to do. Tesco saying no children during lockdown- what about single parents (I try to avoid shopping at Tesco now). GP making impossible to get appointments, had to call hideous amount of times, six or so times to get an appointment for my daughter. And I still need one for me....
Then redundancy at work...... well we could have waited a bit... we are again too busy!
I am quite fed up with my employer, Tesco and GP practice.... and frustrated with all the new lockdowns, more rules, more delays, more failures in the systems that the goverment is introducing, plus Brexit....
And scared that it will get worst than we are today with a second waveSad
Lots of Flowers for everyone

jessstan1 · 18/10/2020 01:06

All right I suppose. I've got used to it.

jessstan1 · 18/10/2020 01:08

@grassisjeweled

Bored of it all. Seems pointless in order to save lives, mostly of people who are elderly /vulnerable?

Mental health, social care and education will cost more to us in the long term.

On a personal note, I'm missing the office, seeing friends and human interaction.

I hope you do not mean your first sentence. Are the elderly and vulnerable not worth saving? We are also saving lives of younger people. You may be vulnerable one day.
jessstan1 · 18/10/2020 01:09

@jessstan1

All right I suppose. I've got used to it.
Just to add: I do like not having to see anybody.
babbi · 18/10/2020 01:12

I feel incredibly fortunate that I have a job that seems to be secure .
I feel incredibly sad for the far too many who have died and those who have been very ill . I fear for the many more lives that will be lost .
I’m fed up with the restrictions that don’t make sense . We have got this so wrong .

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