Lollypop lady doesn't like me

[Namechange6005]

I moved to the area 4 years ago. There are a few lollypop folk on the way to school but this one lives on my street and works just at the end of our road. I am quite friendly and when I moved here I spoke to the lollypop people but this one whenever I crossed the road never spoke to me and still hasn't 4 years later. I say thank you when I cross the road but she never says a word to me but she will talk to dc and she talks to other people a lot! She has always just watched me with beady eyes. There was a short time before lockdown she would give me a strained smile when I crossed the road but that's it. I feel awkward in a way when I pass because I never know if I should say thank you or just ignore her altogether because she is clearly being rude to me. 4 years crossing the road with her! 😂

[Namechange6005]

I mean I called the office to ask if the other crossing guide was OK!

[premiumshoes]

because she is a neighbour on my street and I've been passing her for 4 years. She will either ignore me completely or stare at me yet she speaks to literally everyone else or will atleast smile at them as a normal person would.

I'm still 'missing the point'

Why do you need the lollipop lady to like you?

[Namechange6005]

I didn't say I need her to like me. I just think her behaviour is odd and it definitely comes across as her not liking me but I don't have a clue why she acting like that for 4 years🙄 it's not like I am sitting around thinking about it or worrying about crossing the road. It is literally just a random thing that I thought I'd share with MN

[TitsOutForHarambe]

Why did you call the school office and tell them what the lolly pop lady said? This is probably why she doesn't like you.

Keep saying thank you. It's a good example for your kids and I find it really annoys grumpy people when you keep being nice to them.

[premiumshoes]

I didn't say I need her to like me.

Your thread title is literally 'lollipop lady does not like me' followed by a great load of things the woman hasn't done, like make you a friend, since you have lived there. I'm sorry I assumed that meant you wanted her to. If it doesn't then I am even more clueless then before as to why you have posted about a random person you come across day to day not liking you.

[plinkplinkfizzer]

Do you maybe wonder if your child has been telling school crossing lady your secrets .

[Namechange6005]

Because its quite funny. Clearly not to you though lol

@TitsOutForHarambe I can't remember how she came in to the conversation with the school office as it was atleast a year or 2 a go.

[Girlzroolz]

Our lollipop lady is a strange one, too. She’s a bundle of nervy paranoia, and insists all cars for a km have fully stopped before blowing her whistle. Anyone daring to put a foot over the kerb pre-whistle gets a right dressing down.

We veteran school parents provide a service for new kids and parents by putting out an arm to stop them crossing early and incurring her wrath.

Last year I suggested it to a lad in his early 20’s who was crossing early (like a normal person). He shrugged, looked at me with pity, and kept going. She had such a go at him at the halfway mark that he jumped a foot in the air, then scuttled off red-faced down the street. He was 6ft something, and big. She is 60 something, 4ft nothing and built like a frail sparrow.

The kids think she’s marvellous, and all say thankyou profusely. She kind of waggles an impatient hand at them and says ‘Yes, yes. Move along’ in a cross voice. Most of the little kids have a skewed view of her power, and often draw her when asked what they’d like to be when they grow up!

I saw her ‘off duty’ once, at a shopping centre far from her post. She was dressed to the nines with sky-high red heels and full makeup. I nearly dropped with shock. I’d never have guessed her private life was so glamorous (and somehow she looked very vulnerable?). Note to self not to judge.

It is a right strange job though.

[Namechange6005]

@Girlzroolz that made me laugh!!

[SinisterBumFacedCat]

She fancies you.

[TeetotalKoala]

And this thread is the reason I love Mumsnet. You just never know what delightfully bonkers things you're going to read next.

[draughtycatflap]

All these lollipop folk belong to the lollipop guild I believe 🍭🍭🍭. You could report her for having beady eyes. It’s just not right.

[Celledora]

My DCs swimming teacher lives on my street. Doesn’t update his progress chart and is overly friendly to other parents whilst pointedly ignoring me when handing the kids over. Very weird and it does play on the mind!

[premiumshoes]

Because its quite funny. Clearly not to you though lol

Totally don't see the joke. My issue, not yours.

[Smallsteps88]

Do you need the lollipop lady to like you?

[Bereft2020]

Hang the fuck on.

You phoned the school to ask about the lollipop man and told them about the discussion you’d had with...yeah, you’re weirdly invested in the lollipop people.

[Bereft2020]

Also - is it not cricket to cross at the lollipop man without a child in tow?

[DaphneFanshaw]

@draughtycatflap

All these lollipop folk belong to the lollipop guild I believe 🍭🍭🍭. You could report her for having beady eyes. It’s just not right.

I would add the stained smile to the complaint.They get paid good money to positively beam.

[Quaagars]

I didn't say I need her to like me. I just think her behaviour is odd and it definitely comes across as her not liking me but I don't have a clue why she acting like that for 4 years

I think here's your problem

I have spoken to her once when a lollypop man stationed with her didn't turn up to work quite unexpectedly and I asked if he was OK and she said she didn't know because noone tells her anything! I then called the school office and they said the lollypop lady shouldn't have said that to me so I it's possible I could have actually got her in trouble

Why are you ringing up school to see what's the beef with the other lollipop person, as the other told you he was off and didn't know why

• that's um a bit..... over invested?!

Why would you care lol, your crossing was obviously still patrolled to have the conversation in the first place.
Bet she was a bit WTF

[Ghoste]

Look. Just start crossing, then, when you're in the middle of the road and all the cars have stopped, plant your feet down, smile and say, "hello, how are you?". Refuse to budge an inch until you get a civil answer. Do that every day and soon she'll make sure she greets you first so you don't hold up traffic.

[Damnloginpopup]

They're all beady eyed fuckers, why do you think yours is exceptional? It's a result of the intensive brainwashing videos they force them to watch at lollycamp when they go for six weeks basic and refresher training during the school holidays. They're like land dolphins in high vis anoraks.

[rottiemum88]

I mean I called the office to ask if the other crossing guide was OK!

OP, you seem to be bizarrely over invested in lollipop people

[Mintjulia]

I'd stop worrying about it. Brisk ''morning"as you cross, end of problem.

Sorted

[Onesailwait]

I'd rather have the stern lollipop lady, we get obnoxious little grade 5's who shout 'stay inside the lines'. Sometimes I walk on the line just to wind em up.

[lollipopwoman]

It pissed me right off when you called the school about Martin. I got a telling off.