What truth will you (sadly) take to your grave?

[Iwonder777]

Mine is my rape ☹️ hurts me still. Though you'd never know to look at me.

I've accepted it is my truth that I'll take to the grave. No proof. Too many years have passed....

I often wonder if others hold such a hard truth deep within themselves. And hope they don't, for their sakes. ☹️

Mine too op

If I didn't feel complicit, I could possibly heal more - sigh 😔

Sending a little cuddle your way Nancy

(A club no one would ever want to belong to 🙁)

I don't think I can forgive DW for causing the disruption of the adoption placement of a little boy with us last year

@topcat2014

I don't think I can forgive DW for causing the disruption of the adoption placement of a little boy with us last year

Sounds hard - I'm sorry.

A termination I had that hardly anyone knows about. Something I’ll always be sad about.

@NC866

A termination I had that hardly anyone knows about. Something I’ll always be sad about.

I'm sorry, that does sound difficult too. I think I'd feel the same. Such a dilemma

The hard truth I will take to my grave is that there was a time I wasn't honest and didn't put my child first. I bowed to social expectations, rather than do the right thing.

45 years ago, but I still know I did the wrong thing and I'll take that knowledge to the grave.

@user1471453601

The hard truth I will take to my grave is that there was a time I wasn't honest and didn't put my child first. I bowed to social expectations, rather than do the right thing.

45 years ago, but I still know I did the wrong thing and I'll take that knowledge to the grave.

I hope you can forgive yourself. We all make mistakes my friend 😔

You know what op I've trained my mind to blank most of it out.

I was a bit of a dick in my younger years. Too much drink, e's and an older boyfriend. Then using drink to block out what had happened. Vicious circle.

Looking back on some of it, I know it wasn't me. It wasn't my fault. The me too movement has helped me recognise this. It doesn't help the same feelings creeping back sometimes but now As soon as I start thinking about it I get up and do something to stop me thinking about it.

I know I'm not to blame as if it was someone else I'd think they weren't to blame if you get me but I'm still working on doing that for myself and applying that to me.

Some people are cunts and you can't let them ruin the rest of your life they have no say in or no part in.

Rightly or wrongly I'm just getting on with my life. And trying to forget about it.

If it happened to my daughter I'd kill them. Gladly do the time.

I've spent my life beating myself up. For everything.

I think the truth is, we aren't perfect and must move on. Easier said than done perhaps!

At a desperate moment, I slept with someone for money. I'll never tell anyone because I know even the most open minded friends would silently judge me

I wouldn't judge you. Life is hard. I'm sorry you had to though, that must have been such a wrench,

I’ve got something that I’ll have to take to the grave otherwise it will end a very important relationship to me. I made a decision for the greater good or so I thought but I don’t think the said person would look at it like that. I’m trying to block it out

That I considered a termination when pregnant with my now 6 year old DC, and sometimes I wish I'd had the guts to go through with it (I love my DC dearly and would never tell them but I do worry about their future and the world they've been born into).

Name change check

Being loyal to my abusive xh rather than me and my kids for far too long.

I was raped from the age of 7 until 11 by my younger brother and sisters dad. I can't do anything about it because it would destroy them. My little brother and sister are so perfect, I adore them beyond belief.

He helped drive around me and little sister to 2 funerals a few years ago. My nan and aunt who brought me up after I turned 11. They passed away within a few weeks of eachother. I wet myself in the car.

My little brother and sister never experienced the childhood I had. Outwardly, I'm doing ok. I cry myself to sleep every night though. I know I need help.

For the sake of my siblings I would never EVER report him. It leaves me nowhere. I thought time would help but I'm truly and utterly broken.

I was sexually touched by a relative from aged 6 up. He died 20 odd years ago and I never told a sole. It was tear my family apart so I will keep it with me forever 😢

@Secrets2020 I feel so desperately sad for you. I totally understand your pain and torment and I am in the same situation as you, I was not raped just sexually just but it has haunted me every day. Sending you the biggest of hugs 💐💕