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I don't know where to put this but DH is sick and we are in bits. *MNHQ edit to ask posters to read update before posting*

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PandaBearBear · 06/10/2020 22:36

It has been such a shit year. DH has been so sick, numerous times I've been told he probably wouldn't make it then he seemed to make magic happen and got so much better. Now things have gone downhill really quickly and he is back in ICU on a ventilator and I am having to have the same conversations with doctors that I didn't think I would have to have again.

We have 2 DC, who are 8 and 2. I am a mess but trying to put a brave face on for them. 2yo obviously doesn't grasp exactly what is happening - just that daddy is in hospital again. 8yo is anxious and sad, much clingier but trying to be brave.

I just want to stay in bed until this is over.

How do I help my children through this? And how do I get through this?

He may well recover, I have seen him make bigger miracles happen than this. He also may not. Either way all 4 of us are still so traumatised by this year that this is a huge blow.

Just looking for some advice or even just for someone to tell me a nice thing thats happening in the world.

OP posts:
Dontjudgeme101 · 20/01/2021 00:55

So sorry for your loss.💐

sunnysidegold · 20/01/2021 01:45

Oh panda. I am so sorry to hear that. I second what someone else said about Winston's wish being useful for your children. I hope you have people around you to support you in real life.

dillydallydollydaydream7 · 20/01/2021 02:50

So very, very sorry op Thanks sending love and strength x

Inafogtoday · 20/01/2021 08:30

I’m so sorry for your loss OP Flowers

orchidsonabudget · 20/01/2021 09:21

So sorry to read this Op
We should ask MN to move this thread so you can keep it

MegaClutterSlut · 20/01/2021 09:54

I'm so sorry op, I can't even begin to imagine the pain you're all going through. Thinking of you and your dcs Flowers

DMCWelshcakes · 20/01/2021 10:45

I'm very sorry for your loss. Flowers

SunshineCake · 20/01/2021 11:05

I am so sorry Panda. I have only seen your thread for the first time today and didn't notice the date so was a huge shock to read your Dh had died Flowers. I am so sorry.

If you need practical help, an ear to listen to, anything. There is always someone on here who will know how to get what you need to you. Again, my condolences to you all.

Apileofballyhoo · 20/01/2021 11:10

I'm so so sorry for your loss, Panda. And that you had such a hard year before that, and that your DH was so young. I'm so sorry.

HopeMumsnet · 20/01/2021 11:58

Hi Panda,
We're ever so sorry to read your update, and we send our love and comfort. Kindest thoughts to you and the children. x

SunshineCake · 20/01/2021 12:58

Thank you @HopeMumsnet. Good title edit.

Georgieporgie29 · 20/01/2021 13:22

I am so sorry OP Flowers

uncomfortablydumb53 · 20/01/2021 13:26

I'm so very sorry for your loss Thanks

BalloonSlayer · 20/01/2021 14:27

I am so sorry, Panda Flowers

VinterKvinna · 20/01/2021 18:23

So sorry Panda xx Flowers

Hm2020 · 20/01/2021 18:27

Sorry for your loss my heart goes out to you and your children Flowers

Sideorderofchips · 20/01/2021 18:28

Oh sweetheart im so sorry for your loss ♥️

Carysmatthews · 20/01/2021 19:11

So sorry that you and your little ones are going through this 💐

RedLimoncello · 20/01/2021 19:34

I'm so sorry for you and your children Panda. Thinking of you all and hoping you have friends and family to cherish and comfort you at this terrible time xxxx

Edelq · 21/01/2021 01:15

I shed a tear for you and your dc. Life can be so bloody cruel & shit. You sound like the loveliest person & I hope you're a little buoyed by the virtual hug we're all trying to give you. Stay strong. Somehow you'll come through this. This only seems to happen to the strongest of people.

Sn0tnose · 21/01/2021 07:58

I’m so sorry for your loss. Minute by minute if that’s what it takes Flowers

Dontbetardy · 21/01/2021 08:03

I am sorry for your loss. To both you and your children and extended family. Sorry.

Oreservoir · 21/01/2021 08:08

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

SaskiaRembrandt · 21/01/2021 08:14

I'm so sorry, my deepest sympathies to you and your family Flowers

SilkyMoonfaceandTheSaucepanMan · 21/01/2021 08:22

OP I'm so very sorry to hear this. Flowers Flowers Flowers