Marvellous. The new window cleaner is... odd.

[SeasonallySnowyPeasant]

He cleaned my windows for the first time today after doing my neighbour's and knocking on the off-chance. The Spidey senses started tingling a bit when I politely pointed out to him that he'd left his stepladder up in the middle of the road and cars were having to stop and wait to go past it. He'd done it on purpose apparently - something about ladders on top of his van?

Then he started texting me this evening. It started off normally and then got a bit strange. He wanted to message me pretending it was time for him to come back again, 'to build his confidence'. I thought he had a new automated reminder message system he wanted to use but no, it was just him sending a text. Then he wanted to try it again.

This guy has my address and my phone number and it's only me and the kids at home. I'm a bit freaked out. Any ideas?

Sad that we live in a society where the OP and many of us would have felt threatened by the texts and the fact that he knew where she lives. (To be clear I'm not judging you for that OP - it's the culture we live in that I'm judging)

I'm not sure you need to live in any specific kind of culture for it to be perfectly normal to consider it extremely annoying and potentially threatening to be contacted repeatedly and in a strange manner by someone you don't know and who knows where you live, after you have made it clear that you do not want to be contacted in this way.

I don't think that is an example of society getting it wrong tbh. It's not reasonable to expect anybody to assume
that somebody who is effectively harrassing them actually means them no harm and has LD. Not least because having LD does not make someone harmless.

Stop it! This is my new favourite thread! Please update us in December

I’m sure he has a learning disability. He just sounds very excited to have done a good job for a new customer and is leaping ahead. If he did a good job, please trust him to come again in December. Give him a chance. You can be very clear about not wanting all the texts though, which you’ve done already very kindly.

This thread should win the RTFT award 😂

Autism perhaps? Just say there's no need to contact again until he comes back in December. Polite but impersonal. He's probably trying very hard to communicate, so be kind.

Have you spoken to your neighbour?

😂😂😂

Any one else not cleaned their windows in 2 years, let alone every 2 months?!

My windows are cleaned regularly, and next week he is doing the greenhouse [insert smug face emoji here]!!

MN needs a smug emoji, it really does. is close, but...

If anyone’s interested there’s a book called ‘nice girl syndrome’ by Beverly Engel. She talks about how women need to stop putting their niceness before their own safety. It seems relevant to this thread.

@ilikemethewayiam

If anyone’s interested there’s a book called ‘nice girl syndrome’ by Beverly Engel. She talks about how women need to stop putting their niceness before their own safety. It seems relevant to this thread.

Thanks for that - will check it out.

Why did you give him your number?

@Marisishidinginmyattic

This thread should win the RTFT award 😂

It really really should. Top tip - if a thread is 13 pages long, before you pitch in with your “oh bless” at the very least click the bottom of the OP to see all OP’s posts. This is one where they really matter. Jeez.

Could we suggest to MN they have a 3 strikes and you’re out rule for posters who pitch in with an utter inanity at the end of a really long thread?? 🤣

@Suja1

Autism perhaps? Just say there's no need to contact again until he comes back in December. Polite but impersonal. He's probably trying very hard to communicate, so be kind.

She literally said that multiple times and he still didn't stop.

Clearly not FTFT 🤣🤣

Or even RTFT

It sounds like he has learning difficulties. Perhaps Autism and his use of the word confident makes me think he isn't good socially. It doesn't sound creepy to me, sounds like he just wants to 'get it right'- another autism trait. People don't all fit in our 'normal' bubble. Be kind and patient

I'd have been scared getting those messages. You did the right thing.

As I've got older I'm less inclined to be kind in these circumstances. Too many men misinterpret the signal. Sad isnt it.

@Butterer
😂

one more screenshot for those at the back.

He hasn't come back BTW.

@SeasonallySnowyPeasant I know it’s not the point you’re making but that thread looks amazing

@Butterer

small explosion

large explosion 💥

No I don’t like it and it would make me uncomfortable too. Why has he chosen you to do his ‘texting experiment’? How long has he been doing your neighbour’s windows?

See what your husband makes of it all.

What is it with these men?

I had an electrician out a few months ago, sent by the property management company, so I have no choice about who is sent out.

He came twice, I made the usual polite small talk you do, the second time I was WFH so barely spoke to him.

Weeks later I get three texts in the middle of the night telling me he'd love to take me out. Oh, and please don't tell his boss he's text me

I said I had a DP and politely declined.

It's scary that he sussed there's no man around and obviously thought I was fair game.