What is the strangest thing you’ve seen someone get annoyed about on here?

[StanfordPines]

I was reminded yesterday of a poster who was furious about people including the county in postal addresses.
I’ve also had a thread where posters are angry with me for not having a bin in my bathroom.
Then there was the poster who said that women who put their bras on in a certain fashion will be the first against the wall when the revolution comes.

Something are worth getting cross about but what is the most inconsequential thing you’ve seen posters getting angry about?

Two threads spring to mind.

The first involved the op building an extension that meant a neighbour would lose tv reception for a few days. Over a weekend iirc. There was a lot of extreme whataboutery along the lines of "what if tv is the neighbour's only pleasure in life and it's the series finale of their favourite show ever which they've been invested in for 20 years and there's no catch-up available and they can't go to someone else's house to watch it - yabu", but I particularly remember one poster who basically answered that they simply wouldn't tolerate someone depriving their vulnerable relative of their tv for any length of time. They sounded very angry indeed about this hypothetical situation. A lot of posters basically felt the op could never have the extension of it meant the loss of a weekend's tv. Also lots of anger that anyone who thought otherwise was an intellectual snob - nobody would be expected to go without a weekend with books, blah, blah.

Second was the thread that first led me to mn years ago. Op was homeschooling and a neighbour who wfh had mentioned noise made by the children trampolining all day when they were trying to take calls. Op made the trampolining sound pretty constant. Again, instead of trying to identify some sort of compromise, posters were indignant about the nasty, unreasonable neighbour. Someone said it was expected that you work in an office, not at home (hmm, homeschooling is far less common than wfh) and at least one poster said their Dh would go round and give anyone who expected their dc to not noisily trampoline all day long what for!

@TweeBree

The insane teacher who refused to believe other posters could have had shitty teachers and went through quoting each and every response to argue it.

She was spending her leisure time correcting homework then?

People are very odd about smells. Going on about how we've forgotten what "clean" bodies and sheets etc smell like because we add fragrance.
I know what armpits smell like mate, and trust me, that crystal pyramid you've been conned into buying ain't making them smell "clean".

Thank you, but it's OK now

Some nice posters reported the comments and they were deleted. I always remember their names, and try to follow their posts saying nice things.

@chatnicknameyousuggested

A few years ago I mentioned in a post that my DP (father of my children) had died a few years earlier. We were talking about the law, legal status etc (not in the UK), and I referred to myself as a widow. One poster got really angry and posted in capitals: YOU'RE NOT A WIDOW! YOUR BOYFRIEND DIED! HE WAS JUST A BABY DADDY! YOU ARE NOT A WIDOW.

Bloody hell, that's awful . I'm so sorry

@BoulangerieBabs

@Nikhedonia it's called 'that fabric softener is VILE?

This thread has made me smile.

Off to read that fabric softener one.

@TheSeedsOfADream

People are very odd about smells. Going on about how we've forgotten what "clean" bodies and sheets etc smell like because we add fragrance. I know what armpits smell like mate, and trust me, that crystal pyramid you've been conned into buying ain't making them smell "clean".

LOL. I don't use crystal pyramids. I use soap.

Honestly, it's OK now, but thank you.
I must admit I remember the poster's name and always hoping to get my little revenge

There was a smiley face there I swear! I'm not planning anything bad!

[quote GiantKitten]@mam0918

But you still consider them friends? [/quote]
I supposes theyre not really - The worst offenders are more friends of friends, they joined as the group grew over time but they are part of the same 'friend group' so I have to put up with them and be polite as too not rock the boat lol

@mam0918
I hope there’s always a kindred spirit for you to exchange glances with then!

: YOU'RE NOT A WIDOW! YOUR BOYFRIEND DIED! HE WAS JUST A BABY DADDY! YOU ARE NOT A WIDOW.

I'm so sorry to hear that. You absolutely are a widow and they are a twat.

there is so much judgement about people who aren't married or people who dare to call their partner their partner and not boyfriend/girlfriend. Who the fuck cares in real life??

I'm so sorry chatnicknameyousuggested

I remember someone getting very upset in a thread about how quickly do you return balls accidentally kicked into your garden, because a poster said she frequently travelled for work so if a kid did kick a ball over her garden they'd be shit out of luck.

The person was genuinely overwrought imagining a situation where an impoverished and neglected child lived next door, and the ball was his only toy and only friend, and by going away for work instead of remaining at home on ball-duty 24/7 the poster was condemning the hypothetical child to a life akin to Ivan Denisovich.

