I'm a fucking HOUSEWIFE?

[ToadinTheHoleWithKetchup]

Just had the car insurance renewal on DH's car. I am a named driver, and the details listed state that I am a 'housewife'. How the fuck is this even a category?

This is a weird aggressive thread. I'd actually love to be a house wife/home maker/SAHP; I don't think these are roles to be offended by imo.

Wow OP talking about shaming and insulting a massive unpaid, undervalued portion of our society! You need to calm down and perhaps apologise! If you are unemployed but take care of your household what else would you want to be called??! ‘Angry person at home’??

This is a normal title just as if the husband stays at home he is term a "house husband." I find neither term offensive why would you is only a category on an insurance form.

When we were renewing the car insurance I could legitimately have said that any of the following were my job title:

Company Director
Mature Student
Landlord
Marketing Consultant
Writer

but 'Housewife' gave us the lowest premium.
I was also a bit p'd off!

What a lot of fuss over nothing. How very odd.... by the way probably cheaper on the premium anyway so it’s to your benefit anyway!

@StoneofDestiny

I think we all missed the point. OP is not a housewife. The clue is in the title, she is a 'fucking HOUSEWIFE'.... there you go problem solved. I imagine she also sells knitted/crochet items on FB, scented candles, Younique, etc etc etc and is working her way up to Managing Director level on the side.

Not good but it's your husband who must have put you down as a housewife instead of your actual job. I would not be happy either!

Angry person at home

Thank you! You've summed my occupation up to a T!

This thread is totally batshit and if anyone's doing the trolling it's some of the respondents. What's the matter with people? As for this:

you’re clearly avoiding telling us what you apparently do to earn a living. Next guess is ‘it’s far too outing'.

How about it's nobody else's bloody business? Nobody has to justify their occupations online just because others demand it. Who cares about impressing a bunch of fonts?

The question in the OP wasn't about her opted response but 'how the fuck is this a category?' and I emphatically agree. The inclusion of 'house husband' on insurance documents may equalise this, but anyone with a clue knows fine well that it's very, very rare for a man to be defined in relation to his family relationships or role in relation to domestic labour. It rarely ever happens.

I think I'd be more PO'd at 'Headmaster' being the only option for a Headteacher, but 'housewife' is less anachronistic than positively antediluvian. Sounds very like the system for recording deaths until very recently. Deceased female (i.e. my mum) was listed as 'wife of X, HIS job ...' despite the fact that she had her own fucking job and was separated from a controlling husband she despised. At that point you can well dismiss it as 'didn't you have anything better to worry about?' but let me tell you it felt like the final indignity for her grieving children (also abused by our monster of a father).

It's casual, everyday sexism - sexism which seems to be happily accepted by a goodly proportion of Mumsnets membership (the ones who reply they weresooo happy to take their husbands' names (even when this wasn't the question being asked) and those who work outside the home think they're 'better' than those who don't (see upthread).

Nobody has said nor even suggested this.

I hear you, OP (although doubtless you won't be back to this thread and I can't say I blame you)!

Get a job then.

Are you in charge of the house cleaning, tidying, cooking, laundry, shopping, random errands, food planning/ budgeting, clothes sorting/ buying/ getting ready for the day activities, feed the pets, decorating? And the children? Food, nappies, naps, toys, colouring books, reading/ learning to speak/ writing, entertaining, taking to park/ school/ activities/ soft play, homework helper now recently promoted to teacher, nurse- wound healer, sibling relationship therapist....
Because if you are, you can proudly say you are a housewife. Being a housewife is actually a tough job!

Yep, that's me and my husband. None of us are stay at home parents. The above just goes on top of our full time jobs.

If you want to be called something else then get off your a$$e and get a job! I would think that housewife is better than unemployed waster

I'm not a housewife. I'm not married to a house.

And wife is not my occupation. It's my marital status.

If you want to be called something else then get off your a$$e and get a job! I would think that housewife is better than unemployed waster

What a fucking cherub you are.

You strike me as a right dickhead. What's your problem obviously a mistake was made as you don't stay home. So correct it and go away. Stop being so disparaging. You probably sell Tropic or Avon. Go away

I think you need to chillax.. don’t sweat the small stuff. 😜

You strike me as a right dickhead.

I'd tell you what you strike me as, posting unnecessarily rude, obnoxious comments like that to people, but it would earn me a ban from this site.

The question in the OP wasn't about her opted response but 'how the fuck is this a category?' and I emphatically agree. The inclusion of 'house husband' on insurance documents may equalise this, but anyone with a clue knows fine well that it's very, very rare for a man to be defined in relation to his family relationships or role in relation to domestic labour. It rarely ever happens

It’s a category because there are still housewives around (and many do not have children or young children) and they aren’t considered unemployed as that implies you are looking for a job (and has much more negative connotations imo).

I mean, I guess you could say something like non-working spouse but they do have an occupation, just one not really appreciated by society at large,
as you have just demonstrated, btw.

OP What I do is irrelevant.

Well, not really when you're talking about job titles that affect your premiums.

You say you're self employed, but so are lots of people. Self employed WHAT is relevant.

It's casual, everyday sexism

It’s everyday sexism because it defines a woman’s occupation in relation to her husband. But there is no universally accepted alternative and not everyone is offended by the term. OP herself hasn’t even come up with what she thinks the alternative would be.

I am self employed too but there isn’t a category that fits what I do. I also prefer housewife to homemaker because it’s not an Americanism.

@DanceItOut

This whole thread is a bit insulting actually. OP is described as a housewife for insurance and not happy about it so she must be lying about being self employed?

I’m a single parent of two children and a full time mature student at a bricks university and work part time. Does that mean I should also be down as a house person because I am the person who is in charge of the children and housework?

completely missing the point....

OP is pissed off that on the insurance that she sorted out last year, has renewed and her title is "Housewife" (which she must have put in last year??)

OP says she is not a housewife, she is self employed, to which the replies are - you need to state what you do, not what you are.

I am EMPLOYED - and it makes a difference to the risk level I have if i am employed as a rally car driver, or admin assistant. If i am a rally driver then i am probably going to take more risks day to day (sure i should be trained to deal with them, and have more driving experience)

OP says she is SELF EMPLOYED, people have asked what she does, and have been snippy as she refuses to answer, which normally indicates an MLM.

It costs more because the insurers assume you will be driving lots of journeys throughout the day. If you’re commuting it’s two journeys each day.

I do not understand why you are so annoyed, you or your husband must have given them that i formation, doesn’t your husband know what you job is? Just call them and change it to self-employed..., or company director if you are self-employed running your own company. If you were not self-employed and was a “housewive” what word would you like to use of official documents like insurance? You are obviously embarrassed to be a housewive, otherwise you would not be so annoyed!

I don't really get this... Could you not put the self employed job you do?