I'm a fucking HOUSEWIFE?

[ToadinTheHoleWithKetchup]

Just had the car insurance renewal on DH's car. I am a named driver, and the details listed state that I am a 'housewife'. How the fuck is this even a category?

The term housewife is bullshit. I don’t care how proud you are to be a SAHM/D, you don’t have to accept the term housewife. You’re more than that. I’ve refused to have housewife listed as my employment title before, too. It’s not the 50s and I’m not chained to the sink.

Maybe I’m just too laid back but seriously, I just don’t understand how someone can get this pissed off that they come on here to bitch. So what? They put housewife, don’t like it ask them to change it. It’s a nasty world out there and if this is your biggest issue then you’re exceptionally lucky. I was a housewife or homemaker as some call it and was proud of it, I don’t feel belittled it’s a demanding job in its own right and nothing anyone should feel ashamed if. But carry on wasting precious time being outraged!

@Flatpackback

Someone please explain the difference between housewife, home maker and stay at home mum. As far as I can see they all do the same and have done for generations. Undermining previous generations of SAHMs does nothing to make current ones superior. If anything, it's much easier these days as far less physical effort is involved.

Housewife & home maker Motorola much difference.

Housewife us bad enough, but home maker makes me want to hurl it's so twee

(I'm neither by the way)

But SAHM

...you need at least one child for that one!! I would have thought that much was obvious!

For the benefit of people still asking the OP has said she works in insurance.
I'm not a fan of housewife either - why in this day and age woman are still being defined by their marital status is beyond me!
I hated having to tick this option when I was divorced when there wasn't another option that was suitable.

If the view you take of the word "housewife" is not shared by someone else, but the job is something they are proud of, they are not "having to accept" something they have to, and pretending they must have been forced into it is a bit of an insult, really.

Domestic executive? Has that one been mentioned? (I stated my occupation at customs on one notable occasion as 'house bitch'. . .)

For the benefit of people still asking the OP has said she works in insurance.

Where?!

Your premiums will be based on what your husband puts in the box, as the other ladies have said and you may be paying less with dh putting housewife!

@Howallergic

Cherry, he's not elected, therefore, civil service. Him with the eyesight problem.

Is he not?!

Well !!! He's dishonest enough surely?

I must pay more attention when I listen to the foreign news

@Darkstarrheart

For the benefit of people still asking the OP has said she works in insurance. I'm not a fan of housewife either - why in this day and age woman are still being defined by their marital status is beyond me! I hated having to tick this option when I was divorced when there wasn't another option that was suitable.

No she hasn’t. She said that she arranged her own family’s car insurance.

For the benefit of people still asking the OP has said she works in insurance.
What she actually said is that she fills in the application forms for the insurance for the household. Though she did frame it as 'I do the insurance' or similar.

Okay, work your brain cells. I am self employed. I am not lying, why would I? OK.. how about you engage a pleasant gob and a discursive mind.

Assuming your DH filled out the form what did he put as your occupation?

If you filled out the form, which you seem to say youd did, and you did so with as much information as you have been willing to give here, then the buck passes to you! And that makes you look truly daft!

You can't leave it like that if you do actually have a job, just make the amendment and stop pfaffing!

The only problem here @ToadinTheHoleWithKetchup is your monstrous ego.

Grow up.

@MushMonster, yes. I also work 5 days a week in a professional job and am a single parent.

Are you in charge of the house cleaning, tidying, cooking, laundry, shopping, random errands, food planning/ budgeting, clothes sorting/ buying/ getting ready for the day activities, feed the pets, decorating? And the children? Food, nappies, naps, toys, colouring books, reading/ learning to speak/ writing, entertaining, taking to park/ school/ activities/ soft play, homework helper now recently promoted to teacher, nurse- wound healer, sibling relationship therapist....
Because if you are, you can proudly say you are a housewife. Being a housewife is actually a tough job

What job is it that you do then? I’m so confused as to what the problem is that causes you to swear!

Darkstarrheart Would you prefer 'unemployed'? What occupation would you deem acceptable?

The most shocking part of all of this is anyone putting ketchup on toad in the hole THE HORROR.

I’d be far more put out that an insurance company would just make random shit up about me (which is the claim here) rather than what they’d made up.

You can call it whatever you want but if you have children and don't work and you look after the house I think that is a 'housewife!' you can out whatever spin on it you want but ultimately that is your job!

Maybe she does work in insurance, in data input and she put herself in the system as a housewife and then got annoyed when she saw she'd been put in as a housewife?

That or she's an assassin.

Ooh I agree with the OP! It's a term with outdated connotations. This is not the OPs problem but more an issue that the insurance company need to put right. Stay At Home Parent is surely the only right way of phrasing it these days. I could live with that.

I’ve refused to have housewife listed as my employment title before, too.
So give your employment title ffs!

Stay At Home Parent is surely the only right way of phrasing it these days. I could live with that. not if you’re not?

@Poptasmagorical

The term housewife is bullshit. I don’t care how proud you are to be a SAHM/D, you don’t have to accept the term housewife. You’re more than that. I’ve refused to have housewife listed as my employment title before, too. It’s not the 50s and I’m not chained to the sink.

Out of curiosity though, if you didn't have children, what would you prefer to have listed as your occupation?

@Musomama1

Ooh I agree with the OP! It's a term with outdated connotations. This is not the OPs problem but more an issue that the insurance company need to put right. Stay At Home Parent is surely the only right way of phrasing it these days. I could live with that.

NOT EVERYONE HAS CHILDREN

*I do the insurance for both our cars, including the one I’m a named driver on. Insurers don’t care!

They don't care whether they have a valid contract?*

I dont understand this.i fill in all the online forms for my own and DHs car insurance (I'm not even a named driver on his!) I input all the correct info, and set up a direct debit from his account....why would that not be valid?
If it was up to him he would stick with the same provider every year, and pay about £200 a year more because its quicker!