Lollypop lady doesn't like me

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I moved to the area 4 years ago. There are a few lollypop folk on the way to school but this one lives on my street and works just at the end of our road. I am quite friendly and when I moved here I spoke to the lollypop people but this one whenever I crossed the road never spoke to me and still hasn't 4 years later. I say thank you when I cross the road but she never says a word to me but she will talk to dc and she talks to other people a lot! She has always just watched me with beady eyes. There was a short time before lockdown she would give me a strained smile when I crossed the road but that's it. I feel awkward in a way when I pass because I never know if I should say thank you or just ignore her altogether because she is clearly being rude to me. 4 years crossing the road with her! 😂

Lol!

I want to know what area you are in to have a few of them on the way to school. Haven’t seen a lollipop lady or man round here for years. Wish they were still common, a great idea.

Her problem, not yours! Carry on as you are, be polite and rise above it.

You're an incomer.

I would take the moral high ground and kill her with kindness. Give her a big cheery smile and an enthusiastic ‘thank you’ every time you cross the road. Continue to do this even if she ignores you. Life’s too short!

We've got loads around us. Most are lovely, but one is utterly bizarre. She will literally throw herself into the path of oncoming cars. She's been knocked over once.

LOL, I'd be tempted to keep being friendly even more obviously so! We also have a bonkers lollypop lady around here, whenever someone crosses without their own DC (but when a group of other DC are crossing at the same time iyswim) she shouts at them that her services are for children only and next time walk the half a mile up the road to the pedestrian crossing. 😂

'The lollipop lady doesn't like me'

I don't know whether to roll my eyes or laugh!

Who cares? Ok, you care, but why? She is literally a woman doing her job.

Do you have a child with you?

I'd also give you a beady eye if not.

@Alexandernevermind haha 😂

This is hilarious op. I know it doesn’t help but imagining your awkward crossings under her beady glare is making me laugh. Can you avoid her and cross the road yourself in a different place maybe?

@EltonJohnsSunglasses we pass 7 going to school and there is another few nearby for other schools.

@PickAChew that made me laugh. I suppose it could be but there is a high turn over of people on the street so surely she is used to that. I dunno!

I used to have a bright blue car and the lolly pop man at the school before my children’s school always stopped me, every BLODDY time l passed. Until the summer of 2018 when l got a dark grey one and he hasn’t noticed. God l used to get so wound up by it.

I love this thread! When we had a lolly pop lady nearby, I'd try to walk past her with the dogs and she'd insist that we crossed even though I didn't want too we would have to cross back over further up the street to go on our normal daily walk, used to confuse the dogs so much 🤓

I’d be tossing up whether to do the ‘kill her with OTT cheeriness and questions’ or just come up with a different Silly Walk to cross with every day.

Maybe both.

Had a smile at BLODDY 🙂

@premiumshoes I think you are missing the point!
@littlehootie yes I always have dc with me.
@PinkyBrain I have to cross with her unless I want to look dangerous crossing the road because it is a big road and she is at the pedestrian crossing as well. Also because she is a neighbour on the street we pass by each other usually on opposite sides of the street. She stands at her gate and beadily watches me walk by or other times we just completely ignore each other on passing.

@Solongtoshort LOL

think you are missing the point!

I must be. Can you explain?

I really don't get it. She is a woman doing her job, you cross, you say thank you, that's all rather normal. Why do you think she doesn't like you? She doesn't know you? You are simply one of hundreds of parents crossing the road.

BrandyandBabysham..........see that’s how irate it still gets me, makes me misspell 🤦🏻‍♀️

YABU to call them lollypop folk.
They are school crossing patrollers.

I am amazed by the sheer numbers in the vicinity!

Have you asked her direct questions? Does she answer?

I’m with @premiumshoes. I can’t see why you’ve even noticed. It’s not as though she’s refusing to let you cross, or hitting you on the head with her STOP sign...?

There was a lolly pop lady at our old school whose mood was changeable like the wind.

You were either her most favourite person or treated like her worst enemy. It was so bloody tiring. Tuts and eyes rolls. Unnecessary comments on lack of coat ( my kids always are hot and rarely worn coats unless raining)

We always used to acknowledge her and thank her. Role modelling good manners to the children every time despite her rudeness. She would quite literally hear people say thanks and just look away. So unpredictable in her mood.

She was school dinner lady too.

Then on the first day back one year after summer break she was totally rude to everyone. Really took the shine off the children going back. I stopped acknowledging her after that. Luckily we moved a few weeks later.... she really was an exhausting woman!

@OntheWaves40 I have spoken to her once when a lollypop man stationed with her didn't turn up to work quite unexpectedly and I asked if he was OK and she said she didn't know because noone tells her anything! I then called the school office and they said the lollypop lady shouldn't have said that to me so I it's possible I could have actually got her in trouble without meaning to and who knows what she would be thinking of me if that was the case lol.
@premiumshoes because she is a neighbour on my street and I've been passing her for 4 years. She will either ignore me completely or stare at me yet she speaks to literally everyone else or will atleast smile at them as a normal person would.