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I don't know where to put this but DH is sick and we are in bits. *MNHQ edit to ask posters to read update before posting*

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PandaBearBear · 06/10/2020 22:36

It has been such a shit year. DH has been so sick, numerous times I've been told he probably wouldn't make it then he seemed to make magic happen and got so much better. Now things have gone downhill really quickly and he is back in ICU on a ventilator and I am having to have the same conversations with doctors that I didn't think I would have to have again.

We have 2 DC, who are 8 and 2. I am a mess but trying to put a brave face on for them. 2yo obviously doesn't grasp exactly what is happening - just that daddy is in hospital again. 8yo is anxious and sad, much clingier but trying to be brave.

I just want to stay in bed until this is over.

How do I help my children through this? And how do I get through this?

He may well recover, I have seen him make bigger miracles happen than this. He also may not. Either way all 4 of us are still so traumatised by this year that this is a huge blow.

Just looking for some advice or even just for someone to tell me a nice thing thats happening in the world.

OP posts:
JMAngel1 · 19/01/2021 08:52

Bless you - so sorry to hear this

Superpanicky · 19/01/2021 18:42

So sorry for your loss op Flowers

autumnboys · 19/01/2021 18:46

I’m so sorry, Panda. Sending you lots of strength. I hope you are surrounded by people who love you and are helping. Flowers

greeceiwwhereimdreamingof · 19/01/2021 18:56

That is really sad news, sending virtual hug and strength to you x

alphasox · 19/01/2021 19:11

So sorry Flowers
Please consider contacting Winston’s wish for support with and for your children, I know from experience they do incredible things for families in this situation.

indecisivewoman81 · 19/01/2021 19:11

I'm so sorry to hear this. What an awful time you have all been having. Sending my love

Happyd · 19/01/2021 19:36

Sorry for your loss op xx

DisaL · 19/01/2021 19:45

I'm so sorry Panda xxx

MayYouLiveInInterestingTimes · 19/01/2021 19:56

I’m sorry for your loss Flowers.

MinnieJackson · 19/01/2021 19:58

So sorry, can't imagine what you're going through. Sending all my love Flowers

marshmallowfluffy · 19/01/2021 20:30

ThanksThanks I am so sorry. ThanksThanks

Halfagonyhalfhope · 19/01/2021 20:43

Panda I'm so very sorry for your loss. X

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 19/01/2021 20:45

I'm so very sorry.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 19/01/2021 20:52

Oh Panda, I am so sorry to hear about your DH. It's not fair! It's really not snd you're allowed to shout that!!

Big hugs for you all xx

Velvian · 19/01/2021 21:08

Flowers for you and your DC. Xx

bearlyactive · 19/01/2021 21:11

Adding to all the Flowers here, I'm so sorry OP.

purpleboy · 19/01/2021 21:13

So sorry for you and your children.
The book sounds like a lovely idea and something your children can cherish.
Thanks

Whatnext2018 · 19/01/2021 21:22

So so sorry, op 😞
Sending some strength for you, please return here for support, life can be so very unfair xx

Sittingonabench · 19/01/2021 21:27

So sorry this happened Flowers there are no words

CormoranStrike · 19/01/2021 21:30

I am so sorry @PandaBearBear

joeyroo · 19/01/2021 21:31

So sorry for your loss Thanks

Peachee · 19/01/2021 21:35

All my thoughts and prayers go out to you tonight. I have just read your post in bed and I am utterly heartbroken at the journey you are on.
Sending all vibes of strength and courage to you and your lovely children.

Doingitaloneandproud · 19/01/2021 21:35

I'm so sorry for your loss Thanks

saraclara · 19/01/2021 21:47

Oh Panda, I'm so sorry.

When this thread came up on my "I'm on" list, I got a sinking feeling.
I have such empathy and sympathy for you and your DCs. And to go through this during Covid without the hugs and physical presence of those who would normally be there to support you, must be so much more difficult than what we went through.

Take care, and take every bit of support that's offered to you in whatever form it's offered and where it will help you. I'll be thinking of you.

tara66 · 19/01/2021 21:53

Very best wishes Op. Take care of yourself and children. hope Dh recovers.