People get very overwrought about living in flats. I remember a thread called something like "I feel sorry for abused children and children living in flats" which made them sound like basically the same thing .

There was also another bonkers thread where people accused the OP of being a troll, because she said she lived in a flat and later mentioned going up and down the stairs. And a load of people saying she was clearly LYING because flats don't have stairs. Then people got in a froth about the word "maisonette".

I live in a flat (with stairs!) with a toddler and two dogs. I am bemused by all of the flat hate on here.

All that is necessary to write is the number and the postcode. Everything else is just kindness to the postie.

We recently had a spate of bonus postmarks which urged "Thumbs up for your postie". None of my business what he gets up to in his private life, but I'll just put a fiver in a card at Christmas, if that's OK.

TBF the helium thing is a serious issue.

I find it very difficult to speak highly of people who waste it frivolously.

I live in a flat that has stairs. It's not a maisonette; it's a sixth floor loft that has a mezzanine bedroom with a tiny floating staircase leading up to it.

Like this: www.decoist.com/mezzanine-apartment-ideas-plans

@froggygoneacourting I love a loft! I don't live in a maisonette either. My flat doesn't have it's own private entrance, but it does have two flights of stairs.

I just remember how the whole flat with stairs issue completely derailed the thread, plus then there was an argument about a duplex or a maisonette and that if the flat had stairs then you wouldn't call it a flat, you'd call it a duplex or a maisonette.

Then there was the counter argument that the people who use maisonette or duplex are pretentious.

The thread wasn't event about housing! I think it was about a late teens daughter possibly being pregnant?

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

TBF the helium thing is a serious issue.

I find it very difficult to speak highly of people who waste it frivolously.

I once posted a thread about a debate my then DH and I were having about who would win a magic fight between Harry Potter and Gandalf (Gandalf, obviously ) and the whole thread was derailed because I had said something like "settle a debate between DH and I" and people said that I was trying to sound intelligent by using and I, when I should have said and me... and no one answered the bloody question. Just pages of me being slated and pedants arguing amongst themselves about why people try to sound clever when they clearly aren't

A few years ago I mentioned in a post that my DP (father of my children) had died a few years earlier. We were talking about the law, legal status etc (not in the UK), and I referred to myself as a widow.
One poster got really angry and posted in capitals: YOU'RE NOT A WIDOW! YOUR BOYFRIEND DIED! HE WAS JUST A BABY DADDY! YOU ARE NOT A WIDOW.

I can sadly well believe that- some of the things said in discussions on MN about the need to extend bereavement support payments to the partners and children of people who had died unmarried were absolutely appalling and I was literally dumbstruck by the sheer nastiness of the thread.

@tectonicplates

It also reminds me of scented pads or panty liners. I'm not a big fan but posters on here get very worked up about them. I'm sure I've read people saying that they can smell them at several meters away.

Scented pads can cause thrush. Practically any doctor would advise against them so I don't see why that cant be talked about.

I didn't say they couldn't be talked about. What I said was people get hysterical claiming they can smell them at several meters away. Completely different thing to not being able to be talked about. This isn't a thread about what shouldn't be talked about. It's about the extreme way in which people can talk about things. It's not that we can't talk about fabric conditioner for example. But saying it reeks is somewhat extr. Do you understand the difference?

@Nikhedonia

I once posted a thread about a debate my then DH and I were having about who would win a magic fight between Harry Potter and Gandalf (Gandalf, obviously ) and the whole thread was derailed because I had said something like "settle a debate between DH and I" and people said that I was trying to sound intelligent by using and I, when I should have said and me... and no one answered the bloody question. Just pages of me being slated and pedants arguing amongst themselves about why people try to sound clever when they clearly aren't

I sometimes use myself

@Notverybright off with your head!

heidipi, my problem with kids chasing pigeons (or indeed other birds such as ducks) is firstly I don't think you should scare any animal for fun even it can fly away, and more seriously every bird needs to consume a certain amount of calories per day to maintain body warmth and survive the night. Constant taking off and landing to avoid small children burns calories and could leave the bird with a calory deficit meaning unless it finds more food it will die/freeze. However if it flies away from the area all together it's potentially missing out on food and may not find any elsewhere.

I once started a thread in chat about a particularly crowded train journey and how unpleasant it had been.

Geez - the sheer number of people telling me how unreasonable I was being. Apparently I was the problem because if I hadn't been on it, then it would have been less crowded.