What truth will you (sadly) take to your grave?

[Iwonder777]

Mine is my rape ☹️ hurts me still. Though you'd never know to look at me.

I've accepted it is my truth that I'll take to the grave. No proof. Too many years have passed....

It was my fault the hammer fell on my sisters head, she was only 2, her dad had hung the hammer on the edge of the door frame I messed about with it and encouraged her to run and mess around in the door frame when it fell, I knew it was going to happen the moment it fell the guilt washed over me was huge. I have never told anyone it breaks my heart to think about it. She is a completely health adult now, but I feel sick when I think about it.

My mother’s partner sexually harassed me. For years, I blamed myself because I was an adult and should have told him to fuck himself rather than freezing and going into complete denial. Now, I accept that I wasn’t to blame - what sixty-something year-old man sends pornography to his girlfriend’s twenty-something year-old daughter, who is already vulnerable and on antidepressants? But there’s no point telling anyone now, especially when DM is so vocal about never having been happy before she met him. Deep down, I’ve kind of emotionally checked out of the family though, except of course for my DD who is everything.

to all in this thread. It's so sad.
Mine is about the truth behind a family split. People think I was just being a bitch by going NC, not true, but nobody wants to hear it.

This thread makes me want to manhandle so many people from the past on others behalves. So many broken adults, breaking children and other adults.

Mans inhumanity to man - a true saying.

Peace and

to all x

My dad financially abused me as a young adult and even as a fully grown adult, controls part of my life financially. I can not go to the police. I can't even tell the full story, it's too outing if one of a small group of people read it.

That when my ex and I divorced ( at my instigation ) my daughter choose to stay with him. Obviously not a secret as such, but the bastard fucker convinced her she would have a nicer life with him ( also splitting her from other dc) Once he got a new gf they worked on her not to have access. As she was 13 , it was deemed her choice by the courts and even though she is now classed as an adult I still don't see her. Gf is long gone. If there is one person I could do harm to , it would be him

I was date raped at 17. Never told anyone.

Secrets are toxic. Please please tell. I have had many horrors happen to me and it was killing me slowly to hold onto them. The shame that comes from holding secrets was destroying me. I found a therapist and told him every little detail. It took me years. And I have since told others.

Please try and tell someone and seek help. You all deserve peace.

Rooting for you all

You are right.secrets can be toxic.

My two are really to protect my DM who I love dearly

When I was a teenager she did something with good intentions that negatively affected some of the 'harder' crew at school. I was horrendously bullied, spat on, followed home and threatened with a knife for over a year. I always came home with a smile and lied that everything was fine as it would have broken her heart had she known

I also had a termination at a young age. I didn't tell her not because I thought she would think ill of me but more because I just wanted to be at home and to be treated normally and play monopoly on a Friday night without being asked if I was ok. So I faked a viral infection to get a long weekend home from uni. I can't tell her now as too much time has passed and i know she would always wonder why I didn't confide at the time. When the simple truth is I just wanted to come home and be a child.

Not awful like some of the others and my heart goes out to other posters

@Secrets2020. I wish I could give you a big hug

So many awful awful things done to children and young women, most often by those that should’ve protected them from such things, I try not to despair at the world, but sometimes it can seem almost overwhelming. I’m very glad I’ve never had a daughter.